Earthylove
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wow i'm really sorry about this. I agree with the others who said there needs to be some kind of third party intervention like a doctor and/or counselor. A doctor to rule out any physical problems (if you go and get your physicals done, there is no reason why he can't too) and a counselor to address the relationship.
It's interesting that he says says there isn't a problem because this isn't a question of whether or not there is a problem. there is one because you're hurting. It is not up to him to determine if there is a problem or not. if left unchecked, pain and resentment can destroy a relationship and that's a problem. feeling pain and rejection is a problem.
I get what you mean about wanting to deny or reject him next time he initiates something you crave. I've tried that with my DH before and it sucks because it doesn't work and I'm the one who ends up hurting, not him! this only makes things worse. I really feel like counseling is the way to go here.
It's interesting that he says says there isn't a problem because this isn't a question of whether or not there is a problem. there is one because you're hurting. It is not up to him to determine if there is a problem or not. if left unchecked, pain and resentment can destroy a relationship and that's a problem. feeling pain and rejection is a problem.
I get what you mean about wanting to deny or reject him next time he initiates something you crave. I've tried that with my DH before and it sucks because it doesn't work and I'm the one who ends up hurting, not him! this only makes things worse. I really feel like counseling is the way to go here.