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Everyone mostly knows my story of how I lost my Ava and that is all true except for one thing. As you all know I was 18 weeks and a half and I was prepared for a D & E the night before well I didn't know what that was until I got home and did some research on it, my best friend knew but she didn't tell me Anyway I went into mild labor at 1 am the night before about 6pm I was fitted with that seaweed stuff that they put up you to open your cervix for the D&E so it will be easier to remove the baby. Well, I didn't say anything about the labor ( To my husband ) it was not that bad then at 5 am it got bad and I took my time telling my husband and I knew my water would break and I would give birth at the hospital as they would not have time to do the procedure cause I was already in hard labor, I knew my labor would be 2 hrs tops and she would be out. But I calculated wrong and as I went to put on my shoes my water broke and she came out on the toilet bowl I don't know why I didn't lay on the floor my instinct was just to run to the toilet, I didn't think it was Ava coming out I just thought maybe I was passing a clot or something. Anyway I never told my husband what I did and I know this whole thing traumatized him As he had to hold the cord up while I was screaming waiting for the EMS. I think if he knew what I have done he would be very angry, I didn't want that operation and I didn't want to be out under the anesthesia , I was so scared. I just can't tell him what i did I have not told anyone till now, am I a bad person for doing this ? I feel awful but i just could not go through with the D & E once I knew what it was, I know it was necessary and I am not saying it is wrong for people but for me it was not the right thing, that is all. So do you think I should admit what I did or just leave it be I feel awful about lying and about what I did to my husband .
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