Hows you OH about the pregnancy ect

[DMG83]

mine has been great, although he doesn't really appreciate baby shopping (but then what man does!?) and it does frustrate the hell out of me when he says "i was really good today, i went shopping for THREE HOURS and didn't say a word at all, shopping for 3 hours, just for you"... hmmmmm why am i in charge of/to blame for the need to shop for baby!? but that's about the only annoying thing really. He's getting much better as the days go by, force feeding me sparkling water to try to raise my bp and rubbing and hugging bump

i forget i'm pregnant half the time so we're not at it rubbing and cooing over baby 24/7 but it's nice to snuggle and talk baby for a bit in the evening

 

[new_mum]

Mine is quite like yours OctBebe, although other people say all he does is talk about our baby with them just not with me I'm usually the one putting his head away with baby talk I'm obsessed lol

 

[emzul]

At first I was a bit gutted that my DH (ooh first time I have used that one on here! DH LOL) didnt show that much interest in my bump, but as time has gone on, I am actually quite relieved!

I get so much (unwanted) attention at work/phone calls from Mum/Nan etc that are ALWAYS about baby so its nice to have him there to talk about other stuff!

Dont get me wrong, he always asks "Hows baby" but he doesnt have much patience LOL I will say "he is kicking" and put DH hand on bump, but if baby doesnt kick within 5 seconds, DH will say "Do something baby..... pppffff he is lazy" and go back to his TV show/Fifa game! LOL

I know he is going to be the best Daddy in the world, so I am glad he isnt OTT with stuff at the moment.... and also, he doesnt treat me like an invalid, which would drive me MENTAL!!! xx

 

[IHrtSteve]

My DH is the same. He has very little interest in bump. Was same with DS, but he is a wonderful father. But I do have to tell u that he wasn't all that interested in the little baby stage either, I think it made him nervous. Oh well, I think that is fairly normal too. Although this time he is gonna have to get over it cause we have a toddler now to. All hands on deck! LOL

 

[jacks mummy]

My oh is one of the ones that don't seem to bothered by the whole situation and I remember when I was pregnant with my son I was so worried that he didnt want him and wouldn't love him when I gave birth but the moment jack was born he has been a fantastic daddy!!! Never complained about nappies, feeding, bathing ect and now he takes jack out every Saturday to give me a break an that to me is lovely! I made him feel baby hiccuping the other day and he was so shocked at how strong they were! X

 

[ahcigar1]

Mine grumbles anytime I say need to pick up something for the baby at the store, but he has no problem going to buy his video games. Also anytime she is having a big roll around I ask him if he wants to feel and he just shrugs and says no not really. The only interaction he has is he likes to slap on my belly like it is a drum, which of course gets her moving around but then he doesn't want to have anything to do with that part. I often times don't understand my husband at all. When I asked him why he never wants to feel her kick or anything he says cause he has no interest, its not like he can hold her or anything. But I can't understand why he wouldn't want to start forming the bond now.

 

[raeraefish]

My OH isn't interested at all in the bump, will only touch it if I put his hand on it and then doesn't pay attention, had a foot poking out on Sunday, put his hand on it to feel it, didn't even take his eyes off the grand prix. Speaking of which he has shown more interest in going to the grand prix at the end of August and getting ready for that than he has the baby.
My parents decorated the nursery for us, I put up the stickers, sorted the furniture and cleaned it all, made the bed, bought the matress, washed all the clothes, packed the hospital bag, bought nappies and creams etc and all he's done is tell me we aren't having second hand handmedowns but he won't look at buying anything, when I do buy something he shows no interest at all. Basically I've done it all and he's done nothing.

 

[spaceprawn]

Mine is amazing He talks to him, reads him the footie news XD and rubs my belly every night. He's been reading every book you can imagine, d/l apps for his phone and takes a really serious interest in my welfare I came home from work the other day and he'd bought me some roll on deodorant because he read that aerosol can cause headaches in pregnancy....bless him
He also asked me to do my list for my hospital bag....and went and got everything I needed.....nipple pads included
He's so awesome

 

[emzul]

Oh yeah I did all the nursery too! I sorted all our junk out of the spare room (he decided it was ALL my stuff) but infact it was about 50/50... so while he watched TV I cleared out all the stuff, swapped the wadrobes (one in spare room was bigger so have swapped that so we have the bigger one) sorted and hung all our clothes, polished/hoovered/dusted/mopped the room, then painted 2 walls of the room (is quite a bright green so all 4 walls would have been too bright!). DH offered to help paint, so I said I would do the fiddly outskirts and he could do the big middle bits, so he wouldnt need to be careful lol and he did such a poor job I ended up going over it again when he went to the gym!

