I think we need a bad day sticky thread

[Jax41]

Jax...I guess I kind of see two things with the SA...

He either realizes there is a problem that can be fixed, should the SA not come back as we hope...

He realizes that his SA is great and it's a timing issue...

Either way, he cannot skirt the issue and if he still chooses not to DTD at the proper time, then you know you have an even bigger issue.

Yes I think he thinks his SA is great because of the 3 he already has. Perhaps he's not 100% sure of timing issues, but having been there dunnit 3 times (and more as they unfortunately had mc's) surely he know's there isn't a gooseberry bush???!!!!! So yeeap, it's the bigger issue I'm scared of here now I think I really am going to be a sad, lonely, shrivelled up old bird before I know it!!

 

[dachsundmom]

Jax....can you guys talke about TTC at all?

 

[Indigo77]

Jax and Butterfly....

 

[Jax41]

Jax....can you guys talke about TTC at all?

We've talked/argued about/over having kids but never the nitty gritty of TTC. I don't think DH sees the need (it's obviously happened before without the need for much effort back in his 20s) and I was hopeful that I wouldn't have to.... I tell you if this kid ever puts in an appearance it is going to be an immaculate conception the rate I'm going!!!

 

[dachsundmom]

Jax...would DH go to one of your doctor appts and have the process explained to him by a medical professional?

Maybe if he hears from the 'expert' that the SA is really the easiest place to start, he might take it into consideration.

 

[Butterfly67]

Jax, how old is your DH's youngest kid?

 

[dachsundmom]

Jax...use me as the example...I haven't been able to have a sticky BFP since my DD, almost 15 years ago...crap changes, lol.

 

[Jax41]

Jax...would DH go to one of your doctor appts and have the process explained to him by a medical professional?

Maybe if he hears from the 'expert' that the SA is really the easiest place to start, he might take it into consideration.

I'd like to think he's not completely naive but it's worth a shot, anything is worth a shot.... He's told me he's going to the Dr's on Monday (don't get excited it's about something else!), now is the time Jax.....c'mon girl!!!!

I know how you feel about being so tired about all of this

 

[readyformore]

Jax,
I have a feeling this answer will be an outright no, but.............

would either you or your dh consider doing IUI?
It takes timing nearly completely out of the equation, and you only need one sample from him for the entire month.
I've even heard of some places letting you bring the sample in from home (you just need to live very close, like within 30 mintues).

This way, you could do all of the work yourself and not involve him, get his stuff in a cup once, then take it to the docs.

Just a suggestion.

 

[Jax41]

Jax, how old is your DH's youngest kid?

14 Butterfly.....a lot can happen between now and then I know...

 

[dachsundmom]

 

[Jax41]

Jax...use me as the example...I haven't been able to have a sticky BFP since my DD, almost 15 years ago...crap changes, lol.

Dmom yea he had 3 in relatively quick succession and then his last 14 years ago, a lot can happen between now and then. He did say to me a while ago that fertility changes on both sides - nearly fell off my barstool!!

Dmom, have you had a BFP in that time even though it's not been sticky? x

 

[dachsundmom]

Jax...use me as the example...I haven't been able to have a sticky BFP since my DD, almost 15 years ago...crap changes, lol.

Dmom yea he had 3 in relatively quick succession and then his last 14 years ago, a lot can happen between now and then. He did say to me a while ago that fertility changes on both sides - nearly fell off my barstool!!

Dmom, have you had a BFP in that time even though it's not been sticky? x

Yes...more than a few.

 

[Jax41]

Jax...use me as the example...I haven't been able to have a sticky BFP since my DD, almost 15 years ago...crap changes, lol.

Dmom yea he had 3 in relatively quick succession and then his last 14 years ago, a lot can happen between now and then. He did say to me a while ago that fertility changes on both sides - nearly fell off my barstool!!

Dmom, have you had a BFP in that time even though it's not been sticky? x

Yes...more than a few.

 

[Jax41]

Jax,
I have a feeling this answer will be an outright no, but.............

would either you or your dh consider doing IUI?
It takes timing nearly completely out of the equation, and you only need one sample from him for the entire month.
I've even heard of some places letting you bring the sample in from home (you just need to live very close, like within 30 mintues).

This way, you could do all of the work yourself and not involve him, get his stuff in a cup once, then take it to the docs.

Just a suggestion.

Thanks Ready, have to say It's not something I've thought of, not got that far but maybe I have now without realising it! It's certainly a way I thought that he'd be able to do the SA, we live 10 mins walk from the Dr's. I'll investigate! Thank you

 

[Jax41]

Dmom, Natsby, Butterfly, Indigo, Ready - thanks for your words of advice and for helping me today, I'm feeling better than I did last night/this morning. I'm so sorry to bend your ears, I just need to get over myself and have it out with DH, but you've definitely helped me take a bit of the 'heat' out of how I feel so that it doesn't end up in a full scale row like it has done in the past. Girls thanks x

 

[dachsundmom]

Jax, this is why we are here...

Girls, you ALL have to join the November thread now...you know how I get if I have to play nicely with the general public on a daily basis.

 

[Desperado167]

Jax, this is why we are here...

Girls, you ALL have to join the November thread now...you know how I get if I have to play nicely with the general public on a daily basis.

 

[Butterfly67]

Jax, how old is your DH's youngest kid?

14 Butterfly.....a lot can happen between now and then I know...

Yeah, my ex has a 13 yo and now he has low morphology so it can all change

Jax...use me as the example...I haven't been able to have a sticky BFP since my DD, almost 15 years ago...crap changes, lol.

Dmom yea he had 3 in relatively quick succession and then his last 14 years ago, a lot can happen between now and then. He did say to me a while ago that fertility changes on both sides - nearly fell off my barstool!!

Dmom, have you had a BFP in that time even though it's not been sticky? x

Yes...more than a few.

 

[readyformore]

Girls, you ALL have to join the November thread now

The testing thread?

Nope no way. I don't venture into those scary places.