How do I tell my mom to butt out???

[kelliemssw]

There's a law here in Michigan named Kevins Law which forces MH tx. "Kevin’s Law allows a judge to order outpatient treatment for someone with an untreated severe mental illness who meets specific criteria, including a recent history of hospitalizations or behavior dangerous to themselves or others. Forty-two states have provisions allowing the use of this powerful treatment mechanism, known as assisted outpatient treatment"

Okay...did you move out yet? and did you buy the boundaries book? Just checking in. I'm a therapist BTW.

 

[TattooedMama]

I remember when you posted about her fit with not being allowed in the delivery room

So I'm trying to understand; if you don't have a good relationship and you can't stand the woman half the time then does it really matter to you if her feelings are hurt because she is being over-dramatic?? I'm about to be 23 and I would not ever stand for that from either of my parents, they have no right to treat you like that. This is your body and your baby and you are entitled to your privacy and whatever the hell else you want!!!

IMO your dad needs to stop enabling your mom's behavior, at least when it comes to you. Tell him that when you make a decision that it is not ok for him to call you and ask you to change your mind because your mom doesn't like it. I would not change anything to make her happy, nor would I make polite excuses about it anymore at this point. I would just tell her this is not about her or what she wants and if she can't stop being so overbearing then she can be assured she won;t have anything to do with the pregnancy and you will send her a birth announcemnet when the baby is born!!!

This is about you, your baby and your family now; you are starting your very own family. You have more important things to worry about or deal with besides your dillusional pushy mom. I don't know how the hell you stay so nice, I would flip if someone tried to walk all over me like that. I apologize if I'm being harsh but you really do have to draw the line somewhere otherwise where does it end? It will only get worse once the baby is born and harder to get her to backoff then. You can't live your life trying to dodge your mom or please her, especially if she drives you nuts!!!