I really cant handle it :(

[jackiea85]

Don't listen to your OH, you are not a shit mother! The first few weeks/months are hard for everyone, you are just getting to know your baby so it is really hard to work out what he wants or needs. My baby is 3 months old now and there are still times that I have no idea what he wants, he just cries and grizzles. Please don't feel like you are a failure, things will get better, honest xx

 

[aurora32]

Thanks that was really helpful.

Im willing to try anything so we'll see how tonight goes then Im gonna have to try something different.

Hes on SMA gold btw.
xx

well if he is on gold cap and you want to keep with SMa try getting a few cartons of the blue one for a few feeds thats for hungrier babies and try it for 48 hours using that and see if it makes a difference dont ask health visitor just do it your baby you do what u feel he needs, or like i say Aptamil extra hungry is the purple tub again you could try cartons for 48 hours to see if thats the problem.
Hope you dont feel im interfering and if it looks like that sorry
Im here if you need to chat.......

 

[Sophie1205]

No its fine. thats good advice thank you. I will try that, I think it will help actually cuz hes getting to be a little piggy recently lol!

xxx

 

[aurora32]

No its fine. thats good advice thank you. I will try that, I think it will help actually cuz hes getting to be a little piggy recently lol!

xxx

Lets hope so hunn.......

 

[brownhairedmom]

He could be going through a growth spurt too!

I put Renah down at 12:30am. She feeds, has a diaper change and then manages to sleep until 7:30, feeds, sleeps till 9:30, feeds then sleeps till 11:30. It might not be the best schedule for some but its the best schedule for us. The later she feeds, the more likely she is to go to sleep the whole night.

 

[charliebear]

Your a great mammy hun. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

I know how you feel with the crying, i find it really hard sometimes when i cant figure out whats wrong.
One night i even put LO in the carseat and turned all lights and tv off and sat on the sofa like we were in the car! It worked though
We still dont have a routine and LO feeds at different times but has now slept through a total of 3 nights since saturday!!

Hope things get better hun, everyones advice sounds good too. x

 

[mommyof3co]

You said he usually wakes at 12am for a feed then won't go back down until 4am? Maybe try keeping it dark and really quiet, don't play with him, just feed and change him then rock him or whatever you do to get him back to sleep. If you don't stimulate him and show him he isn't missing out on anything maybe you an get him to go back down faster?

 

[Tiff]

I'm so sorry hun! That's awful that your OH said those things to you. You are definintely not a failure as a mother! It's a huge responsiblity being a Mom, and it's definitely not easy.

I have my moments too, Claire has taken to biting while she's trying to feed, and I am so, so sore. She was having a really fussy moment earlier today and I just sat and cried, didn't feel like I could cope at all. You are definitely not alone. I'm sure everyone one of us has doubted that we've been doing a good job at times.

I hope your OH sees the error of his ways with saying stuff like that. He needs to be supportive of you right now, not condecending!

 

[CamoQueen]

You are NOT a bad mother, how could your OH say that? When your baby is crying unconsolably it is the number one most horrible thing in the world, I know.

If you think you'd be at all comfortable co-sleeping, I'd really recommend it. I was totally against it, until about day 3 of David refusing to sleep in his crib. He would just wail and cry, and I kept on falling asleep in the recliner with him in my arms. Now he sleeps next to me in bed, and he'll usually go 2-4 hours without waking to eat, which is pretty darn good for a breastfed baby, I think -- and he goes straight to sleep afterward, with no fussing.

I've been getting my 8 hours ever since we started co-sleeping; it is really a miracle what one good night of sleep will do for your poor, tired psyche. I really hope you find your key to sleeping soon... I know what lack of sleep can do to a woman. Your frustration is totally warranted!

 

[nessajane]

hey hun, how did you get on last night with leo? x x

 

[aurora32]

Hey Sophie,

How did last night go with LO any better?

