Lunabelle
Mother of one
- Joined
- Jan 7, 2015
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I often find myself in a situation where strangers are asking what I do for a living. The answer is I don’t need to work for financial reasons and I love being at home with my child. I also think that is the most valuable job I could be doing, and I really can’t imagine going back to work. I have always had some projects on the side that I feel passionate about and not so I can get an income. They have always paid very little which hasn’t made a difference on our budget and so quitting those in order to be able to continue our IVF treatments amidst covid (reduce the risk of getting ill as even with a cold we would need to stop the treatments) was an easy decision.
Yesterday a teacher at my daughter’s school asked me if I was working. I said no and she said bluntly: “but last year you were working a little bit. So that has stopped now”. As if I had been fired and was a poor unemployed person. I told her her I had quit so I could concentrate on other projects. She just looked away. I feel like anywhere I go the expectation would be that both parents need to/ want to work, especially if your only child has already started school. When the time is right I will be starting up new projects again, such as fighting climate change and teaching french. But how do I explain to people now prying on our privacy that I am not working, and do not plan to go back to work and that that’s quite OK?
Yesterday a teacher at my daughter’s school asked me if I was working. I said no and she said bluntly: “but last year you were working a little bit. So that has stopped now”. As if I had been fired and was a poor unemployed person. I told her her I had quit so I could concentrate on other projects. She just looked away. I feel like anywhere I go the expectation would be that both parents need to/ want to work, especially if your only child has already started school. When the time is right I will be starting up new projects again, such as fighting climate change and teaching french. But how do I explain to people now prying on our privacy that I am not working, and do not plan to go back to work and that that’s quite OK?