Husband wants a girl... Scared I'll let him down...

[Minkel23]

My husband and I already have a gorgeous boy who we love, and are currently pregnant with baby no. 2 (and this is our final child). I always wanted boys, but my husband has his heart set on this baby being a girl. I feel deep down that this baby is another boy, this pregnancy is very similar to my last and I just can't picture myself with a girl. I don't mind whatever the gender is... But I hate the thought of disappointing my husband. I can't get the thought of letting him down out of my head, no matter how much he reassures me that he will love our baby whether team blue or pink. Currently 13 weeks and worried about our 20 week scan already.

 

[DoubleTFun]

As soon as he sees your child his heart will be stolen once again no matter what the gender!

 

[Sb86]

It's the sperm that determines baby's sex.. So technically, it's not you letting him down

 

[Willow01]

Ditto above comments, your body grows and protects your baby it doesn't decide gender so don't think that you personally are letting him down if it is another boy. He will love your child regardless.

 

[Buffyx]

I know how you feel. 2 days before our 20 week scan, we went to an engagement party. DH had a few drinks and started telling people he wanted a boy. We found out we were having a girl, and I was scared he would be disappointed. He's not - and he's just as excited

 

[2have4kids]

My man did a family tree chart to find out what his chances are of creating a girl/boy for us. Because as the pp rightly said, it's up to the man weather we get a boy or girl, those sperm are boy and girl sperms. So his chances are locked up in the male side of his family

his grandfathers father: 2 boys : 3 girls
his fathers father: 1 boy
his 3 brothers offpring: 9 boys : 10 girls
his father 3 boys : 2 girls
and if we knew about them, we could also include the gender of the other boy of his grandfathers father.

His chances are 50% for either:
Total: 15 boys : 15 girls

We didn't count his sisters/moms sisters kids because their husbands have different lineage (can't include that in the propensity of your family to have girl/boy as their husbands have different genetic chances).

It's nothing we have control of.

 

[aley28]

My husband very much wanted our second baby to be a girl. He turned out to be a boy at the 20 week scan, of course DH was disappointed at first, but he came around right quick when we started talking about names and he had a chance to reminisce about his own life of growing up with just a brother. At that point, we hadn't planned on having any more babies!

Your DH will love the baby, no matter the gender. Give him a chance to prove it, and don't destroy your own enjoyment of your pregnancy through worrying about something that you have no control over!

 

[tallybee]

I agree with the others hun he will fall in love with your baby regardless xx

My partner really had his heart set on having a boy. He was worried about gender disappointment so much, he got himself quite worked up about the gender scan but we ended up going anyway and he's been in love with our daughter ever since he got his head round it about 5 minutes after we found out. Xx

 

[DoodleDoo]

When we first found out we were going to be parents, OH also really wanted a girl. We decided not to find out baby's gender as we liked the idea of a surprise but I was still worried that OH would be sad if it was a boy. He'd always just imagined a daughter as he just adores his niece.

However when I was about 20 weeks we went shopping for his nephew's birthday and suddenly OH was all excited at the idea that baby might be a boy. He suddenly remembered 'how cool boy's stuff is' and how he was more likely to play video games with a boy.

Now, I genuinely think he doesn't care whether baby is a boy or a girl. I think once your partner begins to imagine having either a boy or a girl, it will become so exciting for them and much more real. There are so many positives to both genders!

 

[misspriss]

It's the sperm that determines baby's sex.. So technically, it's not you letting him down

Yep, all you have are X chromosomes, so all you CAN make is girls, its up to him to provide the second X or the Y.

 

[loeylo]

I worried about this too! I wanted a little girl, my oh wanted a little boy. I just knew she was a little girl when u conceived (previous pregnancies I have felt girl!) - all the old wives tales, even heart rate, point at baby being a boy but we have had two scans showing girl!

At the gender scan he didn't have a rush of excitement in the way that he would have if baby has been a boy, but he is still delighted to be having a little girl. He is now seeing the practicalities of a little girl and is now almost leaning to preferring a girl! (Things like I go shopping with my mum every Saturday and a girl is more likely to enjoy coming with us so he can get a few hours to himself - although he is gutted to be missing out on Saturday mornings in the park with his son and the dog whilst I'm at the shops!) people can't be lumped into "boy" and "girl" categories and I'm sure he will be delighted either way!

One positive of him being slightly disappointed about gender is that it may be easier to convince him to have another baby! Haha!

 

[Minkel23]

Thanks for all the replies... We had a long talk about it and he said although a little girl would be lovely, a boy would be just as welcome.

This is definitely our last baby though- boy or girl!x

 

[Minkel23]

Just to update, we had our 20 week scan and are expecting a baby girl. My husband and I are both thrilled.

 

[charliekay]

Congratulations xx

 

[IsabellaJayne]

Amazing. Congratulations x

 

[m nonie]

My DH was desperate the first time round for a little girl but we found out we where having a DS, he's was over the moon - his family struggled to come to terms with it. Now they worship DS and about to have the first DD for 80+ years on his side. He'll love LO whether its a wee man or lass.

 

[o0oCharlieo0o]

Congratulations on team pink hun! Xx

 

[meg_bellamy]

Congrats!

 

[Nikie]

My man did a family tree chart to find out what his chances are of creating a girl/boy for us. Because as the pp rightly said, it's up to the man weather we get a boy or girl, those sperm are boy and girl sperms. So his chances are locked up in the male side of his family

his grandfathers father: 2 boys : 3 girls
his fathers father: 1 boy
his 3 brothers offpring: 9 boys : 10 girls
his father 3 boys : 2 girls
and if we knew about them, we could also include the gender of the other boy of his grandfathers father.

His chances are 50% for either:
Total: 15 boys : 15 girls

We didn't count his sisters/moms sisters kids because their husbands have different lineage (can't include that in the propensity of your family to have girl/boy as their husbands have different genetic chances).

It's nothing we have control of.

The last female to be born in my partners family is now 94 years old! Everyone else has had boys! We are having a girl!

 

[Nikie]

Just to update, we had our 20 week scan and are expecting a baby girl. My husband and I are both thrilled.

I posted the previous post before seeing this! Welcome to team pink! Lovely!