I had no idea! Am I a wuss??

[Skywalker]

I really had no idea that the first trimester was going to be this hard! I thought that I might throw up a few times, maybe need to sleep a little bit more, etc. I had no idea the other things that come along with it like constipation, bloating, all day nausea and headache feeling like I'm hung over, sore throat, incredibly irritable (this started today, I just am so.. don't even want to deal with anything today lol), generally feel uncomfortable, sore breasts, sense of smell increase, food aversions, feeling starving and then not wanting to eat after the first bite, having difficulty thinking sometimes, dizzy, and so much more. I really honestly didn't know it was going to be this rough and I don't even have it as rough as some of you ladies. I'm feeling like SUCH a wuss but I'm like, "How am I going to get through this pregnancy?" It's like I don't feel tough enough. It makes me scared of how I'm going to handle the birth and handling caring for my wiggly new one. I think having my OH expect SO much of me during this time gives me a skewed perception of what I should be able to expect from myself during this time but I'm not sure. Some women seem totally fine throughout even the first trimester, other women deadly ill with vomitting, and I'm in the terrible in-between of being able to function enough that loads of expectations are put on me that I really can't live up to and I just end up feeling down on myself on TOP of feeling awful physically.

Can someone tell me where I fall in the curve of pregnant ladies? Am I a lazy wuss or is what I'm experiencing normal? I feel so overwhelmed. I could use a hug and ice cream.

 

[Mii]

First Trimester IS hard! Your body is litterally creating a human and you are no wuss it takes a big tole on a persons body! I do hope that once second trimester comes for you things start to calm down a bit

 

[Skywalker]

First Trimester IS hard! Your body is litterally creating a human and you are no wuss it takes a big tole on a persons body! I do hope that once second trimester comes for you things start to calm down a bit

Thanks! I don't know how to prove this to my OH because he won't read anything from online or books as he thinks it's all just overblowing it or putting ideas into people's heads. I don't know why he has this viewpoint but every time I try to tell him that I'm growing a human being inside of me he just sort of shrugs. He thinks I'm getting enough sleep and he watches movies late at night when there's no where else really I could go to sleep. Frustrating! It is good to hear from you though that I'm not a wuss and that it does take a big toll on a person's body! I also hope when the second trimester comes around things will be better!

 

[DD80]

You aren't a wuss. It sucks. Big time. I felt like I had the stomach flu all day every day and the only thing that kinda helped was to eat a little bit all day, but nothing ever sounded good and by the end of the day I was so pissed that I had to eat more. Blah.

 

[Skywalker]

You aren't a wuss. It sucks. Big time. I felt like I had the stomach flu all day every day and the only thing that kinda helped was to eat a little bit all day, but nothing ever sounded good and by the end of the day I was so pissed that I had to eat more. Blah.

I'm so sorry you've felt so rotten as well! It really does help to be able to talk to other people about it!!! Ugh, the best way I can describe it to OH is that I feel like I have a hangover every day.

 

[Mii]

My OH is like that too. but every morning he asks me how I am I tell him "I feel like shit and I just puked" and honestly don't try and convince him, men are stuborn animals lol if you need a nap just say "Hey, I finished doing this, I'm feeling dizzy and tired so Im going to go lay down." I dont give my OH the option lol if I feel like shit I'm going to say I feel like shit and this is what I am going to do to help me not feel like shit. And if he asks "why do you feel like crap" just say "why do you think? I'm pregnant" Men will never know how hard it is dealing with pregnancy. Its like waking up with a horrible hangover but you are expected to function in society like a normal human. It's hard but like I said, if you need a nap , you take a nap! lol (thats been my biggest thing lol)

 

[yeahuloveme]

your not a wuss, it is HARD! not far from second trimester though, the good one, the easy fun one, before you look and feel like a whale worrying about popping !

 

[yeahuloveme]

Sorry this was meant to be a new post! not jump on some one elses!

 

[jerryjo]

I have the exact same thoughts and at the same time I feel guilty for feeling like it because I feel so incredibly lucky to be pregnant and I know how many people would love to be in this situation.
I feel 'off' everyday and everyday is an effort especially socialising which I'm
Avoiding!
I think its really normal and your OH needs to accept its tough on you as your growing his baby!
I have the app on my phone 'what to expect' it gives a countdown of what's happening and I show that to my husband and it also says what symptoms to expect. It's good because he can understand exactly what's going on inside me! Maybe try that? It's not like chucking a book in front of him its just short and to the point? xx

 

[HBGirl]

It does get better. I was MISERABLE between 6 and 9 weeks and then it started slacking off. The past two days I have noticed it pickung up but the exhaustion has stayed away.

My DH has douche moments but on the whole accepts what I am saying. I did force him to read a few articles etc but he has been doing his own reading. He loves nothing more then using Google to prove me wrong and I have a feeling it back fired because after our first major blow up he seemed to be more understanding and have a bit more information to quote.

 

[PandaMao]

You're not being a wuss at all. I feel like I've hard our fairly easy as I haven't thrown up at all, but I still feel like I've been hit by a bus everyday. If I don't get at least 10 hours of sleep a night I feel like a zombie and don't even get me started on food. Since I've hit 10 weeks I have noticed a lot of my symptoms diminishing so there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I wish I had done advice about your husband, but mine has been relatively supportive. Hopefully yours comes around soon.

 

[bamm]

you're not a wuss! First tri is a freaking struggle! It sucks that so many won't announce it publicly, and it's the trimester where you want to complain the most but have to keep it hush hush! I'd give anything to have a proper facebook whinge

I'm struggling today too - the emotions have started, I am SO bloated and sick of not wanting anything but junk to eat We are halfway done though!

