How to faze BFing out at 21 months?

[jett]

ok my little girl is now 21 months old and I really wanting to stop feeding her at 2 years. I know I have to faze it out but I'm finding it very hard.

we just spend to much time together on our own and shes not distracted enough to not want it and I'm not very good at saying no I'll manage for 20 mins or so until I forget I'm trying not to feed her and then I find I've given it to her without noticing :/

I'm guessing I want to stop day feeds before night time feeds as she still feeds to sleep which makes me think its going to be hard?

anyone have any ideas, little bits of advise, things that worked for them? any ideas would be really helpful!

 

[Tacey]

I haven't stopped, but have cut down.

My best advice is don't sit down! Wearing high necked tops helps too. Maybe while you're making the change you could spend more time out and about to take her mind off it. Delaying is a good tactic - "yes you can nurse, but wait until after lunch" for example. Have some interesting snacks and drinks on hand to sweeten the deal, and make sure you have lots of cuddles to make up for the ones you miss through not nursing.

Just a little thing though, you mention you give her a feed without noticing. If it's not bothering you, why the rush to stop? Not criticising, just interested!

 

[jett]

yes I noticed the seating down is an issue lol

I guess the first reason I want to start weening her off is because I always told myself I would be happy until she was 2 most of my Family told me to stop at 1 but I like what the WHO said of 2 years old. and since I'm 4000 mile away from all family that was not really a problem.

my biggest problem is the co-sleeping she still sleeps between hubby and me and as shes still BFing moving her to her own bed is just not happening and 2 years of sleeping away from my hubby is taking it's toll on us, that and my Body does not like sleeping the same way every night, because she only feeds from the right I have to sleep that way.

so my plan is to reduce day time feeding (she still does it alot), then night time feeding, and then get her in her own bed in our room, then in her own bed in her own room.

but I'm not doing anything to start any of that nothing is changing and shes still feeding when ever she wants (again a lot) and Hubby's starting to get annoyed at me.

It would also be nice to not have her BFing anymore when we go flying around to see family just after shes two. I know that might not be the case but I want to feel like I'm at least working on it.

 

[Tacey]

Ah, I get you. Making steps now makes sense. I did it the other way round. I night weaned Alice when she turned 2, then we transitioned her to her own room a couple of months later. I cut her down to twice a day, and since she 'unweaned' herself, I've limited her to just a morning session.