How do people look at you.................

[shanti01]

..........................on the street?

I am 23 years old, but look a bit young for my age. Everytime I go to shopping centres or somewhere in the public people will look at my face and then my bump and then nodd. Why??? Really, no need to be so rude and that is even when OH is with me.

Do they do that with you as well and make comments to you as well? It is quite anoying........................

 

[Carly2310]

I know the feeling!!
I'm 23 also and do look younger in my face I get funny looks all the time especially if I have my little boys with me. I mean I was 18 when I had my first so I expected it then, I'm married to the father of all three babies, I work and have a house now lol!
When I had my second we took him to visit his great-nan who was in sheltered accomodation and the other women were talking about me really loudly saying 'she's only about 16 and has two kids now, it's awful' I was nearly 21 and married lol!
I just tend to nod back now I think that I know I'm 23 and I know I've done a good job with the first two and will do with this one too.
Don't let them get you down, it's hard when you know you're being unfairly judged but keep your chin up! You know you're ready for your baby and you know you're older than they probably think you are!!
Hope everything goes well for you! Good luck with baby!! x

 

[holliexa]

omg! i was saying the same thing to my mum the other day. she said i am being stupid but noooo. people seem to STARE at me as if seeing a young pregnant girl is not acceptable. pensioners expecially. i am also 23 btw! x

 

[lissaw]

Can't say I notice that, I don't really notice what people think of me anyway. But I'm 27 and look it.

 

[prayingforkid]

lol I am 20, but I look a little older. People tell me I look 25-26. None the less, I get dirty looks here and there from women especially. Makes me want to punch them in the face. Next time, I will ask what the fuck are they looking at, I swear! I hate rude idiots.

 

[holliexa]

if anyone ever made any kind of rude comment to me or tried to judge me i wouldnt be shy in telling them exactly what i think!!!! just makes you feel conscious, thinking what they staring at me for, aint they ever seen a pregs woman before!? i have a job, own my home and have a steady relationship with the babys dad so they can think what they want! x

 

[MommyJaan]

I am 24 years old BUT I look 30!

 

[kate1984]

im 27 and get it too, i have a 12 month old son and took him with me to the chemist the other day to get some pregnacare tablets... The cashier looked at me with disgust and sighed "oh how are you going to cope with 2 babies so close together at your age???"

I just laughed and said "probably the same as all the other 27 year olds and my husband will help me too" i would take it as a compliment that you will age well! xxxx

 

[cinnamum]

i get told, regularly... ''wow! you've got ya hands full''. i just smile and say... ''yeah''. lol

 

[bubbles19]

I get dirty looks all the time, im just shy of 20, so i am young! i can see why people look at me like that, but what they dont know is i work part time and i run an explanding buisness from home, i also have been with my OH for years he is 25 and is in a very well paid job...i can see why people look at me expecting me to live on the doll, and housing benefits but thats not me, they dont know my case so i just feel sorry for them having such narrow minds. and i love shoving the "well actually doctors told me i'd need help having babies since i havent had a period since i was 13" line in those peoples faces who are rude enough to say something to me. people r very rude and unfortunatly i've learnt it comes with the job of being a young mum.

 

[Star7890]

I havent noticed yet because my bump is still hideable but im 21... do you not think they are looking just because you are pregnant? I know that before I was pregnant (and even now) when I see a big bump or pregnant woman I cant stop looking but its because Im in awe! I wouldnt let it worry you I know I wont care if it happens to me Ill just push my big belly out further!! xx

 

[gemini xo]

I get it too! I'm 21 and pregnant with no 2 , some people are very rude and judge before knowing.

