i HATE my midwifes, there never EVER there for me!!!

[lauralora]

i am so angry this morning!!!

i honestly dont no what my midwifes do, but EVERY time in my pregnancy that ive needed advice or support they never answer there phones! i leave messsages and they dont ring back, this has twice now resulted in me having to go to the hospital because i cant see my own midwife, now i understand alot of the time maybe i am just worrying, but even the time i thought my waters had broke they didnt pick up!


i think im suffering with abit of anxiety today and last night, i had some cramps which i think is round ligament but they kept me up untill 3am and now im just aching, and i really want to just go to the health centre so they will listen to the heartbeat so i can relax again, but there just not answering the phone!!

what am i supposed to do? i no this isnt an emergency but i want some bloody reassurance TODAY!!

girls i am in such a bad mood , what should i do? theres no way im going through another night of anxiety like i did last night, i want to be seen today for peice of mind, surely im entitled to that!!

sorry that ive ranted, i think this has been my first real rant on this forum lol xx

 

[Drazic<3]

You rant away Missus, you have every right to! I rang my midwife for the first time today as they are messing me about with my test results and she just said 'it will probably be fine' - I was like, 'thanks, that's so helpful'

Have you got a doppler hun? Maybe you could treat yourself so if you are feeling anxious you can find the heartbeat yourself. You are doing so great, please try not to panic too much (impossible, I know!)

Sending

 

[lauralora]

there horrible some of them arent they?!

ive been looking at dopplers , i wanted to go into town and buy one but seems you can only get them online as the ones in mothercare and argos dont work very good ive been told.

im going to carry on trying to ring them, im not letting them just ignore me, theyve got to pick up the phone at some point in the day surely!

thanks for quick reply hun xx

 

[Drazic<3]

Defo, keep ringing - it's what they are paid for! If not, go down to the hospital and ask for reassurance. I have an angelsounds I brought when I was pregnant with Edan. Shame we don't live nearer as you could happily borrow it so I don't try and use it too early!

I know it doesn't help with today but if you get one off ebay it should be here before the weekend?

 

[lauralora]

well, i rang the doctors surgery and totally lost my temper (whic is really unlike me, i surprised myself!) and the receptionist was really understanding she said its no good for me sat at home worrying and booked me in to see the triage nurse, im not really sure what there job role is, but as long as she can work a doppler she will do for me lol.

and yes ive going to go put some money in the bank after ive been to see the nurse then buy a doppler online

hows things with you hun, any symptoms or worries? xx

 

[Archies Mummy]

I feel like ive got the same problem hun, i phoned my midwife the other day because i was having spotting. Anyways they didnt even answer in the end i phoned my docs and they checked me over. Its like they dont have time, du know what i mean?

 

[lauralora]

I deffo no what you mean hun, i no im not the only pregnant woman on the planet lol but im obviously not a priorty to any midwife. its always the doctors or hospital that have to check me out aswell. i think there only really interested in seeing you when your nearly due or after the babys born, us girls who are struggling to make it to the point seem to be shoved aside, well thats how i feel xx

 

[littleblonde]

If there not able to check heartbeat (my doctors couldnt) then ask them to call early pregnancy at the hospital and see if they will see you. I have rubbish midwife aswell. No answer phone and she never answers. So i just get myself seen at the hoispital. They recognise my voice now lol

 

[Archies Mummy]

OMG.....M8 i feel exactly the same. especially at the stage i am now its like im too early too start panicking and if its a m/c then its natures way bol****s, just because its nothing to do with them doesnt mean it means any less to me. They were exactly the same with my son aswell, probably worse actually. sorry to rant, lol.

