i can't do this

[george83]

i know my husband only officially left 4 weeks ago but things had been so bad for the past 18 months that it was even then like he wasn't actually here. But these 4 weeks have been so unbelievably hard that i can't do it. I can not imagine spending the rest of my life like this. Everybody tells me i'm the lucky one becuase he's gone and i'm the one who is left with our son and i love him more than anything in the world but this is not what i wanted and i hate the fact that me husband has just walked away with no responsibilities and and left me to deal with everything, i can not stand the thought of telling one more person - professional or friend - what is happening. i didn't want any of this to end so why i am the one left to deal with it all

 

[xxsteffyxx]

Try and stay strong sweety... It gets worse before it gets better and things always start feeling better in time. It's okay to cry, stop putting pressure on yourself to feel normal again because right now you need the support, tears and moments of self pity.

It will get better - I personally promise! X

 

[Ginger84]

I completely agree with Steffy, it is so so tough and just ride out the bad times and cling to the good, you will start to feel better but it does take time, a long time. Im over a year down the line and i still have bad days. Showing weakness does not make you a bad person, it means your normal.

It frustrates me so much that men get to walk away and leave us to deal with everything, but thats what makes us stronger in the long run. If you can get through this, you can get through anything

 

[Lemonflower]

I know how you're feeling!!! I'm 5 months in and still have bad days!!!
:sad:
Things have got easier though! It's annoying to hear it but time is the key.
Sucks huh!

xxx

 

[Snowball]

It does get easier hun

My ex DH left me pregnant with 3 under 5's and I literally felt like I was sinking for months. Like you I felt that it was all too easy for him to ditch his responsibilities and leave me to sort out everything. I hated him for it.

I'm 16 months on now and finally I feel happy. I still have down times and I still get angry but nothing compared to the early weeks. I can wake up and look forward to a day now. You will get there. I remember hating the length of time it took for the days to look brighter and be easier and it is hard but keep talking on here because we've all been through it so know how it feels. Thinking of you hun

 

[Dezireey]

I know how you feel. I just posted about how hard it is to be left holding the baby and for dreams to be shattered. I think it will take me a long time to get over this and what he has done. I have never encountered such callousness and coldness from another person in my life and I am starting to regret ever meeting him, which will probably turn into being glad I met him because I wouldnt have my baby boy soon. I always look to my best friend, who had it worse than me. Her Husband left her when she was 30 weeks pregnant for her best friend and he is trying (and failing) to get more custody so him and this ex friend of hers can play happy families with her baby. She has found another man who adores her and she said that she felt like topping herself when her hubby left but now her life is amazing and much better without him. I look to her for guidance and to see that life, one day will be better without him in it. We must not forget or forgive what an awful thing it is to be just left holding the baby/ies. My only wish is that one day my FOB comes back to me and I am so full of strength and over him, I can genuinely say to him 'not a chance in hell, I am with someone else' and he will feel this pain I am going through now.

Be strong hun

 

[Lemonflower]

We must not forget or forgive what an awful thing it is to be just left holding the baby/ies. My only wish is that one day my FOB comes back to me and I am so full of strength and over him, I can genuinely say to him 'not a chance in hell, I am with someone else' and he will feel this pain I am going through now.

I really want this to happen one day! I liked the story about your friend too - I felt like topping myself - hope I find someone to love me and my little boy!!

Xxx

 

[teal]

It does get easier xxx