Holding baby to much??

[PocoHR]

I hold my son all the time!! He sleeps in my arms and until very recently, he was always on me or my DH. Recently though he seems to enjoy laying down and looking at his toys on his own, or sitting in his swing while awake and being alone (for short periods of time). So, I'm trying to gauge his mood and let him do this when he seems up for it, just because it seems to be good for him in small doses. I would say hold your baby as much as you want and just watch for cues that say she might want to spend some time on her own!

 

[Twag]

I get these stupid comments but I cuddled and baby wearing my son and he is such a bright confident clever little boy and affectionate
I will do exactly the same with my daughter in fact she is fast asleep on me now as I type this 😍

 

[lewood88]

I would never tell some one how to parent there child and wouldn't want someone to tell me but I have experience a not so clingy baby to a really clingy baby, dd1 was barely held I'd feed her wind her then put her back in her crib and she was never a clingy baby or child, dd2 was held a lot and that was down to my mil being round everyday and constantly picking up dd2 and when I told her that she will become clingy she said its aloud of bollocks and that she wouldn't but she was clingy to the point I couldn't do anything other than hold her all day it was a nightmare, so with ds I do the same as I did with dd1 and he's a really happy content baby and I am able to do stuff without having to sit and hold him all day

 

[donnarobinson]

I would never tell some one how to parent there child and wouldn't want someone to tell me but I have experience a not so clingy baby to a really clingy baby, dd1 was barely held I'd feed her wind her then put her back in her crib and she was never a clingy baby or child, dd2 was held a lot and that was down to my mil being round everyday and constantly picking up dd2 and when I told her that she will become clingy she said its aloud of bollocks and that she wouldn't but she was clingy to the point I couldn't do anything other than hold her all day it was a nightmare, so with ds I do the same as I did with dd1 and he's a really happy content baby and I am able to do stuff without having to sit and hold him all day

I agree ds1 was constantly held because he was my first and I was between my nans where I lived and his dad's there was always someone wanting to hold him I literally never put him down he even slept with me til 1 I think
Ds2 I fed wind put down etc and don't get me wrong he had colic and reflux and was hard work in that sense but so independent self settled early great sleeper etc
So I try to do the same with Cruz he's great so content lies there awake only cries for a feed etc today he's been really unsettled and crying every time he goes down but think he's under the weather I have a house full of germs every one is ill lol
But defo everyone does what's Best for them but with two toddles I can't hold Cruz 24/7 so would rather he can happily sit and chill alone for short spells X

 

[stormcloud96]

https://kfor.com/2016/02/01/new-res...ur-baby-if-you-pick-it-up-each-time-it-cries/

There you go...

 

[pinkpassion]

AWWW Best study ever!!!! It just goes to show you mother's intuition knows best!!! When baby needs you they need you!! Soak up every minute of it!! It won't last long!!

 

[Calitwins]

I think that whatever works for you is what you should do! Have fun and enjoy her!

 

[_jellybean_]

NO You are not holding baby too much! Mine are 3 (in two days) and 4 and I miss those cuddles! Time goes by so fast so enjoy it! And don't listen to people who are saying you're holding lo too much. It's good for them to be held!

 

[noon_child]

Oh just look at all those clingy Orangutans, Chimpanzees and Gorillas in the wild. I mean they just can't function as independent adults cos their mothers held them all the time....wait what do you mean that doesn't happen with other primates!

I know we aren't the same as those mammals, but when our babies are young they are pretty damned close. When primate mums hold their baby it keeps them warm and safe and helps them develop attachment to their family group. As they get older learn all the skills they need to fend for themselves, plus all the nuanced social rules of primate society.

We think "I can put him down because he isn't going to get eaten by a tiger" but baby doesn't know that. A held baby feels safe, and if running to your mother when you feel threatened or fearful is "clingy" then so be it.

 

[winterbabies3]

Your so right noon!!

 

[Penguin20]

My health visitor told me that your babies don't fully understand control crying, routines, if your holding them to much till about 6 months she said some babies do figure it out earlier but mainly 6 months mark is when to bring all these things in.
I defiantly don't think at 3 weeks your little girl will notice to much

Just do what makes you happy not what anyone else's comments are

 

[Bevziibubble]

Oh just look at all those clingy Orangutans, Chimpanzees and Gorillas in the wild. I mean they just can't function as independent adults cos their mothers held them all the time....wait what do you mean that doesn't happen with other primates!

I know we aren't the same as those mammals, but when our babies are young they are pretty damned close. When primate mums hold their baby it keeps them warm and safe and helps them develop attachment to their family group. As they get older learn all the skills they need to fend for themselves, plus all the nuanced social rules of primate society.

We think "I can put him down because he isn't going to get eaten by a tiger" but baby doesn't know that. A held baby feels safe, and if running to your mother when you feel threatened or fearful is "clingy" then so be it.

Love this!