The second trimester is the best - you feel better, you show obviously with a bump that's not too big so you're not as uncomfy, we just have to get through the not so fun part!

 

[FarmMom]

I totally understand. I've been tired and nauseated for three weeks, but tonight has been the worst so far (I'm 9+4). Horrible heartburn all night, got sick for the first time, now I can't sleep. Not sure how i'll function at work tomorrow. Luckily my dh is very supportive, because we have a farm and a ton of animals and he's had to ake on a lot of the workload. I still do as much as i can, but it's difficult.

 

[Misscalais]

Hehe this post made me giggle.
You're not a wuss you are human, and sometimes pregnancy is just hard to deal with 1st tri is the worst then like the last 8 weeks ( was for me anyway lol )

 

[Skywalker]

I have the exact same thoughts and at the same time I feel guilty for feeling like it because I feel so incredibly lucky to be pregnant and I know how many people would love to be in this situation.
I feel 'off' everyday and everyday is an effort especially socialising which I'm
Avoiding!
I think its really normal and your OH needs to accept its tough on you as your growing his baby!
I have the app on my phone 'what to expect' it gives a countdown of what's happening and I show that to my husband and it also says what symptoms to expect. It's good because he can understand exactly what's going on inside me! Maybe try that? It's not like chucking a book in front of him its just short and to the point? xx

Lol, I went to the What to Expect website and showed him which week I was and had him read it and he was like, "This is such bull!" He thought that now because I'd read it, I'd start thinking I had all of the symptoms, not the other way around. So frustrating lol, that's when I stopped trying to show him anything. It's just that for whatever reason he is convinced that anything written about pregnancy or anything women have to say about pregnancy is a bunch of overblown whining, pretty much. He just doesn't understand. He has a pretty sturdy constitution, so he doesn't get sick that often and is just works through it anyway if he does so he doesn't understand why other people don't/can't. I agree with you too Mii, I have started to get that attitude with him of "Well, I'm going to feel like shit whether or not you believe I do and I'm going to do what I need to do to not feel like shit, so you can either accept it or not." I think that's gone further in convincing him than anything else because I just got to the point I didn't care about convincing him (though I wished and still wish he would have more understanding and empathy) and that's more convincing than anything lol

 

[Skywalker]

Hehe this post made me giggle.
You're not a wuss you are human, and sometimes pregnancy is just hard to deal with 1st tri is the worst then like the last 8 weeks ( was for me anyway lol )

How are you doing and feeling?? Thanks for your post, I totally feel SOOOO much better hearing everything all of you ladies have to say! It's very reassuring, and it's so good to hear that there's light at the end of the tunnel. I can't wait to feel more normal because I've always looked forward to being pregnant in my life and I want to be able to have fun with it, enjoy it and celebrate it! I want to be able to function and not feel like I have people pissed off at me because I can't do as much as they think I should.

 

[Moom7900]

You're not being a wuss at all - first tri is hard work, and I didn't have it as bad as many ladies!! I felt very irritable and out of sorts, was worrying all the time, had thumping headaches and very little energy. I've never had the "bloom" that you wait for, I just feel drained and knackered. Now I'm nearly 31 weeks and feel like I'm about 105 years old, and am constantly moaning lol. I hear myself sounding whiny and don't like it, but it really does take over your body. Nothing works in quite the same way, things ache that didn't before.......BUT it's still better than first tri!! I never had nausea, so the differences may not be as obvious to me, but you will definitely feel better!

Some women feel amazing in second tri. You're also feeling it emotionally, so feeling like a wuss is most likely a symptom of hormones too! When you're shattered and hormonal and feeling ill, it's no wonder it gets you down. It's like PMT on steroids.

Hope you feel better soon xxxxxxxxx

 

[Skywalker]

You're not being a wuss at all - first tri is hard work, and I didn't have it as bad as many ladies!! I felt very irritable and out of sorts, was worrying all the time, had thumping headaches and very little energy. I've never had the "bloom" that you wait for, I just feel drained and knackered. Now I'm nearly 31 weeks and feel like I'm about 105 years old, and am constantly moaning lol. I hear myself sounding whiny and don't like it, but it really does take over your body. Nothing works in quite the same way, things ache that didn't before.......BUT it's still better than first tri!! I never had nausea, so the differences may not be as obvious to me, but you will definitely feel better!

Some women feel amazing in second tri. You're also feeling it emotionally, so feeling like a wuss is most likely a symptom of hormones too! When you're shattered and hormonal and feeling ill, it's no wonder it gets you down. It's like PMT on steroids.

Hope you feel better soon xxxxxxxxx

Lol I think you're on to something with the hormones because OH hasn't even said anything mean or derogatory about my napping/tiredness in like two days and has been bringing me hot chocolates so I think I am overreacting to stuff he's said in the recent past. Also I started to tear up when reading your comment? So yes, I think my hormones are a little whacked right now lol. Feeling sad and cry-y for no reason! Thanks for your comment and I can't wait to feel better either Sorry that you're feeling 105 years old and I hope you start to feel better soon too!!!!

 

[little moomin]

First tri is lame. I think some people breeze through cos its different for everyone. Last time i felt like you do, actually thought i couldn't get through this and will never do it again, this time different story its more like i expected, feeling rough but manageable just bad luck sorry!

 

[trinarose]

The first trimester can be really hard, I hated it. It doesn't make you a wuss, people very rarely tell you about how it can be and everyone's is different. I was sick all of the time in mine and had bleeding. It should ease off after a bit, it just takes your body a while to change to suit the things happening your best bet is to rest when you need to and avoid people who you know will make you want to kill them instantly, if you got annoyed with these people when you weren't pregnant avoid them while you really irritable lol. Once your body is getting used to it you should start being able to enjoy things a lot more

Good Luck