how do i tell my dad???

[Roxie]

hi everyone!
first time ive wrote on this site

but i need some advice

i am 16 weeks pregnant on wednesday and i still havent told my dad as i dont see him or speak to him. we do get along, its just since i moved out of his last year we havent seen each over much, and he lives too far away from me, so i cant just get a bus over to his. and i know i have left it rather late to be telling him that im pregnant.


i know it really bad to tell him by text, but i get confused on the phone and i will get nervous and not know how to say it. but is email anybetter than text?
i feel so awfull about not telling him yet i just dont know how


my mum and step dad already know that i am pregnant
im almost 17



help please!!

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

im 16 + pregnant so have been in a similar situation but i think it is best you go an see your dad to speak to him but then again what ever you feel will be better for you, just think of how your dad will feel if your send him a email or text, would he prefer you to speak to him face-to-face? xx

 

[Roxie]

he lives about 20 miles away so i hard for me to get to him
and i want to tell him by himself, but my step mum is always there

my boyfreind keeps hassling me to tell my dad,

i know i have to and i want to but i just freeze up

i think im just making excuses not to tell him




XXX

 

[Mrs-N]

you may be ok sending him an email if it looks like your sending it out to everyone.

like a pregnancy announcement.

im 21, i text my dad to tell him i was pregnant just for the fact that he not one for talking face to face.

do what you think is best babe.

good luck

 

[Becki77]

Im 25 and still sent my dad a text! I hardly see him either. He phoned me straight away to say congratulations.......i was very shocked!!!! he never normally says anything positive!
Its abit of a cop out to text but sooo much easier!
Good luck and dont worry, your old enough to make your own decision! xx

 

[lauraperrysan]

You could ask him to meet you near where you live...providing he drives and has a car or transport?! At least then you have given him the option to come up for a chat, (without your step mum there if thats what you want) if not then try to tell him on the phone, or phone him to say you have some news but your going to email him as you dont know how to say it.....
Hope it goes ok, keep us posted
Good luck hun xxx

 

[Ratty]

I think email is better than a text as its easier to say more and maybe then you can also apologise for not telling him face to face and let him know your reasons i.e problems with transport and also explain they you freeze up on the phone. I'm sure he will understand that its not easy for you. The sooner you tell him the better, otherwise he might feel hurt that you have taken so long to tell him.

Good luck and congrats!

 

[nikky0907]

Why don't you ask him to go to lunch somewhere with you or meet up for a drink.Tell him that there's something you need to tell him so he's prepared and then tell him in person..

I also didn't want to tell my parents over the phone...so I actually drove to another state(i'm in US) to tell them...

 

[cupcake]

you can always explain to your dad if you have to do it in an email or text your reasons for doing it this way. you could say dad im so sorry to tell you this way but i wanted to tell you privately and its very hard for me to travel out to you. i hope that you are not hurt thats its taken me so long and please know that i have wanted to tell you but it has not been easy for me.

 

[louisaL]

It makes me sad when i see woman afraid to tell their parents. i always say that if my daughter (if i have one) ever falls preg at whatever age that she can feel comfortable to tell me.

his got to be told at some point remember so its best to get it done and over with

 

[AppleBlossom]

Maybe send him a good old fashioned letter or maybe an email? I had to tell my dad to his face =/ x

 

[leeanne]

The one bad thing about emails or text messages, is often people on the other end can interpret them wrong. However, some people are more open when it comes to writing. I know I can write a letter a whole bunch better than I can verbally say things, especially when I am scared or hurt.

You do what you feel is right.

 

[Serene123]

My brother told my dad.. LOL

 

[polo_princess]

I dont think you should text or email ... people deserve to hear things directly in my experience.

I dont see my dad that often and when i rang to tell him it went a little like this

"dad ive got something to tell you"
"i know what your gona say"
"so say it then"
"no you say it"
"im pregnant"

 

[Roxie]

i told my dad on the phone this morning
i was really nervous
i thourght hew was going to be really annoyed
but it went really well
he was really happy
and it will be his first grandchild

and he is already planning on taking some time off work so that he can come over and see me, my bump and boyfreind

and he says he will give me all the support i need, and he says he is going to steal everyones old baby things for me lol, as loads of people he know has had babies not that long ago




thank you to everyone who responded to my thread

without everyones reasurrence i really dont think i would have been able to tell him




XXX

 

[AppleBlossom]

aww really glad for ya =] x

 

[lauraperrysan]

Well done hun....all over with now. It's lovely he can now be excited with you for your new arrival. Hugs xx

 

[mBLACK]

im 16 + pregnant so have been in a similar situation but i think it is best you go an see your dad to speak to him but then again what ever you feel will be better for you, just think of how your dad will feel if your send him a email or text, would he prefer you to speak to him face-to-face? xx

Well said! If somebody prefers one way over another you should respect their preferences. Good job telling your father, see sometimes it isn't as difficult as it seems! Like I'm one to talk, I got my grandma to tell my dad.

 

[Becki77]

Well done u! Im pleased he took it well, congrats! you can stop worrying now and enjoy your pregnancy! xx

 

[xarlenex]

I was terrified about telling my dad too! Glad it went well though x