So we don't argue over text message, actually the most revealing and healthy conversations we've had have been over text message. So while he's in the basement doing his man things I sent him this "Hunny, I'm not taking the pill anymore. A lot of women have notice better more stable mood, less mood swings, diminished pms, not to mention I've been on it for 12 years and I'm done with it. I AM NOT trying to get pregnant before we are ready. I have $3500 of debt still to pay off. If it does happen, and if you really feel we aren't ready, I am willing to do the procedure because I know you will be there for me. I will do a lot of the preventing it but you need to do your part too. If you do get horny during my fertile days I'll just give you head if you don't want to use condoms. There's a lot of spemicidal lubes too just not as effective. I don't want to argue about this please, I need you to trust me. Supper will be ready in 5minutes: steak kabobs, basmati rice and asparagus." Let's see how this goes...