 

[jess77]

im 23 and I get funny looks at work as my hair is tied back and no make up on!. Im 23 weeks preggo, and people have said to me I look 18!!!!. Im like nooo im 23 and married been married for 2 years! lol

 

[MummytoSummer]

I get the same sorts of looks. I'm 29 though but look younger. Some of the looks or comments I get when I'm out with my daughter and my now very clear bump are awful. I was stood in a shopping que and the two women behind me were clearly talking about me going on about how these 'young girls' end up with more kids than they can handle and the fathers are nowhere to be seen! Um hello, just because I'm out shopping alone doesn't mean I am alone, and if I wanted to do it alone then I know I'm strong enough and independent enough to be able to.

Honestly I really don't know how some of these people have the cheek to say the things they do. I would never judge someone based purely on what I see. Things are often very deceptive and usually never what they seem.

I just hold my head up high because I know what a great mum I am, I'm married, own 2 houses and both my husband and I have very good jobs and pay our own way.

Like someone else said, take it as a compliment that you will age well! I know ignoring those idiots is easier said than done though!

X

 

[xxEMZxx]

It's quite funny really, seeing as the old people that seem to give young girls funny looks grew up in a generation when most gave birth in their early 20's!!!

I was once on the bus with my friend and her baby (I didn't have my son with me at the time) and two old women were gossiping about her saying 'oh I bet she doesn't have a job, benefit scrounger etc...) Funny thing is SHE DOES have a job. I don't really seem to get dodgy looks, well I don't think I do (I'm prob just oblivious to it). Just ignore it.

 

[Gretaa]

sorry to hear that. I'm 21 and have a visible pregnancy bump already being 25 weeks pregnant. People will look and smile, but never had a negative comment on my bump. Maybe because i do look a bit older than my age

 

[mothertob]

I get the same sorts of looks. I'm 29 though but look younger. Some of the looks or comments I get when I'm out with my daughter and my now very clear bump are awful. I was stood in a shopping que and the two women behind me were clearly talking about me going on about how these 'young girls' end up with more kids than they can handle and the fathers are nowhere to be seen! Um hello, just because I'm out shopping alone doesn't mean I am alone, and if I wanted to do it alone then I know I'm strong enough and independent enough to be able to.

Honestly I really don't know how some of these people have the cheek to say the things they do. I would never judge someone based purely on what I see. Things are often very deceptive and usually never what they seem.

I just hold my head up high because I know what a great mum I am, I'm married, own 2 houses and both my husband and I have very good jobs and pay our own way.

Like someone else said, take it as a compliment that you will age well! I know ignoring those idiots is easier said than done though!

X

you should have turned around and told them youre married, work and have 2 houses. that would've shut them up and probably made them feel like asses! LOL

 

[mothertob]

im 23 and I get funny looks at work as my hair is tied back and no make up on!. Im 23 weeks preggo, and people have said to me I look 18!!!!. Im like nooo im 23 and married been married for 2 years! lol

hey me too, except im 26 years old sometimes I get asked what grade im in!
But hey, when we are old we will still look great!

 

[jess77]

But hey, when we are old we will still look great!

I hope so too!!!

 

[AllieCat]

..........................on the street?

I am 23 years old, but look a bit young for my age. Everytime I go to shopping centres or somewhere in the public people will look at my face and then my bump and then nodd. Why??? Really, no need to be so rude and that is even when OH is with me.

Do they do that with you as well and make comments to you as well? It is quite anoying........................

I feel the stares too. However i am 24 and when i go out i am with my fiance 90% of the time. I think the stares come from the fact that we are obviously poor. At the grocery store i was in the checkout line of a pregnant girl and we had to use our WIC and EBT card.. she kept giving us this look of disapporval. She wasnt the first person either! The only reason it really bugs me is because i know they all think my baby was a mistake, or that me and my fiance are nothing serious (i dont blame them i see that a lot, especially in my dr office) However we are just poor and working as hard as we can. And this baby is totally on purpose, wanted by both of us and loved by the whole family. My fiance works two jobs because he dosnt want me working until the baby is here and old enough for me to get a part time job. My MIL has told me if everyone waited until they could afford kids we would die out. I hate the glares though, sometimes i just want to say "do you have a problem with the lower class?".