How old were you?

[Nazz4]

Hello ladies, I have a 2 part question for you all...
First how old were you when you had your baby (or babies)
Second if you could would go back and have kids younger or older or the same age and why?

Thanks ladies!

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I was 20 when I had him.

I wouldn't change my age at all. I like the idea I'll only be 40 when he is 20.

But I would change what I'd done with the yrs before hand.

 

[StaceyKor]

Had her when i was 25 (i turned 26 in october). For me, it was the perfect time. We had been trying for 18 months. We were in a good place financially and have secure jobs. We also just bought a new house a few months before i fell pregnant. Ideal really, wouldnt change it x

 

[erikab922]

I was 39 when I had my LO - I would have liked to have had her younger only because it would mean I would be around longer for her but it took me this long to meet the only man I could ever imagine having kids with so in that respect I wouldn't change a thing.

 

[Amy2701]

I was 24 when Lily was born. I was ready for a baby about 2 years earlier but OH wanted to wait until we could afford for me to stay home with her. I'm glad we waited now so probably wouldn't change the age I had her. X

 

[mamaduke]

I was 31 when LO was born.

I dreamt of having 3 kids and done by 30. But seeing where I am today - super successful career and enjoying motherhood - this was obviously the right path for me.

 

[BabyBoyLove12]

I had just turned 23 two weeks prior to having LO. I wouldn't change the time that I had him, because I feel like I can share a long life with him. However, I might have changed the circumstances, maybe had him when OH and I were stronger together than we are now.

 

[MarcsMrs]

I was 29 when I had her, would have loved to have had her a few years before, maybe 26 but we were in a good place money wise when she was born so it was best for us!

 

[Serenity_Now]

First how old were you when you had your baby (or babies)? Second if you could would go back and have kids younger or older or the same age and why?

I was 30 when I had Derek. If I could go back, I would not have had babies younger. I had them when I felt that I'd really grown and matured enough to handle things best. I wanted to get the selfish period of my life over. I wanted to experience married life before adding a child. (I was 27 when I got married).

That said, I think it's a very individualistic choice. I did not emotionally and psychologically mature until my late 20s. Some people reach that kind of maturity far sooner. There are also disadvantages to waiting until 30. There are disadvantages to having babies younger in life, too.

I think it comes down to a lot of introspection on the part of the parents before making the ultimate decision -- don't just listen to the baby fever drumbeat of your ovaries pumping hormones through you like a loud bass.

 

[Jslyn9996]

22. I would not change a thing

 

[suspectpink]

I was 18 with my 1st son, 21 with my 2nd and 32 with my 3rd ....... I am much more relaxed now I'm older but I am glad I had my 2 boys young , we have a really great relationship which actually borderlines more of a friendship! There's 18 years between me and Zakk and 14 years between him and his baby brother! It's actually quite surreal xxxx

 

[beanzz]

18 when I fell pregnant, gave birth 6 days before my 19th

No definitely wouldn't have changed my age. Always wanted to be a young mum, was never able to see myself running round after small children at 30 odd still don't. I already have the energy of an OAP. Plus my mum was 18 when she had me and we've always been more like best friends than mother and daughter.

 

[Jaylynne]

I was 26 when I had Liam. I think it was the right time. I wanted all my kids before 30.

 

[XJessicaX]

I was 25 when I had DD1 and I will be 27 when DD2 arrives.

I dont think I would have changed my age. Certainly wouldn't have wanted her any younger! I had done everything I wanted to do and experience and then there was this lull where all my friends took on serious careers and lifestyles and I grew up and it was the perfect time to have a baby! If I had been younger I would have probably been very jealous of missing out on these experiences and maybe would have queried my choice in having a child. DD2 has also come at a perfect time. Completely financially stable now, own a house, I can be a SAHM and still be a young mum!

 

[Nazz4]

Nice responses, seems like none of you really have any regrets lol! I was just asking because my OH and I are going on 23 this coming year, and we aren't really ttc or not ttc, but we are considering actually ttc now. We really aren't in a bad spot or a good spot either. We have miscarried a couple times already (we believe) early on. The reason I want to have kids younger is because my mother had me older. She had a few kids and she started when she was in hear early 20's, but by the time she had me she was 36 and she was always working and when she was not working she was too tired to hang out with me so I was basically raised by my sister. The reason there are gaps between my siblings and I are because she had quite a few MC's and seeing as I already think I had a couple I'm scared of following in the footsteps. Also my OH has testicular fibrosis which will only get worse with age and eventually lead to infertility (although probably not until much later, hopefully, not really sure). So we are just kind of on the fence right now. Any advice welcome!

 

[robinator]

1. 36
2. I'd ideally have done earlier so I could wait a little longer before producing a sibling before aging out of the system, but it wasn't in the cards.

 

[MrsKyliePaton]

I was 21 when I had miah, didn't have any regrets really apart from only being with dh for 3 months before and we were kind of in limbo of can we live with each other etc as we didn't really know each other that well, lots of stresses of buying a house together aswell, but we got over it all and got married last year after bein together for 6 years and we have Georgia (I had her at 27) xxx

 

[Leids]

I was 24 when I had him (1 month shy of turning 25, he was born May 21st and my bday is June 19th)

I'm completely content with the age I had him at. I can't imagine being younger as I wasn't ready even a year or two before having him. Right now I have a lot of energy, love playing with him, I don't have any desires to drink or go clubbing, I just want to be mommy. My DH is in a great place at work, and we're very stable, so I have no worries about money.

Having him a little bit later would have been okay too, but I'm very happy with how old I was/am currently.

 

[x__amour]

19. Wouldn't change a thing.

 

[pompeyvix]

I am 31 and we waited until we were ready financially and also once I became fully qualified in my line of work and hubby in his. We also wanted to have a few indulgent holidays first - we both really wanted to go to Las Vegas and we went twice before conceiving.

We have been together for 11 years and married for 6 (almost) and I am so glad we waited as (for us) it was the right time.

Ideally I want my family complete before age 35 and we are still unsure of whether to have 2 or 3 children, either way, there is enough time assuming we conceive quickly again.