Cinnamon
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I'm writing this question to those of you who don't have a baby, how do you imagine it will change your life. To those of you who already have a little one, how did you think it would change your life and how different did it turn out.
In fact to anyone on BnB!!!
I think about it quite often and think the first thing I will notice is moneywise. We are always struggling with expences and a LO will defo make a difference. Also my job, my morning job is fine, I think I will be able to handle it (unless I get bad back problems as I get problems quite often). But my weekend job is dancing on a stage at a hotel so that will go down the drain as soon as we TTC. I've been dancing sats non stop for almost 6 and a half years and I love it so it will make me sad, but it will only be 9-10 months and I can go back!!! Or not, maybe my weekends change so much I won't be able to miss sat nights...
Also my house is tiny (a 1bed) and I plan on having 4 kids so baby number one will have to sleep in our room and that means when he or she is around 2 we will have to move house... That is another problem as the crisis will make it real hard to sell our place for good money and even more to find a place for 6 people (4kids + us). I know you guys in England and States or Canada are used to having massive houses on average (with exceptions of course) but here in Spain, or at least in Tenerife, houses have sky high prices and we can't afford a big house so it's wealthy people or tourists that get to buy the ones that are well located... I will have to go higher up (I live close to the center of town and the coast at the mo) and look in some town closer to the mountain and therefor colder and not as well comunicated. That is a big issue on my list at the mo, also DH getting a driving licence!!!
I expect my family to be all over excited as I am an only child and my DH sisters don't have kids yet (youngest 12, eldest 34) and I expect the 12 year old to be jelous... I know you might think being 12 she should be mature enough to take it easy, but she is used to getting all the attention and is aware a LO will devide it or she may even think she will lose it. Anyway, I am prepared to get her enthusiasm up and she will prob change her mind as usually she loves kids... Also a friend of her mums is having a baby girl soon and that might get her used to it...
Friend wise, I am the first of my circle of friends to be married and none of them seem to be doing it soon so I will also be the first with a LO and miss out on the partying and so on. But on the other hand, everyone is so busy studying abroad that we don't get to do that either. Couple life will also be affected but I'm sure we can get the grandmas involved to have us time now and again....
Well enough babbling and get writting girls, do you feel like I do?? xxxx
In fact to anyone on BnB!!!
I think about it quite often and think the first thing I will notice is moneywise. We are always struggling with expences and a LO will defo make a difference. Also my job, my morning job is fine, I think I will be able to handle it (unless I get bad back problems as I get problems quite often). But my weekend job is dancing on a stage at a hotel so that will go down the drain as soon as we TTC. I've been dancing sats non stop for almost 6 and a half years and I love it so it will make me sad, but it will only be 9-10 months and I can go back!!! Or not, maybe my weekends change so much I won't be able to miss sat nights...
Also my house is tiny (a 1bed) and I plan on having 4 kids so baby number one will have to sleep in our room and that means when he or she is around 2 we will have to move house... That is another problem as the crisis will make it real hard to sell our place for good money and even more to find a place for 6 people (4kids + us). I know you guys in England and States or Canada are used to having massive houses on average (with exceptions of course) but here in Spain, or at least in Tenerife, houses have sky high prices and we can't afford a big house so it's wealthy people or tourists that get to buy the ones that are well located... I will have to go higher up (I live close to the center of town and the coast at the mo) and look in some town closer to the mountain and therefor colder and not as well comunicated. That is a big issue on my list at the mo, also DH getting a driving licence!!!
I expect my family to be all over excited as I am an only child and my DH sisters don't have kids yet (youngest 12, eldest 34) and I expect the 12 year old to be jelous... I know you might think being 12 she should be mature enough to take it easy, but she is used to getting all the attention and is aware a LO will devide it or she may even think she will lose it. Anyway, I am prepared to get her enthusiasm up and she will prob change her mind as usually she loves kids... Also a friend of her mums is having a baby girl soon and that might get her used to it...
Friend wise, I am the first of my circle of friends to be married and none of them seem to be doing it soon so I will also be the first with a LO and miss out on the partying and so on. But on the other hand, everyone is so busy studying abroad that we don't get to do that either. Couple life will also be affected but I'm sure we can get the grandmas involved to have us time now and again....
Well enough babbling and get writting girls, do you feel like I do?? xxxx