 

[bambikate]

sending you x x

 

[Sophie1205]

Thank you so much for everyones advice. Im taking it all in.
He slept a little better last night actually. I took him in the bath with me at 11.30pm then fed and changed him and he only settled at 2am which is a bit better for him. Then he woke again at 5, fed and changed him. Then he slept till 9.
It was a bit better than normal but its just that hes not settling till about 2am and Id really like him to be asleep a bit earlier.

I tried to get some cartons of the hungrier baby milk today but couldnt find them. Where are they sold?

I have another problem now too.. we live with OH's Mum and she keeps taking him off me!! Its driving me mad. Like the other day I was holding him and he started to cough so I sat him up and he threw up on me and she took him out of my arms and started to rub his back!!! Like i cant do it myself. And now shes just took him off me again. So Im just sat up here without my baby.

I went through the pain of labour to have my baby taken off me all the time.

xx

 

[aurora32]

Thank you so much for everyones advice. Im taking it all in.
He slept a little better last night actually. I took him in the bath with me at 11.30pm then fed and changed him and he only settled at 2am which is a bit better for him. Then he woke again at 5, fed and changed him. Then he slept till 9.
It was a bit better than normal but its just that hes not settling till about 2am and Id really like him to be asleep a bit earlier.

I tried to get some cartons of the hungrier baby milk today but couldnt find them. Where are they sold?

I have another problem now too.. we live with OH's Mum and she keeps taking him off me!! Its driving me mad. Like the other day I was holding him and he started to cough so I sat him up and he threw up on me and she took him out of my arms and started to rub his back!!! Like i cant do it myself. And now shes just took him off me again. So Im just sat up here without my baby.

I went through the pain of labour to have my baby taken off me all the time.

xx

The Blue sma cartons you should be able to get from any tesco or asda or any big superstore with all the other tins of baby milk hun, failing that get a tin like the gold one you have and make it up like you are doing with the gold, as for oh's mum you need to politely tell her that its your baby and you need to learn and thats not going to happen if she keeps taking baby off you, hunni dont be walked over like you say you went through labour and its your baby, are you still thinking off moving in somewhere yourself?....

 

[XKatX]

Just tell your mum that you can handle it. When she goes to take him off you, be firm and say you would rather handle it yourself. She'll soon realise that you can manage it and don't need her to interfere.nIt'll be hard, but she needs to learn.

 

[Sophie1205]

Yeah unfortunately its gonna have to be the council route for me for now. Only untill i can get through Uni then when I earn enough to get a privately rented house I will. But I have to move out one way or another.

I got Leo those Blue cartons last night and I had the worst night with him ever. I bathed him then gave him his bottle (the hungrier baby milk) and he screamed from 9pm till 6am and fed every 3 hours! I had such an awful night last night. Nothing I did settled him.

xx

 

[aurora32]

can take 24 hours to get into his system to have an affect, plus the change of strength and fact its casein may have made him a bit windy hunn.....

 

[Sophie1205]

Yeah, well ill see how he gets on tonight then. Is it ok that Im giving him SMA gold in the day time and SMA white at night??

xx

 

[6lilpigs]

I'm afraid I can't offer any help to your last question but just wanted to check that you were OK. Council route sounds like best plan definately. If you can get your MIL to write a letter saying that she wants you out in x weeks then they will have to register you as homeless from that date so speeding things up for you, good luck with tonight.

Just a thought, is it maybe worth asking MIL if she could let you go to bed at 9pm and she bring the little fella in to you later on in the evening just to try and grab a bit of recharge for yourself? I know its a bit like going against what you really want but just think of it as a one off emergenct measure.

 

[aurora32]

Yeah, well ill see how he gets on tonight then. Is it ok that Im giving him SMA gold in the day time and SMA white at night??

xx

Id stick to one or the other hunn as you will confuse his little system try the blue for a few days let him and his system get used to it as the blue as i said before is casien based and stays in the tummy longer takes longer to break down making them feel fuller for longer, i dont want to sound patronising but make sure you wind him well and go from there, hope this helps hunn.....