melany - give yourself some time to grieve and don't make any plans about the future - take it day by day, and look after yourself and your LO (and OH, too!) I had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage (not the same, I know) and it was very hard, almost holding my breath for 36wks (he was born early due to my pre-eclampsia, but he was always healthy, and is now a lively, slightly demented 2 year old+).
Treat yourself gently....
best wishes