I need help..

[msq]

I've had two miscarriages & I thought that maybe after hitting the 24 week (viability) point I'd worry less but I find myself worrying even more. But honestly I don't think I will stop worrying until she is actually here & healthy and even then I'll probably continue worrying.

The reason I'm constantly worrying is because I get some symptoms that freak me out every once in awhile...they seem to alternate day by day and sometimes I'll have more than one at once and those days are especially hard for me.

I get really severe back pain sometimes and it isn't even from doing too much, it will strike me when I'm just sitting in the car or on the couch and last for hours sometimes and most of the time tylenol doesn't help.

I get what I think are braxton hicks contractions and I don't know when I should really worry about those.

I get really strong vaginal pressure occasionally, it feels as if she is going to push her way out my cervix.

I get a really heavy tight feeling pretty much everytime I stand up or sit up straight... the only time it isn't there is when I'm laying on my side & even then I get it occasionally.

and now today I've had abdominal cramping which freaks me out as well. I don't know how I'm going to make the next 16 weeks without worrying about something going wrong. I want my baby to stay put for the next 4ish months and be born strong and healthy. I sometimes can't wait for the day to be over so I can start a new one the next day & be one day closer to safety. I wish there was a way I could be put to sleep for the remainder of my pregnancy until it's time for her to come out. Please help me ladies. I need support. I need to know when it is understandable to worry & when I am just over reacting. I just want to make it to my due date and deliver a happy healthy beautiful baby.

TIA
Amanda

 

[councilmom]

I'm so excited for you. I think it's quite normal to feel that way...After I mis-carried, everytime I would feel just a little bit of joy, I would be worried that something would happen to take that away. It was a nerve racking experience when I finally had my baby. Every little ache, or pain I found myself running to the internet, but it subsided as I got further and further down the road. It never went away, but it went from a 20 on the scale down to a 7 or 8 by the end of my term.

It will get easier, but I doubt it will ever go away. Congrats!
-CM

 

[msq]

Thanks hun. I'm trying to remain as positive as possible. For me having miscarriages at 6 and 10 weeks was really hard emotionally & now that I've felt this baby move and seen her grow on ultrasounds I just could not imagine losing her. I'm very hopeful that I will make it to term and that everything I'm experiencing is normal, it is just so hard not to worry because I know how quickly this happiness and love can be ripped away from me.

Thank you for your support.

 

[Pretty Please]

Hi Amanda,

Yes it completely natural for you to be stressed out! The chances of you MC are tiny now and nearly into 3rd tri - woo hoo.

I have had 5 MC and I have terrible back, shooting pains and the worst is that I feel like this baby is going to pop out from the pressure it is putting on me. I went to the Dr about it last week and she said that the baby weight is just pushing down on you and sometimes you can get veins inside which irritate you adding to this pressure but nothing can be done about it. Talked to my sister and she said wait until your further to due date "it feels like your baby is going to come out of your bottom". So I reckon its all normal and its just pressure and the weight of the baby - its completely freaks me out too.

Once you have gone through a MC i think you stress more and no one will ever be happy until they have baby in their arms and breathing )

Hope your next few weeks go quickly for you, xxx