I lied :S

[aliss]

Aliss your fun, somehow you took a girl getting an early ultrasound scan and made it about cancer. I know about cancer, i have lost quite a lot of good friends and family to it, i know they need scans and tests and my heart goes out to them. I also know, if i don't go for a scan, it wont make them better, it wont effect them at all.

You think it doesn't affect these people? You think that thousands of women using up ultrasound technicians, equipments, doctors, resources, doesn't affect them - after all, a scan won't actually CURE it, right?

Oh, well, then you really are hopeless.

 

[SleepyBaby]

lol im hopeless?

i had a weird period and the doctor didnt take it as an AF so suddenly im killing ppl? catch yourself on!

 

[aliss]

lol im hopeless?

i had a weird period and the doctor didnt take it as an AF so suddenly im killing ppl? catch yourself on!

Nobody said you were killing people. We're saying you're using additional resources that others with actual medical conditions need. And are you trying to change this to "Oh, well I didn't know AF"? Funny, I recall the title of this thread being "I lied" with a funny face.

I myself don't have an ultrasound until next month, I have no date, because my 9 week MC was only 3 months ago and no typical period. That does NOT give me the right to use up medical resources for those who have real health conditions. You understand that women like "us", post MC and worried, are a dime a dozen. Yes, it obviously affects you personally, but that doesn't give you the right to lie to health care providers at the expense of others. You are self-entitled and I really hope it doesn't bite you in the ass one day when you have an actual health problem. I'd like to see how you feel waiting in a room for 6,8,10 hours bleeding out of your vagina because someone is "worried". I've been there. It's horrible.

 

[Mindy_mini]

so i lied.. i put it a month back which would equal my 12 week scan really being at about 8/9 weeks.. should i have done this, i feel really bad as lying doesn't come easy to me, i cant keep story stright, tho i didnt fully lie, i kinda told her half truths, my lmp was early and short and light, but anyway now i feel really bad about lying, but then im thinking its ok because i really want it to put my mind at ease about bean

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did i full on tell lies.. well no not really, i said what could have been my last AF was lighter than normal, which it was, i said it came early, which it did, i said it only lasted 2 days instead of the normal 5, which it did.

What i didnt say was that imo it was to heavy for implantation.

this does not make me selfish, nor does it say i think im more important that other people, how does ' i want to make sure my babys ok' turn into ' im so much more important than her' ?

If someone was bleeding and needed a scan there and then while i was there ofc i would step back and say go ahead, point is if someone was there in trouble with there pregnancy they would be seen before me, i wouldnt be stopping them from being seen.

A lot if back tracking here. First you say you lied about your lmp and put it back a month then you say you think the lmp was different. Did you tell you doctor this? If you didn't then you've lied.

I diagree with your last statement in SOOO many ways. Do you honestly expect us to beleive if you were sat waiting for your reassurance scan and they said "sorry there's a more urgent case" you'd accept that you couldn't have your scan? You'd be happy with that? I think not!

 

[aliss]

Anyways, I have reported this thread. If you want to brag about lying to get services, find somewhere else to do it. Not somewhere full of women who wait hours and hours when they have real medical problems.

3 months ago I sat 11 hours in an emergency room bleeding from my vagina, my first night away from my 1 year old ever, because of a backlog of services. But hey, you're worried, so who cares how it affects others. Your worry about a currently normal pregnancy is just as important as a real active miscarriage, isn't it?

 

[forestfire]

This thread is out of control! Sleepybaby it is an emotive issue for all mums to be and you have to expect some criticism, your title says you lied and now you are trying to say you didnt lie but you know you did lol! I couldn't afford a private scan either but I found the cash by budgeting and cutting back. I don't think we should all be on a witch hunt here, we all have our concerns and if we think that people don't play the system then we are a bit naive!

 

[bevan88]

Oh, well, then you really are hopeless.[/QUOTE]

Is this not getting a bit personal? Opnions yes but calling some one hopless for there view on something being right or worng?

To be frank as much as Miscarrages are common, we all suffer them and feel and deal with them diffo to one another, so they are hard, but some of us struggle more than others with the aftermath, no one is more important than anyone else, but we are all indvduals with indivdual needs... so some of us may need more reassurance than others to deal with things better, it doesnt make them hopless just Human.

 

[booflebump]

I knew this wouldn't take long.

Lying to get medical services - whether you think you should be entitled to them or not - is never going to go down well, as is evident here.

When it comes to your health - honesty is always the best policy. Regardless of what you think - a medically unneccessary scan does cost the NHS time and money that could be spent elsewhere. Getting reassurance is fine - but it shouldn't be obtained falsely or to the detriment of others.

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