Im nervous history could b repeatin itself!! UPDATE!!!

[BABYCAREY]

HI Ladies
Im on for a little advice?Help?
Im 41 and this is my 6th pregnancy! I lost my last 2 babies,both were MMC!
Both lost around 7-10wks! I think im currently either 5+2 or 9+2 im not sure? Oct period was odd!!!
Because of my history im due a scan at my EPC 2moro afternoon at 2.30pm,im so nervous!!! The last time i was pregnant(march)i had these period like pains thur it! Even right up to the scan that showed my little babies heart had stopped!
Its just im havin those achy pains again!!! Thats why i was so surprised to b pregnant!! I was convinced my period was comin!! I spoke to a midwife yesday and she said it cud still b implantation!! Im honestly not sure!!
I kno the worry prob wont do me any good but i just cant stop thinking its happening again!!!
Does anybody else have/had these? Did all turn out ok??
Sorry if i upset anybody,but im desperate to kno
XXBabyC

 

[ttclou25]

didnt want to RR im not sure on the feelings your having but wanted to wish you luck on this pg - hopefully this little one will stickx x

 

[SabrinaKat]

I figured it was the flu but the cramps were slightly different (more stretching down there than cramps, if that makes sense). Was pregnant and am 24wks tomorrow, and so far, so good.

best wishes

 

[BABYCAREY]

Thanks very much girls for replying
I never thought it cud b stretchin!!! Im 41!! So my bits r prob a bit rusty*so to speak*lol
Thats kinda put my mind at rest a bit! Still bit nervous about scan 2moro! I kno if im only 5wks there isnt a lot they can see and will have to use the internal wand yuk.........But if im more obv they'll see more!Maybe a wee heartbeat?
Im tryin to ease my mind,so had a lovely bath and then big mug of Ovaltine!! Hopefully that;ll help me sleep! Soundly!!
Will keep you posted how scan goes 2moro!! Please Dear God above and St Gerald let my baby stay!!! Please!!!!
XBabyC

 

[SabrinaKat]

good luck for tomorrow BUT please remember, it's hard to see much at 5 wks (usually not even HB at early stage), hopefully, you will get some good news/indicators that things are going ok...

best wishes

 

[3xscharmer]

Hope everything goes okay! Just wanted to let you know my 1 successful pregnancy had tons of cramping and stretching! Could actually be a good sign! Good luck!

 

[BABYCAREY]

Hi Girls
I had my scan earlier,same Midwife as early on in yr with last pregnancy,think she was surprised to see me bk!!
She was very nice and I explained the pains,she said many pregnancies have them and it maybe nothing sinister! Told me to stop worrying!(easier said eh?)
She scanned me and there was a sack,it measured 5+6 so she said she could see a yolk! Im goin bk on Mon21st for another scan,she said i shud hopefully see a heartbeat then! She said my dates were pretty accurate for the sack size.
I asked her what were the chances of this endin in another MMC!She said 3 in a row isnt very common,but my age wudnt b doin me any favours
So im gonna try real hard not to think 2 much about the past!And try think positive
Im wishin my life away til 21st now!!!lol
XXBabyC

 

[xAmiixLouisex]

I agree that the AF cramps are probably stretching pains. I had them in early pregnancy. Fingers crossed for you, Good luck for the 21st x

 

[SabrinaKat]

glad to hear some good news - cross fingers for next scan -- don't let age worry you, tho -- I had an mc at 41 and am now 44 (conceived at 43), and this little one appears perfect and hardy, so age can make things harder, but not always!

best wishes

 

[BABYCAREY]

Thanks Girls
Can i ask how long ur stretchin pains lasted Ami??
Im hopin they go away soon!! Its drivin me to distraction!! Im constantly goin to loo and wiping to check! Sorry if T.M.I!!
I honestly dont think i will rest til im 12-14weeks!!!
Its gonna b a long journey for me!But aslong as i am holdin my little beauty in July 2012 i really dont mind what i have to go thru!!
Good luck to us all
xxBabyC

 

[3xscharmer]

Glad to hear the good news! My stretching quit sometime in the second trimester. I have an appointment on the 22nd so hopefully we'll both be hearing those beautiful heartbeats that week! Keeping my finges xed for both of us! Baby measuring on track is a really good sign, and just so you know, I had 2 m/c's before giving birth to my DD! I have since had 2 more and am once again hoping 3rd times the charm as I am currently 6+4! Good luck!

 

[BABYCAREY]

Glad to hear the good news! My stretching quit sometime in the second trimester. I have an appointment on the 22nd so hopefully we'll both be hearing those beautiful heartbeats that week! Keeping my finges xed for both of us! Baby measuring on track is a really good sign, and just so you know, I had 2 m/c's before giving birth to my DD! I have since had 2 more and am once again hoping 3rd times the charm as I am currently 6+4! Good luck!

