I can't keep doing this alone

[mstennischick]

I've been doing this alone for 36 weeks now. The FOB comes back every week or so and acts like he's sorry for a day and then stops talking to me. I want him involved in the baby's life. He loves her, or so he says. But I cannot keep crying over him and knowing that he's off getting drunk and hooking up with other girls and I just sit at my house and get ready for the baby. 4 more weeks until she's here and then I will finally have someone who i can be with and cuddle with and take care of without even thinking about fob. I have spent so much money on this baby so far and i have yet to see a penny of it come from him. I can't wait to file for child support and finally get back some back. She deserves so much more than I can give her.

 

[Ashleii15]

Heey I am sorry to hear that ):
I don't think you should let him keep coming back though, that's just allowing him to think what he is doing is okay, because you are his 'rebound' and he has all the other girls to fool around with.
He needs to know that he is a father and needs to grow up and actually act like one now, what he is doing is more far than rude and disgusting (if he is hooking up with others).
He also needs to know the responsibilities of being a parent and start buying for your LO as well.
I hope things start looking up for you once your little girl is born. Always here for you!

 

[skyesmom]

hey hon, i know it is damn tough, it's tough on adults, let alone teens but... YOU made it all alone, every single fucking day of it, for the past 36 weeks. This gives you 252 daily proofs that you have ALREADY DONE AND ARE DOING an amazing job and ALL by your own!!!

Give yourself some credit. he's been failing to cope clamorously. if there's a person who's paralyzed from shitting their pants, it's him not you. you're gonna make a great mom and you already are making a great mom and that little thing inside of you knows and feels that already, trust me!

you're already cuddling your baby with all your self. you're already taking care of it. and he's missing out on magical moments with you and his own child, and this is probably the saddest part of it all. people who act like that are often unaware that they are digging a hole inside their own hearts and inside their own lives by missing out on moments that no one ever will be able to give back to them. and it is hard to live with those kind of holes later in life. even fully grown up people (age wise speaking) commit these mistakes, let alone teens. they get overwhelmed by the present and omit seeing the broader consequences of their actions.

but you really have no reason to feel discouraged - you are a hell of a momma and this is the biggest treasure you can have, being able to walk on your own two feet WITH your child!

lost of hugs to you!

 

[Sinclair]

Sorry to hear about this, hunny. =\ My sister kinda went through the same thing; the father of her son pretended to care and do things when my love and I were around, or another one of his family members or whatever. It would be the only time he would actually do something for his child.

Finally at when my nephew was 9 months old, he left, and came back once in his life when he was 2. He's now 5 years old calling another man "daddy" ( which I do not support because my sister and this guy are only dating, but it's their life. )

I hope when the baby is here you're encouraged every time you look at her. Wish you the best of luck in your future with everything.

 

[mstennischick]

hey hon, i know it is damn tough, it's tough on adults, let alone teens but... YOU made it all alone, every single fucking day of it, for the past 36 weeks. This gives you 252 daily proofs that you have ALREADY DONE AND ARE DOING an amazing job and ALL by your own!!!

Give yourself some credit. he's been failing to cope clamorously. if there's a person who's paralyzed from shitting their pants, it's him not you. you're gonna make a great mom and you already are making a great mom and that little thing inside of you knows and feels that already, trust me!

you're already cuddling your baby with all your self. you're already taking care of it. and he's missing out on magical moments with you and his own child, and this is probably the saddest part of it all. people who act like that are often unaware that they are digging a hole inside their own hearts and inside their own lives by missing out on moments that no one ever will be able to give back to them. and it is hard to live with those kind of holes later in life. even fully grown up people (age wise speaking) commit these mistakes, let alone teens. they get overwhelmed by the present and omit seeing the broader consequences of their actions.

but you really have no reason to feel discouraged - you are a hell of a momma and this is the biggest treasure you can have, being able to walk on your own two feet WITH your child!

lost of hugs to you!

omg!!! this literally made me feel so much better thank you! best advice!!

and thank you all. i love this forum so much

 

[skyesmom]

glad i could help! massive to you and your beautiful baby!

 

[MiSS.M0MMY2BE]

As hard as it may be, you definitely need to stop letting him come in and out of your life. You don't need or deserve that nor does your sweet little girl. Just focus on growing your baby girl, and relaxing before she gets here. Once she's born you won't even have time to think about him. You're doing something beautiful and great. And being as you've done it this long alone just shows how strong you are. Your daughter will be lucky to have you! Stay positive.