I have also bought everything for the baby (with the exeption of his Man U kit and a little tracksuit DH bought) but I think even if he wanted to do all these things I would end up taking over! So he cant win either way the poor sod! LOL

As long as he is a good Dad which I know he will be once LO arrives, he can show as little interest in baby now as he wants xx

 

[Frecks]

He is very excited and looking forward to having our baby but hardly ever talks to the bump or rubs it, he says he feels weird as it's just my stomach - I think he just feels until he sees th baby it's just not really real!xxx

 

[Mazzy]

Not quite third trimester yet (1 more week!), but felt like posting anyway as this is one of the subjects that bugs me.

I'm "glad(?)" to see that I'm not the only one. My hubby has to be prompted. I'll say, "Oh look, he's kicking" and hubby will turn his head and say, "That's nice" and then go right back to watching t.v. Once or twice he actually tried to put his hand on my belly (at my prompting), but he's too impatient and baby never kicks when he does it, so then he gets bored with it.

Ultimately, hubby's far more worried about work than he is about this baby being healthy, and I find that disturbing. I know that he hates medical stuff, anything to do with the body, so I guess I can understand to a certain degree. Plus his family is not touchy-feely at all... It still bugs me though. This is his one and only son...no more after this!

 

[OctBebe]

Im glad there are other fathers as relaxed as mine. I am thankful in a way, I don't think I could cope with him obsessing over it.

LOL @ Mazzy mines the same, I say look hes moving! Pretty much no intrest he will look if I get peeved he will pretend to show intrest and say "ohhh" and back to his car mag or TV.

 

[PinkP]

I had this conversation with my hubby as TBH it felt like he wasnt interested . . its our first baby and we ttc'd for 4 yrs so thought he'd be more interested.

He basically said to me that it doesnt feel real for him yet and that he doesnt think its going to be real for him until he comes . . He said he is so excited and cant wait to hold our lil boy and he probably wont stop crying for a week when he comes . . I get it, I feel that way too sometimes . .

Well not long left now! It'll probably hit him like a ton of bricks

 

[20102001]

My OH is interested .. kinda of.

But lately he's just not intrerested when it's moving ... the movements are so strong now and it's amazing watching it and feeling it (on my hand not inside me) yet he's like "I see it everyday and you can feel it (inside) so it's different" I don't know if I buy that at all .... and when I ask him to watch I look back at him and he's not even looking I'll be like "Did you see that?", OH - "No."

Stuppid man!

 

[LeeLouClare]

mine wasn't very interested until recently, he now loves watching my Squishy move and kick and he loves holding my bump and even occasionally (if no one is around) talks to bump. He has from the very beginning though demanded he go on every scan appointment I had as he really loved seeing the little one (i saw him tear up, but he says it was something in his eye!!! whatever!!)
this is both our first baby and he seems to be more involved the further the pregnancy progresses.

 

[heather91]

My partner shows little to no interest in baby and shows me no sympathy even though I have SPD AND sciatica AND a 2 year old to look after. I think some men just don't get it! But he's brilliant with DD so I have no worries x

 

[DMG83]

i agree, altho DH has been great he does keep saying EVERY night "i want to meet her already, it's not fair!!!" so i know he struggles, and tbh there are days when i totally forget i'm pregnant too so i don't have a big bump and i feel pretty normal other than groggy from low bp but that doesn't really feel baby related to me (although i know it is!) so i can't expect him to be all over my bump 24/7.. he's going to be an amazing daddy, i just know it

 

[Lesli45]

Sorry, I didn't have time to read all the posts. Mine hasn't been all that interested. Just little belly touches here and there. He hasn't been very empathetic with my aches, nausea and pains either. And he finds it too weird to have sex with the baby in there. I'm hoping it changes when the baby comes.

 

[OctBebe]

My OH has this thing with asking me everytime I see him " Are you pregnant?" wtf;s up with that. I say no I just ate too many pies.

 

[emzul]

My OH has this thing with asking me everytime I see him " Are you pregnant?" wtf;s up with that. I say no I just ate too many pies.

Mine just prods me and says "preggo, preggo, preggo!"