I feel I could never have sex again and that would be ok. You?

[staralfur]

I wasn't implying that BFing was the sole reason, but it can and often does contribute due to hormones being different while breastfeeding.

 

[socitycourty]

possibly sleep deprivation too? I know i hven't had a good night's sleep since the day before I went into labor, I have no appetite and can't be bothered to concentrate on anything so sex is way down on the totem pole

 

[C_baby]

I'm an anomaly I'm breastfeeding and had a mirena coil put in (both can lower libido) and my sex drive is as high as ever if not higher! I feel like a right randy panda , think I'm making up for the SPD related drought.... haha

 

[Casey3]

Me! After LO was born I didn't want to DTD at all.. Like not even a little. We tried at 3ish months PP and it was so painful that I couldn't do it and then we sort of gave up (and I was terrified of getting knocked up again ) We finalllllllly did it 11 months PP, so like a month ago lol. And the only reason is because I really feel bad for OH (don't tell him that's the only reason though!) I still blame it on hormones from BFing, even though my drives never been really high... Plus we have no privacy or time without LO and I'd rather sleep.

At least I'm 'normal' I thought I was the only one who could live without sex

 

[BabyBoyLove12]

Ugh. I still hate it. It's become a once a month type deal and we only do it that much because I feel bad for OH. I also don't like being touched in any way now either, sexual or not. It was never like this before and I hope I get some sex drive back soon. Also, we FF, I stopped breast feeding when LO was 4 months.

 

[Samah007]

I think I felt like that for maybe a 4 or 5 weeks pp due to sleep deprivation but I couldn't do it anyway. My DH actually planned to have company on the day I was cleared to go ahead. I made him cancel.

I've always had a high sex drive though. I'm wondering what it was like for some of you ladies prior to baby.

 

[SamGoPanda]

I totally hear you. I tore from my v to my a (vulgar I know, sorry!) and no one is ever going near there again, seriously. No way man, off bounds.
I'm gonna join a book club or something!

 

[bananaz]

Yep, I'm right there with you. I can really take it or leave it. I felt this way before LO was born too, but the stress and sleep deprivation aren't helping! Thankfully I don't have an OH to hassle me about it anymore

 

[socitycourty]

i had a normal/healthy drive but then i had to have pelvic rest for nearly my whole pregnancy, then th emcs, then the BF....i still don't feel normal

 

[Kelly M]

Whew! I'm not the only one!! I was worried there was something wrong with me. I had a very low sex drive before lo arrived but now it's even worse! Although, I have made out with dh a lot more since we can't dtd yet and that was nice, just the closeness and cuddling. But then, it starts blood rushing to my hoohah and that hurts and throbs. I was super horny when I was like 18 and then when I hit my 20's it just kind of dropped off.... Hoping I get it back soon. Maybe it will have to come when me and dh get our first night away from lo and have a romantic date and get a hotel or something. It'll probably be in oh, I don't know, twenty years when lo is off to college! Hah hah!

 

[Mrs_Random]

Me, I lost my drive during my first pregnancy - god knows how we managed to conceive a 2nd time - we only had sex about 4 times after toddler was born!

I have to admit I had more sex drive during my 2nd pregnancy than in & after my first put together. We did it a lot this last time round.

These days I'm not fussed though, but baby is only just a month old.

We won't be trying anything until well after my 6 week check up, my bits have been very sore this time - plus I ripped far worse too so might take me a while to build up the confidence to have a go.

I can just go without sex anyway, I have so little time for everything else in the day its the last thing I think about.

 

[Moodyblue85]

Glad I am not the only one.

3.5 months on and...uurrgghhhh...I just can't imagine ever wanting to DTD again

 

[Tattoo]

Hmmm...I'm feeling like the anomaly now! I'm five weeks PP and I'd say my sex drive is pretty much back to normal. We had full sex on Saturday just gone. We'd attempted it a week earlier but the baby woke up!
I had a lot of sex in the first and third trimesters of my pregnancy.
I had a nasty second-degree tear from the birth. I breastfeed. So I guess I'm a bit of a nympho!

 

[AngelUK]

We haven't dtd since the boys were conceived. My sexdrive is back, kinda, but OH's is not and the way I look, I am ok to never have sex again either. Sad but true.

 

[Scottish mum]

When LO was born, my OH was so helpful I couldn't wait to have a bit of rumpy bumpy! But now I can't think of anything worse!! Doesn't help that my OH is so flipping moody from working... But then expects me to be up for it after he's just spoke to me like dirt?! I could happily never do it again!

Haha this is my husband too.... Hello we have been working too we are mothers lol..

 

[libbylou]

Normal sex drive pre-pregnancy.
First trimester we didn't DTD much because I had a few weeks of spotting plus I was miserable sick...then I had a few weeks of feeling great...then at 19 weeks I developed PGP and it was too painful.
Fast forward to my csection and having a high needs colicky baby who doesn't sleep and me being totally sleep deprived and dealing with some really bad PPD...yeah that's the last thing on my mind.
It took an embarassingly long time to DTD post baby, partly because I am TERRIFIED that I might end up accidentally pregnant.

 

[FlowerTots13]

I'm the opposite... I was pestering my OH so much last night, but he's worried that my stitches will open up as he doesn't think I've had chance to heal yet. I was very disappointed even though we're both frustrated, but I suppose I should be thankful that my OH is caring enough to worry about hurting me

 

[brieri1]

I'm breast feeding and god, I can not wait to have sex again. But I'm trying to wait until I stop hurting down there, I tore, and the bleeding stops. It'd probably be best to wait until after I get the iud put in at 6 weeks pp, but I don't want to wait that long if I don't have to. It feels like I've already waited forever, lol! My husband really didn't want to towards the end of my pregnancy because the baby was so real and I (TMI) couldn't get anything out of it anymore. Boy, do I miss it.

 

[teresapk]

it's been 5mos pp and nada. OH tried to initiate about 5 wks ago and i cried cuz i was scared to...i mean i had a 3rd degree tear, I"VE not even been down there yet.

plus i'm still mad that OH refused to DTD with me while preg. i'd like to get it out of the way before my OB appt next month.

 

[Kess]

I wasn't fussed for ages after LO was born. And I expected DH to wait until I was good and ready - sex is never something I'd do to keep him happy or keep the peace, it's too big a deal for that, and he respects me too much to expect me to be simply a recepticle. IMO it should only ever be done with full enthusiastic participation of both parties or you're getting blurry with consent etc. I got my period back 14 months PP and my sex drive became several times what it was pre-baby - I was jumping on DH every day, sometimes more than once lol. It's settled back to pretty much what it was pre-baby now. I guess it's natures way of making you focus on the baby you have rather than making another one too soon!