How many children do you realistically want?

[Pearls18]

Just curious really! Assuming all was to go well biologically (or if you're hoping to adopt of course), how many do you hope to have in reality, not just in dream world (but feel free to add what you would like to have if money was no object for example etc in your post )

I won't put "0" as I am assuming on BnB we are all hoping to have one at least...I assume that isn't presumptuous?

(Added a random one at the end for the anomalies, like if you don't know or something, I don't really know yet......!!)

 

[Yo_Yo]

We want 4 or 5. So after this baby is born, perhaps 2 more Love the idea of a noisy busy house, and I love it.
We have a 7 seater car so don't want more than 5 unless we buy a minibus

 

[CRWx]

I'd like two, but I haven't been able to carry one to term yet, so... The one will see me ecstatic.

But two or maybe more in an ideal situation.

xxx

 

[Abigailly]

Ideally, I'd like 5. However my oldest is 5 and my husband is 35 so we don't know how many we'll have. Just now though, I'd just be happy to be blessed with another one.

 

[dgirllamius]

I always wanted two, but now I think I'm happy with the one. I think what's making me think that way is that we wouldn't be able to afford another.

If money was no object then definitely two.

 

[lilyd]

Two. If I'd met DH at a younger age, I probably would have had 4.

 

[mum22ttc#3]

I always wanted 4 and now have 4.
If money was no object though I might be tempted to go for 6, as it's not we will be sticking with the 4 that we have.

 

[TwilightAgain]

I've always said two, but lately i've been thinking three depending on the genders. Ideally i'd like one of each, if we had that after two i'd consider stopping but I think we'd try once more if not. Having said that, I haven't had any yet so who knows, the first could send me running for the hills

 

[Becky61]

I would like 3. Im one of 3, & other half is one of 3. We both have one child each from previous relationships. I have a son, & he has a daughter. In my ideal world we would have 1 of each together but im not fussed.

 

[Wriggley]

I've always said I want 3 and me and OH plan to have a third in the future however the thought terrifies me atm because my second sons birth in no way went to plan and both my son's pregnancies with high risk and complicated

I really hope that in the near future my mind set will change and ill be ready to have our third as il feel complete after one more

 

[emyandpotato]

Two, and with a very large age gap! Can't afford anymore and can't afford another at the moment. I *might* have more than one more but it depends on finances and how we both felt at the time. Childcare is the main issue.

 

[Snow Owl]

I've always said 2 and we're about 99% sure this still sticks.

But I guess we'll see how we feel in a few years! We we're going to get OH snipped straight after popcorn turns up but we've decided not to yet.

I think for us going from 2 to 3 would be a big deal. Childcare is already going to be tricky, but it means the kids wouldn't have their own rooms (without moving) we'd potentially need to look at a bigger second car (OHs is a 7 seater and can take 5 car seats but mine can only take 2, lol).

I was one of three and loved it tho, so who knows!!

 

[babyv13]

we will hopefully have two but if money was no object and i was prepared to live outside the city/sacrifice holidays/get a big car then i would love to have 3

i'd like to have my second in 4-6 years and if i was having a third maybe have him/her 3 or 4 years after that. in my fantasy i would have 2 girls and a boy.

 

[RaspberryK]

Ideally 4 but I suppose I'd have to settle for 2 if it came to it.
Xx

 

[Bittersweet]

Iv always wanted 3, obviously I realise that's a really really difficult goal but would be nice. Oh just wants 2 but 3 is my number

 

[supertabby]

Before our eldest was born we wanted 3 (assuming we could fit it in, I was 33 when first pregnant). But then I got HELLP syndrome at her birth and was put off having ANY more for a long time. Not only was it a traumatic experience but I was high risk for getting it again and it carries a 1% maternal mortality rate which is a huge number when you're talking chances of dying. Also while HELLP babies born at term like our daughter are usually healthy snd unaffected, early onset HELLP means a premature baby. I was so afraid of losing a baby or dying and leaving my hubby and daughter without a wife and mother. After a while I eventually came around to the idea of ttc again after careful thought and consultation with specialists. Fortunately this time around I did not get HELLP but we have 2 beautiful children and I just don't want to push my luck. HELLP left me with an irregular heartbeat that I'll possibly always have, but I know of women who have been left even worse off health wise. Sometimes your ideal changes along the way but that doesn't need to be a bad thing - I'm actually glad we'll never be outnumbered lol!

 

[Reidfidleir]

Wow that's scary super tabby!

I've always liked the number 4 for children. It helps that I saw a beautiful family of four grow up (girl boy girl girl) and they were awesome kids and have grown up to be pretty great teens and early 20s. Hey always seemed like they had a lot of fun.
One is not an option as my hubby and I grew up onlies.
And two just seems.... So lonely. Particularly if one of each.
Practically well likely end up with 3. 4 is my limit. But I do like that number

 

[kaylacrouch93]

4 is our number lol we have 2 boys( well one on the way) and once they are in school looking to try for our other two that way we have plenty of time to get things going with buying a house/bigger cars

 

[bdb84]

For ages DH and I felt complete at two, but now we know we are missing one

 

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Three