I wish I had never gotten pregnant.

[MeaganMackenz]

Obviously I love my daughter. I wouldn't trade her for the world. But ever since I got pregnant with her medically I have been a mess. I really need to vent because I feel like giving up. I'm sorry this is long.

So while pregnant I:
Had a sub hemmorage
Ms until week 24
Became anemic
Fell around 32 weeks and got spd because of it
Was induce because of the spd which resulted in a terrible labour and a huge mass of blood loss post birth. No one put together I was anaemic and questioned why I wanted to stay an extra day. I didn't hold her when she was born because I had no strength. They didn't put it together until I came back a week later weak and sick.

After having her I :
Had my hemoglobin levels drop to 60
Had placenta still in me so had a d n c
Got bronchitis and a yeast infection (which gave baby thrush and ended my breast feeding)
Uti after uti (which is nothing new just annoying)
STILL anaemic (a yr later)
And now my periods have gone from normal to INCREDIBLY painful.
Stomach pain, cramps, diarhea all for the first 2 or 3 days. I can barely move or function, take naproxen after naproxen to move and cry the entire time.

P.s I'm currently in the midst of the period thing. I told my gp she's not concerned (didn't care is more like it) and my ob can't see me u til the end of the month, days before I do this all over again.

I'm feeling so defeated like there's something wrong but idk what it is. I almost went to the hospital today but I missed the window to go. The wait times are posted online and this morning at 6am there was no one waiting, 0min wait. Now there's over 20 and it's a 5hr wait. Why can't I just be OK? It's been almost 2 years of something always being wrong with me and I'm tired. I'm so so very tired.

Vent over.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

on one side, i understand the frustration but on the other, id go through all that to get a baby.

 

[tiffanyvd87]

i would suggest seeing a different gp. All of your ailments are something no one should go through on a daily basis. Get a second opinion from someone new

 

[LDC]

I agree, I would go to another medical professional and get another opinion; realistically things on your list should be able to be resolved relatively easily such as anaemia. Are you taking multivitamins and eating an iron rich diet to try and help too?

Unfortunately, some of the things you listed about what happened during pregnancy common or just bad luck, I guess having a lot of things at the same time and then having issues afterwards can becom overwhelming. Try and take it a day at a time, but I would get another opinion to try and help you now.

I was induced for my lost and suffered a severe PPH, was taken to theatre and released 11 hours later despite being severely anaemic from the blood loss (I was borderline transfusion and still believe I should have been given one) after manual removal of my placenta. I felt shockingly awful for weeks, however I spoke to my dr who was amazing and gave me lots of advice on what I could do to improve my iron levels naturally and also prescribed vitamins for me. I also had no af afterwards for months and was referred to the hospital.

I was demanding of this, and I would be the same with the complaints that you're describing, just make sure they don't palm you off and be stern with what you expect to happen in terms of your medical care. They rarely say no.

Good luck x

 

[MindUtopia]

I would say that to a certain extent a lot of what you are describing would be what you would expect with anaemia and also just with a generally depressed immune system. Something else worth checking would be your thyroid as hypothyriodism can cause really heavy, difficult periods and also tiredness, more immune system function, a lot of the same things as anaemia. What are you doing for the anaemia?

I was terribly anaemic after I had my daughter. Like to the point of passing out if I stood up. I could barely walk anywhere and was really week. In the short term, really high potency iron tablets, plus Floravital and Spatone plus 500 mg of vitamin C at every meal did it for me. I continued to be anaemic on and off for probably the next 18 months, but I did a really long course of Floravital and also Spatone and kept up the vitamin C (just not the tablets) for probably several months and that helped. I also really changed my diet and started to eat a lot healthier and I've felt great since, no more anaemia (that was about 1.5 years ago now as my daughter is 3). Taking lots of vitamin C, echinacea and also just dietary things should help with the thrush and UTIs as well as you can get those lots when your bacterial balance gets all off.

But I would definitely seek out a new GP. They should be checking your blood for other things like thyriod function. You can have bad periods when you're anaemic, but like I said, hypothyriodism can mimic anaemia in that way and cause heavy periods as well. If nothing else, I would think they'd offer you an iron transfusion. They offered me one when I was at my worst (the passing out phase), but I declined as I felt like I was doing well enough through diet and such. But I'd take it if offered in retrospect. They should also be checking you for endometriosis. Maybe if you go in and pointed ask for these things and say you have a concern, it might help.

Sorry you've had such a rubbish time of it. It's hard enough when you have a little one, but to not feel well on top, sucks.