How long does it REALLY take to TTC - the truth, let's hear it

[sugarplumm]

My friend took 12 months, my other friend took 1 month and we are on our 7th month..

Thanks for sharing, how did your 12 month friend cope and kept her spirits high?

 

[mom22boys]

I'm not sure if I have posted here before but anyway both of my boys took 1 month. My second we missed OV the first month so I guess he took a month and a half.

 

[mummyk2b]

we conceived on month one of ntnp but unfortunately, had mmc at 10 weeks. we only dtd twice so were really lucky!

we are just waiting for af to come and go and will try again... we're hoping we are lucky again and that next time we have a sticky one!x

 

[Bumpontherun]

With No.1 I came off the pill and was pregnant about 6 weeks later. I was really surprised as I had stopped taking the pill once when I was in my early 20's and my period took 9 months to come back. I came off the mini pill at the end of July and got my BFP on New Years Eve this time, so 5 months but I was still breastfeeding all this time. We always just DTD a lot, I was thinking about monitoring my temp 2nd time but got my BFP before I'd got round to it.

My friend took 12 months, that was with charting, she was just about to take a break as she had quit her job when she got her BFP!

One of my work colleagues took 2 years of quite serious trying but is now 34 weeks, she said they didn't change anything it just eventually happened.

I hope all you ladies who've been trying for so long get your BFP's soon

 

[elizabethd]

5 Years and still trying just hope i havent gotta wait another 5

 

[Damita]

My friend took 12 months, my other friend took 1 month and we are on our 7th month..

Thanks for sharing, how did your 12 month friend cope and kept her spirits high?

Erm she wasn't temping or anything, but she did get pregnant 5 months in but miscarried it was a chemical and then she decided to give up and go back on the pill, the same month she got pregnant so probably not stress which is the hardest thing to do..

 

[sugarplumm]

It took us 6 month and we did 6 months of OPKs and just 1 month of charting (the one where we got our BFP !

 

[Bookworm]

Really like this thread!
I read these stats early in our TTC adventure and I called them my happy stats because they gave me so much hope that every month of failure bought me statistically more chance of the next month being successful. And the stats are right, but unfortunately DH & I just fall into the unlucky minority for whom TTC is a little bit more difficult and takes longer.
When we passed out of the range stated in the stats I got very down and a bit desperate about it all. It's why I came on this site, and I'm sure lots of members are the same.

So for people out there starting out TTC and reading threads and posts about months and even years of trying, don't freak! Your chances are great, it's just that membership of this forum may be slightly skewed towards those of us who are here for some extra support. Believe the stats, most couples will fall into them.

For the rest of us, it's tough but we're always getting closer to the goal. Every month when you miss the BFP you are a month closer to it. And we are so lucky to be trying at a time when there are so many aids and options open to us. People have more stressful lives & start trying later, there are so many reasons for falling outside of the stats. But even for those of us who are finding it a little difficult the vast majority of us will get our beanies

 

[Guppy051708]

I voted for 6 months but it took us a lot shorter than that!
We got pregnant our first cycle off BCPs, unfortunately we MCed.
We got pregnant again during our first cycle TTC after the MC (once we started, we used protection the first month after the MC- didn't want to risk anything).

My sisters fell preganant quickly (accidentally) with their first, but when they TTC #2 it took one about 4 months and the other has been TTC for the last 2 years (even though both had oppsies)

 

[KatieL]

TTC baby 1 for 22 months. Husband and I both 33. All fertility tests say we are both ok. How can it take so long? I have a CBFM, use OPKs, limited caffeine, limited alcohol... it's so frustrating.

My 4 closest friends have all fallen pregnant within 3 months. 2 of them now have 2 babies and another just fell pregnant again first month of trying!! TTC has taken over my life!

 

[elliep]

We are in month 2 of trying for our first.
Its a bit scary seeing how long it will take

 

[Pudden]

We are in month 2 of TTC. 3 months of NTNP (at wrong times!) and 2 months where OH was ill so didnt try.
Hoping it wont take long, and trying not to think about the worst case scenario.
Cant help feeling the odd one out, and everyone i know from school/college have all had babies.

 

[xpensivtaste]

hi, i am 24 years old.
i conceived my son who passed away shortly after being born by accident, it was a one night stand and i was due on the next day, as i never came on i knew i was pregnant but when i think back now that must have been close to impossible but clearly it wasnt, i must have ovulated late although i had no idea about that back then.

i then conceived my daughter the following year on a one off chance, my then boyfriend lived 30 miles away and i only saw him every few weeks, that was the only time i had sex that month and again i knew from the moment of conception i was pregnant, after she was born i had the implant which was removed in dec 2010.

that brings me to now - 9 years later. been trying for 3 cycles, bd'd atleast every day of every cycle minus a few for af and extra tiredness (me and fiance have high sex drives anyway) monitored cm, cp....tried using okp's - they dont like me, changed diet, stopped smoking and still nothing. very early days i know but its crazy expecting it to happen straight away, wish i didnt research into it and just let it happen naturally cos the stress of it makes it so much harder. maybe if fiance and i were to have a one night stand lol....i know the majority of you gals have been trying a hell of a lot longer so i am not meaning to complain about trying for such a short time, but yeah, its not as easy as i first thought

 

[Samstah33]

This is our first month TTC #1
Never been on birth control but i feel like this is going to be a long journey for me! TTC has got to be the most stressful thing I have ever done!! But the outcome will be so worth it!!



is it normal to feel frustrated after the first month?!