I love dealing with infertility because...

[Cridge]

Hi ladies,

I don't want anyone to take this the wrong way, but I feel like there have been so many heartbreaking posts lately of women that are feeling totally overtaken by their infertility. Losing faith, giving up, deep depression. It's definitely something we deal with in our ltttc lives. I thought it would be nice for us to think of the benefits, the positive aspects, of our lives during this time. It's hard to focus on anything but ttc, but I believe that there is plenty of happiness to be had out there even through our sorrows.

So I'll start. Here are some benefits I have found during my struggles with ttc.

-Natural birth control! I don't have to worry about bcp or iud or any of that. I provide my own birth control.

-My dh and I are able to go out whenever we want. Our lives would be totally different if we had the gaggle of kids we always thought we'd have. We've been able to spend some great quality time together over the years.

-I get more sleep than my friends/family with a bunch of kids. I love my sleep!

-I save a lot more $$ than my friends/family with a bunch of kids.

-I have lots of time to spend on my own interests, hobbies and talents. With all that sleep I'm getting, and money I'm saving, I have time and the ability to pretty much do whatever I want.

So that's why I "love" dealing with infertility. What are your reasons?

 

[IrishGirl]

I hope you dont mind me posting here still.But this is a super threadI just had to tell you hun

 

[SweetJennie]

One plus side to this is that once we all get our sticky BFP we will really and truly appreciate what we have.

 

[Cridge]

sweetjennie - it's so true!

 

[Jasiellover]

All the BD'ing

 

[NavyWife84]

Meeting the ladies on bnb and having people to talk to so openly!

Really getting to know my cycle...before charting I had no clue what was going on with my body!

Quality time with my DH and really appreciating him for being with me every step of the way!

Being able to get our house and careers completely stable before throwing LOs into the mix.

Spending lots of QT with my furbabies...I hear a lot of people end up kind of neglecting their pets when they have kids

Being able to go on our honeymoon 3 years late!

Being able to relax after work rather than running around, making dinner, getting kids to sports practice/clubs/dance, etc!

Wow! Great post! I didn't know I had so many blessings that come with my infertility!

 

[readyformore]

It's funny that you posted this because I was just thinking about if I had gotten pregnant when I first started trying and how it would have affected my life.

Mainly, I think it would have been difficult for my toddler. She's 2.5 years and takes all of my energy to keep her safe, lol! I can't imagine how I would manage another sweet (but completely dependant) infant at the same time. My daughter is thriving in her place as being the youngest child. I'm sure she will love a sibling if another comes along, but she really needs my attention now. Maybe the waiting is okay for a little while longer (someone remind me of this in 9 days when AF comes and I am crying. ok?)

 

[mg80]

Great idea for a thread to help us be a bit more positive

I second what you said about natural birth control. I will never go back on the pill again, EVER!!

I'm glad that I get to spend lots of quality time with my DH going out to eat or going on holiday and just enjoying our time together. Also lie-ins on weekends, and being able to stay in bed without any demands on us, and knowing we can have sex any time we want which is prob not possible with little kids around!

 

[SpicyWolf]

Great post - I definitely needed a reminder of this this week!

Mine are:
- being able to finish my law degree while working full time - definitely couldn't have done that with kids!
- DH and I getting financially secure
- Can still BD anytime and anywhere in the house
- freedom to travel
- growing closer to DH during our struggles

 

[Amber3]

I think we truly have learned to appreciate the gift of life and children more, and when we finally have children we will be better parents than if we had not been through the long wait.
I also appreciated that I learned a lot about how the female body works and I learned a lot about nutrition and fertility. I will always pass on what I have learned and actually I once gave a woman advise on how she should eat with her condition (endometriosis) to relieve pain and enhance fertility and after a short time she told me she had gotten pregnant because of the dietary change
Amber

 

[bebehope]

In the end....Infertility makes you a better, greatful, stronger, more aware mother!!

 

[Titi]

: ) thanks for the happy post......I've been ltttc so long I stick to ltttc journals and haven't even browsed the main page in I dont know how long-but this was a nice change! : )

 

[Lisa1]

Coming home on a Monday nite after work and getting into bed for several hours if I had kids I'd never be able to do that!

Oh Nc sleeping till 1 on a Saturday and Sunday

 

[Titi]

Hi Lisa1-I'm also ttc#1 35+..................

 

[~Hope~]

Having more time to save money - every time the witch arrives I try and think of the extra salary payment and money going into my savings account. I've already saved up enough to take an extra year off when the baby arrives

 

[Evon47]

This is a cool thread. For me; more money to treat urself I.e. Lots of designer bags!. Still dh's no 1! Appreciates life and health more. And I totally agreed, when/if v did get preg, v will appreciate every single aspects of it more.

Ha.....I feel better already

 

[Feisty Fidget]

What a lovely idea!

I love dealing with infertility because;

After nagging for over 3 years DH gave in and finally let me get a fur baby, my beautiful Boo Bear, we wouldn't have her if we had children.

Having the freedom to give up working full time to focus on my own business and reap the rewards that this gives me.

Being able to be completely selfish with DH and plan lots of fun things to do like trips to London, theme parks etc which would be near impossible with a baby.

Being able to maintain a close relationship with DH, he will always be my soul mate but I know that once children come along we wont be able to spend so much time together.

SLEEP! I am a complete monster if I have to make do with anything less then 8 hours, this is the biggest thing that I am NOT looking forward to about having children.

Having the finances to part buy our first home and have a wonderful wedding which we would never have been able to afford if we had children!

 

[Cridge]

Thanks ladies! I'm having a really bum day today and I'm so happy to see that you ladies are enjoying my thread. It makes me feel better!

 

[Lisa1]

Hi titi

Bloody hard work I'm not 37 been ttc for 2yrs now how long have you?

 

[Titi]

Hi Lisa! Over two years! We started 01/2009. Stupid here right now. I honestly don't feel like it can happen for us!!! Do you have a journal?

Cridge-I'm sorry you had/are having a bad day! I had bad pms this week and it made everything so much bleaker. I'm usually optimistic but had a really hard time too.

So-here are some of my favorite things about infertility:

TONS of new BNB girlfriends! (made some VERY good ones over the years too!!)

Sex everywhere in our house (and out of it too!)

3 Vacations a year!

SLEEP!

Practically renovated our whole house and yard since ttc which we never would have done if babies had come along when expected.

Know DH and I can whether tough things most couples don't ever face

Have never experienced the RING OF FIRE! : )