How to tell 4 year old he's going to be a brother?

[lisacaton1980]

Hi, I've just found out i'm pregnant and although I should be excited I can't stop thinking about how my LO will react. It is really getting me down. How did you break the news?

 

[CandyDay]

why don't you think he will be excited?
I just told my then 4 year old that he was going to be a big brother. And I talked to him lots about it as the pregnancy progressed. I answered any questions he asked. He came to all my appointments with me he got to hear the heart beat with me and see the ultrasound etc. We watched weekly videos on how his sister was growing. I involved him as much as I could with the pregnancy so that he would know what was going on.

 

[LaughOutLoud]

My 4 yr old knew of my pregnancy before i even told her officially. We had always talked about babies and pregnancy and kept her informed about the fact that we might have a baby if God blesses us with one. She then just started asking me if the baby was in my tummy and whether it was kicking. I didnt tell her about the pregnancy as soon as I found out because we had couple of MC's and it wouldnt have been fair on her to know until we knew the pregnancy was viable.

 

[celine]

I mad a mc on my boys 4th birthday then again 2 months later somi chose not to tell him, after then12 week scan he figured for himself one night, i was probably 14/15 weeks along and he said "but mummy..your tummy is getting bigger" so i went with it and asked why he thought so, he guessed it had a baby in it and i daid i think you are right. He was very happy (phew) the following week we booked a private scan for gender (and for my sanity, two mc will domthat to you) and he got to see the baby and we found out he would have another sister
He is very excited, ironically im due a week after his birthday.

 

[OmarsMum]

I just told him there is a baby in mummy's tummy, he's super excited, he refers to my tummy as "brother" although we still don't know the gender, he talks to my bump, & he already have sleeping arrangements for the baby

I'm planning to take him to scans with me to see the baby

 

[DCS]

We waited and took him along to the 12 week scan. Once we knew everything was ok OH asked LO what he thought was on the screen and we explained it was a baby. He doesnt talk about it much but will sometimes run over and give my " big fat tummy" a kiss. We talk to him about it all, and he seems to accept it. He is very excited to give his sister her clothes that he picked.

 

[alicecooper]

Uhh I dunno haha we just kind of told ours.

First time round, Lydia was 22 months when her first brother was born. When my belly was getting noticeable, we started talking about how mummy has got a baby in her tummy and it is going to be a little brother for her, and that he was going to be called Alex.

Second time round, when we found out I was pregnant, Lydia was 3 and a quarter, and Alex was 16 months old. I took the pregnancy test and told DH, and he basically just shouted over at them "KIDS, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE A NEW BROTHER OR SISTER!"
Lmao
Alex didn't bat an eyelid, and Lydia was like "Oh...okay" haha.

Third time round, when we found out I was having Nathan, Lydia was 7, Alex was 5, and Jason was 3.
We sat around the dinner table having takeaway pizza, and we just said we had something important to tell them... and we gently told them that they were going to have a new brother or sister because there was a baby in mummy's tummy, and that it was a huge surprise even to us. They were all really excited.

Just tell your son, it's not as big a deal as you're building it up to be. He'll probably take it for granted whilst being excited at the same time.

 

[MrsT&Ben]

I was terrified about telling my son. He is very much a Mummys boy so I was convinced he'd react badly. We sat him down and just asked him what he thought of being a big brother. He was really excited about it. We're not allowed to take children to the scan where we are so he has the picture in his bedroom.
He is desperate for a brother so I'm not sure what we'll do if it's a girl.
Just keep saying what a great big brother and engage with him as much as possible. We now get Ben to tell people he's going to a big brother if we see someone who doesn't know.

Good Luck hun xx

 

[Cangaroo]

Isabella had been saying to me "I hope you get a baby in your tummy" for some months so I had no worries about telling her! She likes talking about how the baby is very tiny now but will grow and grow. She wants a sister so we'll find out at 20 weeks so we can prepare her if it's a boy! Yesterday I put her in the sling on my tummy (her preferred position as she can nurse). She said, "When the baby makes your tummy big I'll be able to go in the sling on your back. And when it comes out we'll play together.".

I think she'll be ok! I can't wait for her to be able to feel kicks etc.