How did you ask?

[Angel_blues]

Well I started charting already, and I was suppose to start my pill last Friday... I didn't... Too late this month...

 

[Angel_blues]

So we don't argue over text message, actually the most revealing and healthy conversations we've had have been over text message. So while he's in the basement doing his man things I sent him this "Hunny, I'm not taking the pill anymore. A lot of women have notice better more stable mood, less mood swings, diminished pms, not to mention I've been on it for 12 years and I'm done with it. I AM NOT trying to get pregnant before we are ready. I have $3500 of debt still to pay off. If it does happen, and if you really feel we aren't ready, I am willing to do the procedure because I know you will be there for me. I will do a lot of the preventing it but you need to do your part too. If you do get horny during my fertile days I'll just give you head if you don't want to use condoms. There's a lot of spemicidal lubes too just not as effective. I don't want to argue about this please, I need you to trust me. Supper will be ready in 5minutes: steak kabobs, basmati rice and asparagus." Let's see how this goes...

 

[Nikkivergo]

Good luck!!!!

 

[Angel_blues]

Hasn't been acting weird or said anything yet...

 

[ArtIsLife]

Wow, you go girl!

 

[Angel_blues]

Whether or not we actually have sex in the next 4 months is to been seen lol!

 

[ArtIsLife]

LOL

 

[Ktktkate]

I would emphasize to him that if he doesn't want an "oops" that he's using condoms until you are absolutely certain of how your cycle works.

I did the same thing where I went off the pill before we were ready for a baby but my reason was my concern of irregular cycles. I knew I was irregular before I went on the pill and it took me 14 months to ovulate after coming off the pill. So we were really careful but there was also a lot less risk of an "oops" for us because I now only ovulate every 3 months or so.

On the other hand, we have some friends who did the same thing and 3 months off the pill she was pregnant!

I would definitely recommend going off the pill and understanding your own body. I'm very happy I did. But just be careful!

 

[Angel_blues]

I'm on day 12 and still no sign of O so I'm thinking it will take a while to regulate or even ovulate!

 

[Nikkivergo]

Yes, I agree condoms are definitely needed! You might also try OPK's .... I didn't get a positve until CD41 and I'm on CD48 now.

 

[Angel_blues]

Rather not waste money on them... He is stressed and tired due to work and I do not have a high sex drive... Often for us is once per week... Also I just came off 5 years of only having af every 12 weeks, I'm thinking my body is confused now lol

 

[Nikkivergo]

good point lol just be careful! Maybe you'll notice increase in sex drive soon since your off now

 

[TwilightAgain]

I was only on the pill for 4 weeks when OH and I first met and it didn't agree with me at all. I was bleeding all the time and was concerned what the long term impact of taking the pill would have on my body (and how long it would take for us to conceive when we wanted to). So we researched loads extensively about the withdrawal method and found that it looked like the best option for us (3 years later, it's still going strong!).

You're only 3 months away from trying to conceive so I can't see why he would be too concerned. Would it be a major disaster if charting did fail? If it's only for 3 months to put your mind at rest, i'd do the charting and withdrawal method (but do your research first!).

I told him that I wasn't willing to use any contraception which interfered with my system and neither of us are a fan of condoms so with that in mind we decided to look at alternative options.

 

[Angel_blues]

The main reason we are waiting is because we haven't gotten approval of a specialist. My job being so hard on the body and the toxins I inhale daily. We want to be sure we have a happy healthy baby free from disabilities and defects. If that means a career change, so be it! But an appointment with a specialist is what we are waiting for first

 

[Bumblebee2408]

I told my partner that I know people who've had cycles that go out of sync for a while after taking the contraceptive pill. I said if he wasn't happy to ntnp we could use condoms etc but that it could pit our ttc behind by me keeping taking it.

My other half was quite happy with this and in the end it took us 2 years and 4 months to conceive our little boy xx

 

[Angel_blues]

Wow, I'm hoping to ntnp end of Jan. Only charting right now because we're waiting and an oops could be a health hazard...

 

[MummyKP]

I came off the pill roughly two years ago because I didn't want to be on it for logger than 5 years. We have since used condoms, and are NTNP Jan/Feb 2015! He was absolutely fine about me coming off the pill, he knew from the start of our relationship when I was coming off it, and didn't have any issues and was happy to take the responsibility of using condoms. They've worked well for us, never had an 'oops' moment. Fingers crossed for next year

 

[Bumblebee2408]

I personally didn't get on with charting. However I know loooaadds of people it's worked for. Do what feels right for you two, we're glad we didn't leave it too long now xxx