I want to cry...

[Gunner's Mama]

I gave my hubby my list of favorite names and he did not care for any of the girl names. He asked about Sailor...again! I know I brought the name up and now I regret it. He hates Scarlett and any other girly name because he said if we have a girl it will be a tomboy. I feel like I compromised the first time and agreed to Sierra ( we had a boy) so I felt relieved. Now I want to ask the doc on Wed. if we are having a boy or girl so I don't have to pick a girls name if I'm carrying a boy! We only have a couple weeks. Sorry about the rant...I can't talk to my friends and family about the names because we wanted it to be a surprise.

 

[Amygdala]

I'm sorry hun but please don't call your daughter sailor! I think finding out is a good idea, might save you some agitating. And if it is a girl, maybe you can go away and "start afresh"? As in get a name book or something and just look at some new names with an open mind and see if there's anything you both like?

 

[MUMOF5]

. Im having trouble with OH too, he doesnt like one name that I do, and we are def having a girl!! Although we have a bit longer to 'talk' about it than you do. Who chose your sons name? If it was his choice then point outto him that you feel that it is only right for you to name this child if its a girl. Best of luck hun, dont stress, you should betrying to relax and enjoy the calm before the storm . xx

 

[DizzyMoo]

Hun just turn it the other way round too, he might be cheesed off you don't like his choices too, Its blumin hard work choosing a name which will last forever & which you both like.
If he doesn't like your choice then ok, Carry on your search. There is bound to be one or 2 he picks which you don't like. As frustrating as i bet it is don't get upset by it, There is plenty of time yet to find a new name & or him change his mind, You might settle on one then it might be you who's changing your mind later down the line.

I haven't had to go through this as I chose joshs name & didn't exactly care what his dad thought & i'm choosing bumps too, his dad isn't in the pic at mo so nothing to do with him x

 

[DWandMJ]

Why would the girl have to be a tomboy? Why not allow her to decide what she likes and doesn't like?

 

[Gunner's Mama]

We live in the country so my husband assumes the girl will grow up "like one of the boys." I did not grow up in the country and I like girly things so I guess I'm upset because I feel like he's taking a shot at me by saying that 1. she will be tomboy and 2. he knows I like girly things so I feel like he is trying to take this away from me. We both shouldn't have these expectations already.

 

[better2gether]

You shouldn't. A child's name should be agreed on by both parents. It is that simple. I see people compromising more on the middle name. Like: "Are we going to name her middle name after my mom or your mom?" First names are important! So if it doesn't make you happy, say so.

 

[DWandMJ]

Your first childs name made me smile.... Its one of the few that I threw at DH that he actually liked. (He's an avid hunter/country boy)... I'm learning to only give him names to choose from that I already like
We live in the country too, but I'm from the city and girly as all get up. While he wears baseball caps, jeans, and tshirts, I've got permanently affixed stilettos and wear skirts/dresses 75% of the time. If we have a little girl, she will be well versed in both parents tastes.

I agree, both of you need to like the name. You'll both have to make concessions from your favorites, but in the end it'll be a happy medium.

 

[letia659]

I grew up in the country...a small town in TN on a cattle farm and yes I was somewhat tomboyish but once I got old enough to be girly and like boys it changed a lot I wore makeup and tried to dress more like a girl etc. but Im not really understanding why a little girls name would have anything to do with being a tomboy or not most likely a more girly name will help even out the tomboy way if she is even like that. I would give it a few days and bring it up again he may decide to change his mind men seem to be like that. but I wouldnt name my child anything I didnt love

oh and I love love your sons name!!

but not keen on sailor but I know someone who named their daughter Harbor and still not sure what I think about it...

 

[beancounter]

Awwwwwww tell him you can't have sailor because it's too like gunner, it would sound like you were working through regiments. You'd have to call your next royal airforce or something. Not that they are bad names, they just don't go together (or go together too well, in a bad way). My OH is a teacher and every name I liked it was 'I teach a *** and he's a little sh**' so I got my first pick because we just couldnt find anything else!

 

[Gunner's Mama]

Thanks for cheering me up! I love the arguement that it sounds like we are going through the regiments. Gunner is a Scandanavian name (mom's side of the family.) Yes my husband liked it as he is an avid hunter/fisherman. I'm still searching for the right name.

 

[mamato2more]

Ok..had to hop in here really quick and say that I have five boys and one girl...She is a princess who likes to dig for worms. Yes, she likes to wrestle, etc. with the boys, but she loves the girly stuff too..So, don't make any presumptions as to how she will be. Good luck..

 

[JessiHD]

What about the sort of name that can be shortened to something boyish, like Georgia/Georgina/Georgiana can also be Georgie or George? Would that be a compromise? It does have to be something you both like, and I do agree that Gunner and Sailor (which reminds me of a Nick Cage character!) are too similiar.

 

[DWandMJ]

Awwwwwww tell him you can't have sailor because it's too like gunner, it would sound like you were working through regiments. You'd have to call your next royal airforce or something. Not that they are bad names, they just don't go together (or go together too well, in a bad way). My OH is a teacher and every name I liked it was 'I teach a *** and he's a little sh**' so I got my first pick because we just couldnt find anything else!

LOL!

 

[exoticsophia]

i agree with you DWandMJ...the girl should have the right to decide. ..lols i wonder "a tomboy"..

 

[Gunner's Mama]

i agree with you DWandMJ...the girl should have the right to decide. ..lols i wonder "a tomboy"..

tom⋅boy  
–noun an energetic, sometimes boisterous girl whose behavior and pursuits, esp. in games and sports, are considered more typical of boys than of girls.