I think we need a bad day sticky thread

[keekeesaurus]

Nats, dmom, despie, butterfly .
Thank you lovely ladies...I guess I need to give it time and wait and see (and massage! ) until my appointment. I thought about phoning up but my friend said they'd just tell me to wait as there would still be swelling etc.. I'm just so impatient! And stressed. I think the TTC thing is also starting to get to me.

I do feel better though after your posts - love you gals!

 

[Jax41]

Keekee you sure you haven't been doing too much of the old ??!! Seriously though, I'm so sorry that you're disappointed but yes maybe it's early days and you've gotta try some of that horrible P word, but we're always here for you

 

[readyformore]

Keekee.

I wish your boobs looked picture perfect after surgery, but I agree with what has already been said.
It can take a long time for the swelling to go down.

Until then, have DH give them a nightly rub.

 

[keekeesaurus]

Keekee you sure you haven't been doing too much of the old ??!! Seriously though, I'm so sorry that you're disappointed but yes maybe it's early days and you've gotta try some of that horrible P word, but we're always here for you

Thank you Jax, that made me roffle .
The P word...? *shudder*

Keekee.

I wish your boobs looked picture perfect after surgery, but I agree with what has already been said.
It can take a long time for the swelling to go down.

Until then, have DH give them a nightly rub.

Thank you so much for your replies, you big lovelies.

I just need to be patient. That's another P word I hate .

 

[Jax41]

Keekee you sure you haven't been doing too much of the old ??!! Seriously though, I'm so sorry that you're disappointed but yes maybe it's early days and you've gotta try some of that horrible P word, but we're always here for you

Thank you Jax, that made me roffle .
The P word...? *shudder*

Keekee.

I wish your boobs looked picture perfect after surgery, but I agree with what has already been said.
It can take a long time for the swelling to go down.

Until then, have DH give them a nightly rub.

Thank you so much for your replies, you big lovelies.

I just need to be patient. That's another P word I hate .

That's the one I'm talking about Keekee!!!

 

[readyformore]

My follow up appointment is in 4 weeks so I guess I should just see what happens then and stop being such a drama queen. For some reason I'm finding this harder to cope with than having no boob and a concave chest .

Thanks for listening to everyone having a bad day...

Just wanted to add that you should not feel bad about being a drama queen (you're not even acting like one, btw).
We all have our sore spots. Mine is infertility. Yours is boobs.

It's ok to be upset. I think we all understand how upset we can get over boobs!

 

[keekeesaurus]

Just wanted to add that you should not feel bad about being a drama queen (you're not even acting like one, btw).
We all have our sore spots. Mine is infertility. Yours is boobs.

It's ok to be upset. I think we all understand how upset we can get over boobs!

Thanks ready, you're a star .

Jax - I thought the P word was positivity!

 

[readyformore]

I thought the P word was positivity!

 

[peacebaby]

Ready, the gynae lady is clearly not schooled in sensitivity and diplomacy! Perhaps she was trying to convey that it may take a bit longer? Anyway, the best thing to do with what she said is use it to fuel your drive and inspiration, i know its easier said than done..but just imagine bumping into her again with a lovely Bump or Baby in hand when she'll have to eat up those words. I have read some older posts on Bnb of ladies who conceived after Western doctors totally wrote them off. My acu lady worked at well known fertility clinic and she tells me she has seen loads of women that dr's call "worst case scenarios" happily conceive and carry to term!

keekee, i think what Natsby said is a more than likely explanation. An ex-colleague had a similar experience and being a lawyer she got mad and threatened to sue (yes, just like in the movies!) but eventually her body settled down, she was real pleased with the assets and was forced to hold back on the legal action!

 

[readyformore]

Ready, the gynae lady is clearly not schooled in sensitivity and diplomacy! Perhaps she was trying to convey that it may take a bit longer? Anyway, the best thing to do with what she said is use it to fuel your drive and inspiration, i know its easier said than done..but just imagine bumping into her again with a lovely Bump or Baby in hand when she'll have to eat up those words. I have read some older posts on Bnb of ladies who conceived after Western doctors totally wrote them off. My acu lady worked at well known fertility clinic and she tells me she has seen loads of women that dr's call "worst case scenarios" happily conceive and carry to term!

Thanks peacebaby.
It wasn't actually said in a negative way (if that's possible), it was more matter of fact. She wasn't even really out of line. It was more like she was saying why I'm dealing with infertility again. We both are pretty sure that I'm headed for an early menopause.
I have been trying to accept that fact. But, I thought my body was a few years ahead of itself, not an entire decade.

In her defense, she is one of the main reasons that I haven't stopped ttc. She keeps telling me that, "it will happen, you have a couple of strikes against you, but just keep going." So, she has certaintly not written me off.

