DoubleLines
Mom of 1 - expecting #2
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Im a FTM and to be completely honest, (while incredibly thankful) Im feeling a bit overwhelmed at how many people are saying they are coming to our house to help/stay over/be with the baby after we come home from the hospital. Right now my Mom is planning to come stay for about a week post-delivery. My sister, and my in-laws (MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL) live nearby and want to stop by daily and are already saying things like they will take my baby off my hands for an hour or two (umm, no). Friends and extended family are asking when they can come to visit.
I know I cant fathom how much help we will really need so Im hoping to get some suggestions from people on what they have done or what they plan to do?
I guess I just feel totally overwhelmed by having people stay in our house / so many people wanting to meet and hold our baby. Maybe because its our first, and I only have a short time off from work, I want as much time with her as possible, plus I really want the Husband and I to learn to do this together instead of our own mothers completely taking over. I have no idea how my recovery will be (will I be bleeding and uncomfortable) and if breast feeding will mean having my boob out around the clock (in which case, Im ok with my own Mom and Husband but Id prefer to not learn the ins and outs of breast feeding with my in-laws standing by me). Is it rude to maybe suggest ways in which they can actually help? (i.e. clean, cook, grab groceries, walk the dog vs. trying to take the baby)
Thank you for any suggestions!
I know I cant fathom how much help we will really need so Im hoping to get some suggestions from people on what they have done or what they plan to do?
I guess I just feel totally overwhelmed by having people stay in our house / so many people wanting to meet and hold our baby. Maybe because its our first, and I only have a short time off from work, I want as much time with her as possible, plus I really want the Husband and I to learn to do this together instead of our own mothers completely taking over. I have no idea how my recovery will be (will I be bleeding and uncomfortable) and if breast feeding will mean having my boob out around the clock (in which case, Im ok with my own Mom and Husband but Id prefer to not learn the ins and outs of breast feeding with my in-laws standing by me). Is it rude to maybe suggest ways in which they can actually help? (i.e. clean, cook, grab groceries, walk the dog vs. trying to take the baby)
Thank you for any suggestions!