Hi!
Im on egg shells waitin for the nxt scan!! It cant come around quick enough!
It sometimes feels like im goin crazy
I experienced these type pains last time and i had a MMC that pregnancy! Its hard not to connect the 2!!But im tryin to keep focused!I keep tellin myself im gonna have a beautiful wee baby in Summer!! Im worried about work 2!! I never carry baby well,theres always something wrong with me!
I have to tand all day n my job but im gonna say my backs killin me! Hopefully they cant say 2 much about that! I wud love to take time off becus my job is very stressful! I work in Customer Services!My blood pressure can get high listening to some people!! Esp as i cant say wht i want to bk to them!! lol
My target point at the minute is Christmas Day!! I will b 12weeks!!
Hope all goes well for you this time its so hard when we have experienced what we have aand tryin not to panic!!
Good luck,keep me posted how ur scan goes
XXBC

 

[3xscharmer]

I so feel you on the eggshells lol! I also am making myself crazy comparing symptoms I can understand if you don't want to tell everyone at work, but one suggestion might be to have you doctor write you a note stating that for personal medical reasons you need to be in a low stress environment with sitting options. You might could talk to a supervisor or someone you trust and just tell them you need to to be sitting down do to you being pregnant. I actually told my work with DD at 8 weeks and told them I was high risk and needed more breaks! Technically I wasn't high risk but my ob was treating me as if I were. The point I'm rambling through here is they can't fire you for being pregnant and if you have a note from your doctor they can't fire you either! I can understand not wanting to tell work though. As far as the customers and stress, I would just remind yourself it's not worth it.Christmas is my goal too lol I hope we both have happy bouncing babies in the summer but I am a bit worried right now as I've had very little sickness with this pregnancy when I was sick as a dog with DD but nothing with my 4 m/c's and right now I'm just gagging a little here and there . Guess it's out of my hands though and I'm doing all I can on my end. I once read something I'd like to share with you that's become my motto: As hard as it is to keep a" bad" pregnancy, it's even harder to get rid if a" good" pregnancy! I keep telling myself if this us a" good" pregnancy those stupid everyday things won't matter and the truth is that if it's a good pregnancy I'm right!

 

[alette]

I had period like pains through 16 weeks, and this week at 20 weeks got my ultrasound which showed a healthy happy baby girl!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sGSBZDy7BNQ

ETA: I also have a high stress, on my feet all day type of job. I told my boss the day after our BFP (about 4 weeks) because at the time I was working with cats, cleaning about 50 litter pans a day and obviously needed to stop that. She was very good at keeping a secret and did the cat rooms for me for a week while I worked in the office on paperwork. Then she switched me to dogs through september/october.. then being on my feet all day was starting to get to be too much and this month I'm just working in the office. I plan on being done working out there mid-December as it is a pretty hazardous job (Got bit by a ferret on thrusday!) and I just want to be able to not worry about things from there anymore!

 

[BABYCAREY]

Hi Girls
Thanks for ur messages
But i started to bleed last nite,i rang the Hospital and nurse said it cud b a threatened miss,and if it got worse/painful to ring bk
Had a bit more bleedin thru nite and woke up went to loo and when i wiped it went darkish brown wth bits bright red!
So rang bk and it was same nurse,she said to b honest with you it doesnt sound good,if you were to come down today you wud b waiting hours as we only have 1 doctor between 2 departments!!!And that wud b very tresful for me!
CRAZY! The Government can find money for wars and weapons and so little for health??
She gave me a appointment for 2moro mornin in EPC for scan,she said they will prob keep eye on my for wile b4 makin decision as i am so early and detectin heartbeat wud b difficult. My heart is broken in 2 ladies!!
3 in a row!! 3 within 2yrs!!!
Part of me told myself it cant happen again,that wud b so cruel,baby will b fine this time these pains r nothing!But deep down this hasnt shocked me as much as the last 2 times!!
I had to ring work and confided n a manager i trust he was very sympathetic and said just keep us updated whats happening,i feel bad becus i shud b workin 2day and its so hard to get somebody to cover shifts on Sundays!! Plus have the worry of losin pay til i go bk!!! OMG!!! Why is this happening again??? My poor Hubby just doesnt kno what to say to me,god love him,hes as destroyed as me!!
I hope this hasnt upset anybody! But wanted to let those of you who cared to reply kno what happened
Good luck in your journeys and have a happy n healthy 9month girls xx
BC

 

[SabrinaKat]

I am SO sorry, honey -- there is absolutely nothing I can say to make you feel any better, let us know how the scan goes tomorrow.....

best wishes

 

[3xscharmer]

I'm so sorry hun. I wish I could give you a hug. I know nothing I say can make you feel better or take the pain away, but know that you are not alone! So many of us have lost too many babies and we have more strength in our pinkies than mist women have in their whole bodies because we take this pain, fall apart, then pick ourselves up and do it again! Take some time to heal, maybe talk to your doctor about testing, take care of yourself and don't lose hope! This is just so heartbreaking and I want you to know I cried when I read your post because I know that pain and helplessness hopelessness that follows. Keep me updated and please please take care of yourself. I'll say a prayer for you.

 

[flubdub]

 

[BABYCAREY]

Thanks so much girls for ur lovely messages
Im sitting here in total disbelief! Im so angry!!
Hard to take in that thats it! End off!!
The 1 thing keepin me half sane at the minute is that they will now test us for whatever the problem actually is!!
Horrible they would wait til the 3rd and it had to b 3 in a row b4 they investigate anything!!!
I kno im 41 now and age goes against me but hope they will go ahead with these tests for us!
I will of course keep you posted how appointment goes 2moro
XXBabyC

 

[SabrinaKat]

please don't let your age depress you! I was 43 when I conceived this little one(am 44/will be 44 when I deliver) and this was after a mc two years ago (August 2009) and two possible chemicals....

I had loads of blood work, pre-IVF (but got pregnant naturally, actually) and took metformin (for PCOS) and thyroid medication when it was realised I had an underactive thyroid the month before I became pregnant with this little fellow....I also lost weight, tried to eat healthily and we saw a fertility specialist (oh, I also quit smoking in January, but didn't smoke when was pregnant before until mc....), so age isn't really a big issue BUT if it is a third mc, then it's time to fight for more tests/all tests, to make sure and find out what it going on....

am really, really sorry....

best wishes