But, dang! 10 years!!

 

[peacebaby]

sorry ready, my bad and she's forgiven then

i know we have to be realistic but sheesh, +10 yrs is too much me thinks!

 

[AnnaLaura]

Well, I didn't have necessarily have a 'bad day', but...........

I ran into my primary ob/gyn (she's the one that removed my ovary and tube). Love her. She asked how ttc was going. She knows about how I have gone back to my RE and have done femara and IUI.
We were talking about my fertility issues this time. How I have regular cycles, DH has good swimmers, etc.
She told me that I probably have the reproductive capability of someone that is 43-44! I'm 34. I tried to hide my shock when she said that. But, it definately threw me off balance.
I wasn't prepared for it.

Still not sure what to do with that info.

I would have asked how she came up with that random number--statistics, or what? It seems like a major conclusion to be tossed around in a casual conversation. I agree with Peacebaby's comment that maybe she meant it would take longer, in her opinion. I assume your RE hasn't said anything like that.

 

[readyformore]

Well, I didn't have necessarily have a 'bad day', but...........

I ran into my primary ob/gyn (she's the one that removed my ovary and tube). Love her. She asked how ttc was going. She knows about how I have gone back to my RE and have done femara and IUI.
We were talking about my fertility issues this time. How I have regular cycles, DH has good swimmers, etc.
She told me that I probably have the reproductive capability of someone that is 43-44! I'm 34. I tried to hide my shock when she said that. But, it definately threw me off balance.
I wasn't prepared for it.

Still not sure what to do with that info.

I would have asked how she came up with that random number--statistics, or what? It seems like a major conclusion to be tossed around in a casual conversation. I agree with Peacebaby's comment that maybe she meant it would take longer, in her opinion. I assume your RE hasn't said anything like that.

Unfortunately, it was based on my history of having lost an ovary, having a not so great FSH and AMH, history of infertility at 24 and 34, and a family history of my mom and her sisters being menopausal at 43.

So, no, it wasn't being tossed around. It was based on my history and clinical information.

Still, if I can squeeze in one more baby, that would be ....... (good tears) beyond amazing .

My RE wasn't impressed. But, when I told her that I thought maybe my ovary was overworked and tired, she admitted that it was a possibility.

They both seem to think it's very possible that I'll have a baby. So that's good.

I just was hoping to have the option to have a baby in my late 30s and early 40s.
I kind of feel like the option has been taken away, kwim?

 

[Natsby]

If your still bleeding you not out yet love. I hope you get your LO soon.

 

[readyformore]

You too Natsby!

Let us know what your test results are.

 

[AnnaLaura]

Unfortunately, it was based on my history of having lost an ovary, having a not so great FSH and AMH, history of infertility at 24 and 34, and a family history of my mom and her sisters being menopausal at 43.

So, no, it wasn't being tossed around. It was based on my history and clinical information.

Still, if I can squeeze in one more baby, that would be ....... (good tears) beyond amazing .

My RE wasn't impressed. But, when I told her that I thought maybe my ovary was overworked and tired, she admitted that it was a possibility.

They both seem to think it's very possible that I'll have a baby. So that's good.

I just was hoping to have the option to have a baby in my late 30s and early 40s.
I kind of feel like the option has been taken away, kwim?

This reminds me of something in a book I read, that people will believe something because they want it to be true, or are afraid it might be true. I know this has been something I've struggled with since I "woke up" to my age last year. I've read all the horrible statistics about reproductive age and sometimes become very down about it. I'm just afraid it might be true, for me personally. Which is a fallacy of some type.

Another time I was listening to a podcast and the host was talking about the economic crisis. She said that some people will prosper during bad times and why can't it be you? That stuck with me and I think about it in relation to TTC. Other women who supposedly have the deck stacked against them like me go on to have a baby. Why not me, too? And why not you?

 

[Natsby]

Good point Anna. I have always thought like this about the big things in my life. When I got into my art school it was very tough to get a place and the everyone said so. But I thought well they have to give it to someone, might as well be me. Same with so many other things, and often it is me, and i try not to mind when it isn´t. With TTc so far it isn´t me but I´m waiting until it is!!

 

[SuperAwesome]

Argh! I see that Duggar family is expecting baby #20!

Wow. Just...wow.

 

[readyformore]

Argh! I see that Duggar family is expecting baby #20!

Wow. Just...wow.

I love the Duggars! Seriously, no joke.
It's one of the 2 shows I actually record.

And DANG IT!! You just ruined the show for me tonight!

 

[readyformore]

Just watched the show.

You know how old Michelle is?

She's 45!! Woohoo!