If I hear this one more time!

[DeeM73]

I am sick hearing people say 'oh that's a big age gap' rather than 'congratulations'.I have a daughter aged 14 and a son 13.The 2 of them are over the moon at the thought of having a little brother or sister but these comments are starting to get on my nerves!I just with they would say nothing than upsetting me xx

 

[embartle]

When I had my 2 yr old my older 2 were 15 & 19 so I know what you mean! Now that I am having my last one I only tell people I don't know about my youngest but it still doesn't stop them asking if this one was planned!?! This time I have learned to just let it go over my head but their comments can sometimes feel really hurtful.

 

[DeeM73]

I hate being asked if it was planned too,just so rude and hurtful.I kind of laugh it off but deep down I feel angry and hurt.Just really got to me today x

 

[Clair75]

hi

am only 5 weeks but not looking forwards to telling ppl i know there going to say but your 37... AND and o the age gap... which is only 10,11,14 so not that big, i think a big age gap is good gives you the time to enjoy your time with the new little one when i had my to youngest there is only 12 months between them i was 26 and it all went sooooo fast so am really looking forwards to this one, but will leave till has late as poss before telling,

 

[DeeM73]

Hiya,I'm 38 had the comments about 'age' too,you would think I was 68 the way they were talking!!It is hard to listen to,some days it doesn't bother me and others it does but just now it's doing my head right in!!I feel I'm more relaxed now at this age and I haven't had any problems with this pregnancy,kept good health and probably done way more than what I did with the other 2.Congratulations and a happy and healthy 9 months to you x

 

[future_numan]

I remember the phrase " are you crazy?" bothered me when I was expecting Emily because there was a 17 yr age gap.. I soon learned to ignore the comments..
This time all I hear is " your pregnant AGAIN ?" ..

 

[flower74]

I love this thread, when I was pregnant last time my older two were 10 and 9 and I felt I had to give my life story when ppl found out I was pregnant ie "I'm on my second marriage so thought I'd have another one, etc,etc". I'm now 12 wks with my fourth and my boys are 11, 9 and 11 months and have decided it's no ones business. I'm pregnant if you can't just congratulate me then don't say anything.....btw I love being older this time...I'm much more relaxed and my big boys adore their baby brother and are sooo excited about another baby!! XX

 

[DeeM73]

You're right it's no ones business and if they can't say anything nice then I would rather they didn't say anything.I would never dream of saying anything like that!I feel I am more relaxed too and our kids are so looking forward to the new arrival xx

 

[suzimc]

I've really enjoyed telling people for the last couple of weeks that motherhood is so much more enjoyable 2nd time round after the big age gap! I appreciate this wee bundle as much as he deserved unlike the first three who were born when I was too young to really know what I had there! Its shut up the folk who were commenting on my age and the gap between children...mind you its also made me glad I was sterilised at the same time cos I feel I could happily have a dozen more I love him so much!!xxx

 

[New2Bumps]

Why does it upset you? It is a big age gap. It is what it is why not just say it first.
I get it the other way around. My sisters are 11 and 16 years older than me and it sucks. All I ever got was 'that's a big age gap' and still do. PPl will never stop saying it! It used to p me off as ppl were incinuating I was an accident I guess. It stopped bothering me once I got older but it never goes away!

 

[mtnprotracy]

We're getting better with the comebacks....lol. We love implying that that's what happens when you're still having loads of sex....that pretty much shuts people up . My family is excited and we are loving that energy from our older kids (17, 16, & 13) as well as our parents and siblings. It has been so long since there's been a baby. I must admit I'm pretty excited!!! Anyway, I figure this little guy will keep me young. I mean just think about it. We get to do Santa all over again!!!! I admit, some people's comments bother me more than others. Folks who are my age seem to be the worst....I really think they're secretly jealous . I mean I work at a high school for crying out loud...where my two older boys go to school...and the kids are so excited for our family....which is really sweet. Hang in there, Dawn....it won't be long now. Can't wait to hear the good news when he or she arrives!!!!

Tracy

 

[DeeM73]

Suzi I totally agree with you there,that's the way I see it.We are all so happy especially the kids!!Maybe it was my hormones yesterday when an old(not elderly,where we stayed before!) neighbour mentioned it.
Conor is so adorable he really is such a cutie Hope you are all doing well and settling into a nice little routine xxx

 

[DeeM73]

Thanks Tracy Oh you made me laugh!Good on you!It has been a long time since there has been a baby too so the family are so excited The kids just can't wait!!I'm so looking forward to the Santa trips too I think it's so magical.Hope you are keeping well Tracy not long for you too,we might even be the same day!!ha ha xx

 

[suzimc]

Conor and I are doing fine, not so much a routine as my usual vaguely organised chaos but I'm loving it! He fell asleep in the bath this morning which seemed like the cutest thing ever! Tracey you don't half make me laugh! I never thought iof telling folk they were jealous cos I was obviously still getting some despite my advanced years, will remember that for future use! xxx

 

[poppy666]

Arghhh i got all that with my last 2 babies, my eldest 3 are 21, 20 & 19 and there was an 18 year gap, plus i was nearly 41 then 42 with my last so got all those age comments, but the way i see it is im blessed to be able to do it twice in a lifetime and if people dont like it then tuff. Not that im going for another 4 boys and 1 girl is enough

 

[DeeM73]

Glad to here you and Conor are doing fine I can see why you are loving every minute of it
Totally agree Poppy666,I feel totally blessed too,all children are blessings xx

 

[HCothren]

I had a mom at my childrens school scream across the parking lot in car line..."I heard the news...Are you crazy?"

My children are 9 and 7 and I will be 38 when this one is born and I don't feel crazy at all.

The mom who yelled that to me has a preteen son and a 8 year old daughter and she traded her van for a 2 door convertible sports car. I should have yelled at her asking if she was crazy trying to squeeze her kids in the back seat of that sports car.
I do not understand why pregnant women seem to be public property and everyone feels like it is ok for them to give their opinions.

 

[DeeM73]

Congratulations HCothren!I don't understand it either,I would rather they said nothing.A good friend of mine said I was crazy and almost home and dry!!That really got my back up!Was so tempted to say something back to her but would just be as bad as her.Although she loves her kids it was like she wanted them quick to get back on with her life x

 

[crystal443]

I'm 37, my DD is 15 and DS is 14 and I get the same thing...why would you want to go through that all over again when your kids are almost grown? All the women in my family have kids really young and get them out young..I'm not sure why because they then sit home and complain how empty their house seems

I don't really give a thought to what anyone thinks We've been trying for this pregnancy since DS was born and have had 3 failed IVF attempts and finally out of the blue it happened naturally so I'm over the moon and no one is taking this excitement from me.

 

[Bats11]

I had a mom at my childrens school scream across the parking lot in car line..."I heard the news...Are you crazy?"

My children are 9 and 7 and I will be 38 when this one is born and I don't feel crazy at all.

The mom who yelled that to me has a preteen son and a 8 year old daughter and she traded her van for a 2 door convertible sports car. I should have yelled at her asking if she was crazy trying to squeeze her kids in the back seat of that sports car.
I do not understand why pregnant women seem to be public property and everyone feels like it is ok for them to give their opinions.

Mine are also 9 & 7 and Im 37yrs old will be 38 in October, I havent had any comments about the age gap actually, the only comment Ive had by two ladies were 'another girl'!! their comment didnt bother me though, I just think negative people will always have something negative to say