I think I have made myself crazy with worry already...

[socitycourty]

so we are TTC #1. This is the 3rd cycle. I am completely consumed with TTC and worries that I might be infertile or that my DH is infertile. Completely unfounded at the moment, but I worry all the time. I think that reading some posts here and also googling has maybe made me think this way.....I don't know what to think now. Has anyone else felt like this?

 

[Miaowzen]

I have been the same... (hello, I am new here)

We have been "not trying, not preventing" for like a year.

Our first baby was really premmie (born at 25 weeks, just over 2 years ago) and we never got to take him home. I have been getting increasingly stressed the last few cycles because hubby likes to spend plenty of time in the bedroom but I have never got pregnant again!! We didn't actively try last time I got pregnant and so I never did the symptom spotting etc until I threw up at 8 weeks preggers LOL

I think its been long enough and hubby is now agreeable to 'trying' so I was quite specific this month and knew my cycles well (been charting for a year) so my 'knees up' days were perfectly timed. Now I am 8dpo and stressing!!!

 

[Jess137]

I don't want to R&R but I'm not a good person to answer this post, since I have had fertility issues. We have only been TTC 7 months but I was not O'ing (I use OPK's and temping), so my doctor ordered tests. I got on Clomid and now am ovulating. DH did have a SA and came back great.

Do you temp and use OPK's so that you know everything is working ok as far as you go?

 

[socitycourty]

Used OPKs starting last month, got a positive, felt my O....no BFP. This month I am feeling the O pains and expecting a positive OPK tomorrow or so. No temping yet but I plan to start next cycle. I definitely feel the ovulation and notice the signs.....so I'm just confused. My cycles are longish, 31 days.

 

[Faith n Hope]

I feel the same so you are not alone people understand! I am worried about allsorts! I am trying to conceive baby Number 1 and im also on my third cycle! Im so concerned incase we have problems or there is anythingn wrong! Good luck! Lots of baby dust! x

 

[ellie27]

You have to remember that the folk on ttc are not a guide to go by.......most folk on here have found the site as they are having troubles conceiving.

And I guess it doesnt help when you read about so many women who have been trying a long time, and you think that could be you soon..

There are lots of women in the pregnancy boards who only joined when they found out they were pregnant.

Good luck!

Dont feel down, be positive that you will get pregnant soon!

 

[Coogee]

thanks for starting this thread!!!!!

This is also our 3rd month trying to conceive.I think you and I have the same cycles (i remember you profile picture from a previous thread. I'm testing on the 30th?? (If I remember correctly).

I'm so happy someone else feels like me and OH. We are both young (mid twenties lol) and when I told my friend this is our 3rd month ttc. He said, well he never had that issue when he planned a baby with his girlfriend and there must be something wrong w my OH spermies, needles to say I'm not telling my OH he said this!!!

My mother conceived all 4 her children the first month they tried, thus there is a perfect age gap between all of us and all our birthdays are in the start of the year, just like she wanted it to be.I feel like a failure (I know I'm overreacting) lol excuses the rant.

 

[broodybelle]

I feel the same - only our second cycle of TTC but we could have got pregnant when I came off the pill three months before that. Just feel certain that we're going to struggle even though it is totally unfounded!

xx

 

[socitycourty]

I think also by nature I am extrememly pessimistic and basically went into this thinking it would be hard....I need to get my head in a positive way but IDK how!

I don't remember if we chatted about cycles or not? I have not gotten my positive OPK yet but should today hopefully. Have not even thought of HPTs yet LOL

 

[jchic]

Dont feel that way. This is our 3rd cycle TTC and honestly, I stress myself out over NOTHING! I went to my doc like a crazy person and he ran all tests and I am completely ok, so is DH. I know its hard when you read things on the boards, but think of this place as support for ttc. Every woman is different. Dont worry until there is something to worry about! Remember 85% of couples concieve naturally within 1 year. That's awesome odds right there

 

[Peanut Love]

I do the exact same thing. I'm only on my 2nd cycle of TTC and am freaking out over every little cramp and pinch. I have no reason to believe I cannot get preggers, I am healthy, always had regular periods, I am ovulating, I eat right, take vitamins, am thin, all the stuff you want to be when trying to get pregnant. And yet, the worry sets in.

These forums are so helpful in just having a person hear you out and support you. But, there are also so many people here who cannot conceive and it gets a little overwhelming when you read about it. Continue to be positive (I know, we all hate when people say that) but seriously, think future ahead. I'm not telling myself, "You have to get a BFP this month" I'm just giving myself until January before I get totally worried. That way, it takes the pressure off.

 

[jchic]

I do the exact same thing. I'm only on my 2nd cycle of TTC and am freaking out over every little cramp and pinch. I have no reason to believe I cannot get preggers, I am healthy, always had regular periods, I am ovulating, I eat right, take vitamins, am thin, all the stuff you want to be when trying to get pregnant. And yet, the worry sets in.

These forums are so helpful in just having a person hear you out and support you. But, there are also so many people here who cannot conceive and it gets a little overwhelming when you read about it. Continue to be positive (I know, we all hate when people say that) but seriously, think future ahead. I'm not telling myself, "You have to get a BFP this month" I'm just giving myself until January before I get totally worried. That way, it takes the pressure off.

Good Plan!

 

[socitycourty]

Good plan! I am hoping for a BFP this month, but trying not get my hopes up and then get crazy upset when AF comes....I think that's about the best thing I can do for myself. That, and make an appointment with my therapist. LOL!!!!!!!!!!

 

[baby_nurse]

Yes I feel exactly the same! Like you I am a pessimist and also work in neonates with sick babies so have a very warped view about conceiving and babies so I'm convinced even though its my 2nd month I'll take years to conceive and have problems! Can't offer any advice to help as I'm the same so if you find a solution let me know! lol x

 

[Coogee]

life would be much easier if you could just buy babies off ebay lol

 

[socitycourty]

LOL! I wish I could skip TTC and go straight to the baby!

 

[Princess Lou]

he most obvious question that will arise in your mind when trying to get pregnant is, how long will it take me to get pregnant? Unfortunately there is no answer to that question. Considering that both the man and woman are healthy and ready for baby making, it still takes a normally healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant.

The woman’s body and her reproductive system undergo various changes during a cycle. These emotional, psychological and physical changes are related to hormonal fluctuations in the system arising from the menstrual process. The monthly chance for pregnancy of a normally fertile couple is 15 to 25%. Besides the overall wellbeing of the couple, there are a few other factors as well which will determine how long it takes before you conceive. Some or all of these factors may be in play when you and your partner are planning a baby. To understand them better with respect to yourselves, you and your partner must consider a Health Officers consultation to guide you through the process of getting pregnant.

 

[socitycourty]

That was interesting, thanks for posting. What is Health Officers?

 

[Princess Lou]

GP's, Specialists etc.

 

[Miaowzen]

When I first got pregnant it was first month without trying. But that pregnancy didn't work out and it took me a loooooong time to get AF again. Felt like I was broken. I think sometimes it doesn't matter how hard you try it's just not the right month. I read somewhere we're not a very fertile species. Also I think diet makes a big difference. I started eating more good fats and saw improvements in my BBT. Not feeling quite so broken now that BBT charts look good, but still wish I was pregnant.