How in the world can I make this idea work?

[aidensxmomma]

So I have my 20 week ultrasound on August 8th. My mom wants to know the gender so she can get baby clothes and everything and refuses to buy gender neutral clothes. I'm not really complaining, because who's going to turn down free baby clothes? However it puts us in a predicament. My OH doesn't want to know. I want to find out because I know my mom's best friend (who we see all the time) won't be able to keep her mouth closed and will probably let it slip. I explained all of this to my OH and he agreed to find out at the ultrasound. However, the other day he asked me if it would work if just he didn't know.

So, if he doesn't want to know, how can I make sure that I don't let it slip and how can I make sure that no one else does either? Is this even possible?

 

[Shanelley]

Hmm i see the issue but dont think that keeping the gender secret from just him would work. As obviously he would figure it out from the colour of the items your mum and u etc are buying? Unless u didnt let him see that either.
but i can imagine it would be very hard to keep it a secret coz once u know u start calling bump a her or him etc

 

[xSarahM]

Before didnt you say you found out with Aiden cause he was your first, and then again with Mady because you wanted a girl after having a boy? So this time you didnt particularly want to know?

Why not just get it written in an envilope, and only give it to your mum if she promises not to tell her loud mouth friend?

 

[aidensxmomma]

Before didnt you say you found out with Aiden cause he was your first, and then again with Mady because you wanted a girl after having a boy? So this time you didnt particularly want to know?

Why not just get it written in an envilope, and only give it to your mum if she promises not to tell her loud mouth friend?

Exactly this.

My mom refuses to not tell her friend. I know it's not to be cruel or anything, but it's still the way it's going to go. And I know her friend better than to think that she would be content not knowing. It's just a frustrating situation. It pretty much boils down to I have to know (and possibly my OH) or no one knows. That's why I've been having such a problem deciding what the best thing to do is.

 

[xSarahM]

But its your baby, either tell your mum that the only way she can know is to ensure her friend doesnt know, or she can wait like everyone else. Or you make sure her friend will not tell anyone who is likely to let it slip to your OH?