XxX

 

[lauralora]

If there not able to check heartbeat (my doctors couldnt) then ask them to call early pregnancy at the hospital and see if they will see you. I have rubbish midwife aswell. No answer phone and she never answers. So i just get myself seen at the hoispital. They recognise my voice now lol

thats ace lol least you get seen to! would they even see me though, i thought early pregnancy was for people before 12 weeks so they wouldnt be interested in me xx

 

[lauralora]

OMG.....M8 i feel exactly the same. especially at the stage i am now its like im too early too start panicking and if its a m/c then its natures way bol****s, just because its nothing to do with them doesnt mean it means any less to me. They were exactly the same with my son aswell, probably worse actually. sorry to rant, lol.

XxX

yeah totally understand where your coming from, ive been ranting over the same thing all day long, ive got an appointment at 3pm to see nurse and hopefully listen to HB so keep your fingers crossed for me theres one there

 

[Archies Mummy]

If anything they should have a closer eye on you because of how many weeks you are. Im still first tri so i dont think there as concerned.

 

[LouLou78]

I suppose as long as you have a genuine concern i.e. pain, bleeding, no movements etc, then there shouldn't be a problem someone seeing you. But as long as it is not just for them to hear the heart cause that isn't a reason to call. Unfortunately my midwife is very busy with postnatal visits and problems with antenatals as her workload is very busy with woman over 20weeks. Unfortunately, if your less than 20 weeks here, if there is a concern with bleeding etc than it is viewed to be the territory of Gynae/EPU with some units requiring a GP referral before being able to be seen by them for these concerns.

 

[Drazic<3]

well, i rang the doctors surgery and totally lost my temper (whic is really unlike me, i surprised myself!) and the receptionist was really understanding she said its no good for me sat at home worrying and booked me in to see the triage nurse, im not really sure what there job role is, but as long as she can work a doppler she will do for me lol.

and yes ive going to go put some money in the bank after ive been to see the nurse then buy a doppler online

hows things with you hun, any symptoms or worries? xx

Good luck for the doctors hun. I'm alright - as always, a mess! I had swabs taken last week for possible infection and they told me today it will be an extra week to get the results which SUCKS! All because they are moving surgery! I am pretty certain it's thrush though so trying not to go loopy as it can't harm bubs which is all I am bothered about.

Roll on September - by then you will have your bubs well and truly safely here and hopefully so will I

 

[lauralora]

well, i rang the doctors surgery and totally lost my temper (whic is really unlike me, i surprised myself!) and the receptionist was really understanding she said its no good for me sat at home worrying and booked me in to see the triage nurse, im not really sure what there job role is, but as long as she can work a doppler she will do for me lol.

and yes ive going to go put some money in the bank after ive been to see the nurse then buy a doppler online

hows things with you hun, any symptoms or worries? xx

Good luck for the doctors hun. I'm alright - as always, a mess! I had swabs taken last week for possible infection and they told me today it will be an extra week to get the results which SUCKS! All because they are moving surgery! I am pretty certain it's thrush though so trying not to go loopy as it can't harm bubs which is all I am bothered about.

Roll on September - by then you will have your bubs well and truly safely here and hopefully so will I

ahh i no how you feel, i remember being 6 - 9 weeks and i had thrush twice and BV i used to get discharge all the time and i always thought it was blood, you will get to where i am before you no it, and hopefully you will handle the second trimester better than i am
im ok most todays but today for some reason im just going loopy! xx

 

[Drazic<3]

Thanks darling. Did they check bubs for you?
-x-

 

[lauralora]

yeah the midwife actually ended up coming to see me ....

when i went to see the nurse for some reason i started crying when i explained my worries to her, so she personally phoned the midwife and arranged me a home visit.
the midwife came to see me at around 5pm and she fetched her doppler, she listend in and everything sounded great, i asked her alot of questions, such as if there wasnt any fluid around baby would she be able to feel this? and she said yes she would but she could feel the baby had fluid around it, so i was really pleased.
so im feeling alot better this evening just got to hang in there till my scan now!
x

 

[Drazic<3]

Im really pleased your feeling better darling - you know what it's like - good days and bad days. Not long until that scan now