How did you ask?

[Angel_blues]

How did you ask/ tell your OH that you wanted off the pill and chart instead... He is the type to over react so I need a way to ease him into the idea... I could just do it, but I don't want him to feel miss lead...

 

[CMarie]

Personally, I wouldn't go off your pill without talking to your OH first. I think he might see that as you being a bit deceptive. Maybe wait until after the holidays? This time of year is really stressful for most people, but come January when things calm down a bit more he may be more open to discussing it

 

[Angel_blues]

Normally I would agree about the holidays, but this year we just aren't doing anything with either family. It's just the two of us. And we aren't doing gifts either so it's just a mini vacation ( a very cold mini vacation lol)

 

[Autumn leaves]

I basically said would he mind using other methods before ttc to let my cycles regulate! And he was fine about it!

 

[Kitteh_Kat]

My prescription ran out, so I just asked if he could do condoms for a bit since we were thinking about starting to try for the next one. He wasn't happy with the condoms, but I told him I had been ingesting hormones for years, so it was his turn to step up. He's about to leave for another 6+ month assignment, so there is really no point on going back on the pill right now anyway. And if we decide to go ahead when he gets back, then I'm already off the pill and good to go.

Just explain to him how the pill affects a woman's body, and you want to get to know your cycle before you start trying.

 

[MummyKP]

I always said I was going to come off after 5 years on the pill so he knew that from the start. He didn't mind because I was straight from the start

 

[Angel_blues]

Hmmmm we have just under 4 months to go .. I'll try to explain all the hormones and stats and see what he says

 

[ArtIsLife]

I'm sorta in the same boat, we plan on TTC in late spring but I would like to chart now, I know if I'm taking my temp right away in the morning be is going to be confused so when I tell him I want to know when I'm ovulation I think he will get nervous because he wants to wait for financial reasons, I just don't think he will understand that I'm not trying to get pregnant NOW I'm just figuring out when I'm ovulation for LATER...i dont wanna freak him out lol.

 

[Earthylove]

Yeah i remember having that conversation with my OH and he was really freaked out at first. lol. We had a long talk about it and I had to emphasize to him that this is not a ploy to get pregnant sooner. once he realized i was committed to sticking to the plan of waiting, he felt better and was able to hear me out as to what all this charting and temping is all about. the book, "taking charge of your fertility" definitely helped with explaining!

 

[ArtIsLife]

Angel_blues I am going to just tell him I want to learn when I'm ovulation just for my own knowledge, TTC or not. Maybe you can do the same?

 

[aidensxmomma]

Maybe try explaining to your OH that you aren't trying to get pregnant and that you just want the hormones out of your body and you want to know your cycles before TTC. You could get some information on how effective it can be at preventing pregnancy and show it to him, so he knows that your not just trying to trick him or anything.

 

[Angel_blues]

We MUST wait, I still have yet to get a call from a specialist for an appointment and we were told we are not allowed to try yet. Trying before we know it's safe could lead to a long string of mc... I know we need to wait and I'm ok with that, but I want to be able to conceive as quickly as my body will let me when we are ready... I ordered the book what to expect before expecting and very plainly left it on the coffee table booke marked in the charting section. I am bringing it up tomorrow (Friday) after supper...

(there was a brief conversation about how informative the book is lol)

 

[aidensxmomma]

Taking Charge of Your Fertility is also a fantastic book and has a whole section dedicated to charting to avoid pregnancy. Definitely worth looking into.

 

[ArtIsLife]

We MUST wait, I still have yet to get a call from a specialist for an appointment and we were told we are not allowed to try yet. Trying before we know it's safe could lead to a long string of mc... I know we need to wait and I'm ok with that, but I want to be able to conceive as quickly as my body will let me when we are ready... I ordered the book what to expect before expecting and very plainly left it on the coffee table booke marked in the charting section. I am bringing it up tomorrow (Friday) after supper...

(there was a brief conversation about how informative the book is lol)

I'm half way through that book right now! I like it.

 

[sherwood]

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[babydustcass]

I've been umming and arring over the idea for a while now, ever since i hit the 2 year itch. At first my husband wasn't so keen on the idea to have another because to be fair, we have it pretty good with the two we have and both are at ages where they are starting to get their own little lives. It hasn't been the right time, to talk seriously about it, until recently. The other day we spend black Friday mulling around the stores and spent an exceptional amount of time in mothercare, surrounded by newborn babies, pregnant people and that night we set a time frame together as we have holidays booked next year and one of them being lapland i really dont want to miss meeting father christmas so as soon as were back were hoping to start trying for number 3. We are still a little dubious of what baby number 3 will bring, and of course have all the natural worries but we have over a year to talk them all out before we even start to try so i figure we will be all smoothed out by then

 

[Nikkivergo]

I just told my fiance I wasn't taking bcp anymore! Its the best decision I've made about Contraceptives yet! I no longer have headaches every morning, my mood is infinitely better, I'm getting regular arousal fluid, my sex drive is back - the best yet!!! I just explained that I'm using the fertility awareness method called symptothermal and we will need to grab some condoms. At first he was skeptical so I tried to explain the best I could. We still have to have conversations about it and I show him my chart to try and get him on the same page. Just be very open with him and be sure to have some Condoms around in case he feels any uncertainty! This is your body, you have the right to choose whatever method you want good luck

 

[Angel_blues]

That did NOT go well. I think he thinks I am trying to make an oops. I'm tabling the conversation for a week and trying again. I asked him to look into it, so I've left myself an opening to ask about what's he's found. Hoping for the best now...

 

[ArtIsLife]

Oh no, that sucks. I get his concern, because men really want to be ready, but at the same time he should trust you.

 

[Nikkivergo]

Im sorry it didn't go well the first time. It didn't for me either at first but I still did it anyway and asked him to read up too and just trust me! I think he will come around to it but it may take a few follow up convos on your part. Me, I just did it anyway and showed him my chart as it started to form. He didn't look into anything himself so I had to take screenshots of the most important things he should know. I hope the next talk goes well!