I'm done!

[mjemma]

I'm done TTCing naturally. No more OPKs, temping, acupuncture, supplements or special diets. We are unexplained and after 2 years, 2 operations and 3 rounds of clomid nothing has worked and I'm tired of having no idea what to do to fix it.

I am not giving up but I'm also not going to 'try' any more without help. We are still a year away from getting IVF on the NHS so I think we will take the summer off and then pay for a few IUIs. I am also considering egg sharing.

Accepting that assisted conception is our future actually feels quite liberating.

Has anyone else made the same decision?

 

[Charliegirl27]

I just wanted to say good luck. Onwards and upwards I say!

 

[Armywife84]

I will when we have the $$ to pay for it. Hoping it still happens naturally and we don't have to pay to conceive a baby. But I have accepted it's probably the only answer.

I've pretty much given up until we get to assisted conception.

 

[NavyWife84]

I recently switched insurance so that I can start ivf this summer. New insurance kicks in in two weeks...woohoo! Ive had 3 iuis; 4 rounds of clomid; and all the typical tests. The only thing not done is the lap; which they refused to do. Hopefully new fs will consider it as I still suspect endo. Otherwise its on to ivf for me. I have 3 paid shots at it. Hopefully it works but if it doesn't I will know I gave it my all and will move on to adoption....we've already started saving for it! Hopefully the end is near one way or another.

 

[uwa_amanda]

As you can tell by my sig, we're on a break for God knows when. We can't afford IUI, IVF, or anything so here we are...In limbo I guess

 

[mjemma]

I just wanted to say good luck. Onwards and upwards I say!

Thanks!

We are lucky that we will eventually be given IVF, I can't imagine not having that option. I want to give IUI a shot but the odds are so low and it is still going to cost £1000 a go. I bounce between my head and heart saying it's a lot of money to gamble but it might just work.

For now, I just want to stop timing sex, obsessing in the 2ww and then dealing with the disappointment every month. I'll just save all that angst up for the next stage!

 

[Briss]

just popping in to say good luck! I will probably be joining the assisted conception club fairly shortly. I guess we are also unexplained although my hubby's sperm is not great but our FS does not think that's the only contributing factor and she has been pushing for assisted conception for some time now. I have been through everything now including lap. Apparently we can get free 3 IUI attempts and then one free IVF with NHS. From what I see that might not be enough so started putting aside some money to fund any further IVFs. I am ready for this but my hubby is not. We will be trying naturally for a few more cycles and then am hoping my DH will see the light. In the meantime am reading Zita West's book on preparing for assisted conception and continuing with the rest of it i.e. charting, CBFM, OPK, Supplements, vitamins etc

 

[mjemma]

Thanks Briss! I know what you mean, it can take a while to come to terms with. When I first started out I thought I probably wouldn't do IVF but now I realise I want to have tried everything I can.

The NHS is such a lottery isn't it. In my PCT we don't get any IUIs but will get up to 3 IVF. Good luck whatever you decide.

 

[smallstar]

mjemma - We are in same boat as you!!!

Over 2years TTC 6 rounds of clomid ALL the tests from here to high heaven!!!! and outcome is unexplained!!!! What joy!!!!!

Like you we are not eligible for IUI but are for IVF BUT we will only get to be out on the waiting list once we reach the 3years TTC mark....so since last year (Nov-Dec time!) we decided to stop all medical intervention as such....and just rely on good ol' (unreliable!!) mother nature to take her course!!!....Nothing as yet BUT seems that my cycles are starting to show some signs of normalising...fingers crossed!!!

The only thing i am doing is still cutting back on the caffeine intake and also taking folic acid once a day...thats it!!!

At the start i felt guilty for not doing more but as the months went on and the stress of it all slightly alleviated it felt good
No more waking up temping, running to the loo evey couple of hours to do OPK's, analysing EVERY single symptom like mad!!!! etc etc etc
Its a tough decision to make but im glad we made it....just hoping that we a blessed one way or the other in the future

Good luck x

 

[mjemma]

Hi smallstar. It's nice to hear from someone else in the same position.

I have tried to 'not try' before but only ever for a month at a time and I don't think that's long enough to properly switch off. So this time I have booked a consultation at a private clinic for the end of August to talk about IUI and I'm not doing anything else for the 3 months until then. Just enjoying the summer.

I do feel a little guilty too, or like I am wasting time but I am glad to hear that this has eased a bit for you. Good luck and I hope it happens for you soon x

 

[smallstar]

Hi smallstar. It's nice to hear from someone else in the same position.

I have tried to 'not try' before but only ever for a month at a time and I don't think that's long enough to properly switch off. So this time I have booked a consultation at a private clinic for the end of August to talk about IUI and I'm not doing anything else for the 3 months until then. Just enjoying the summer.

I do feel a little guilty too, or like I am wasting time but I am glad to hear that this has eased a bit for you. Good luck and I hope it happens for you soon x

Again know what you mean about doing it for a month or so but this time its been like 6 months and the "burden" has felt slightly less, which has meant ive started to live life again a little!!!

Best of luck with your consultation in August, hopefully you wont need to go fingers crossed for you either way!!!! And if you do unfortunately make it to August without a BFP it would be great to know how the private clinic went with the IUI's.....will help us possibly plan next steps