Im new and really scared!Hope you can help!

Discussion in 'Premature & NICU Babies' started by GemDC, Oct 11, 2008.

  1. GemDC

    GemDC New Member

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    Hi all,

    I'm new and I was hoping that someone can relate to how I feel.

    A bit of background....
    I had my daughter at 28 weeks and she was ill and in hospital until just after her due date but she is fine now and nearly 9 years old.I am pregnant again and I am 22 weeks.

    I first saw the specialist at 18 weeks although it wasn't the man himself but a registrar,I was told to have a cervical scan the next day.That morning I had a post coital bleed and was admitted to the ward until I had the scan.

    The scan came back ok,there was a slight funneling but they said this was because it is not my first child.My cervical measurement was 3.4 cm and all was well.Just as I was being discharged I was told that it would be checked again at my 21 week scan.

    I had my scan and was told that they would not do a cervical scan as it hadn't been ordered in my notes.My next appointment after that was @ 26 weeks with a consultant,so I wouldn't have had a cervical scan from 18 weeks - atleast 26 weeks.I was concerned so I told the hospital and they got me in to see a doctor 2 days later.

    He agreed that I would need a follow up scan and I was sent for one that day I took my results back.My cervix was 2 cm more than the previous scan.He said this was wrong and it was my fault for emptying my bladder before hand,but when I had the last one the sonographer told me to empty my bladder,I have had her for a few scans and she seems to know what she is doing but this time I had someone else.

    He went on to do an internal examination and said my cervix was short and I could have a stitch.But as far as I was aware a stitch was only to be done if necessary and he didn't have any measurments to compare the last time to.He said he has no clue if it could open its 50/50.

    I was very upset and scared I was crying and he kept asking why I was crying but I felt I had to make a big decision with no facts to base it on.The nurse suggested I go back on monday and he would over see it.I have lost confidence and I am going to London for a seond opinion even then it maybe too late for the stitch as il be 23 weeks and have no idea if the cervix has opened more.I worry I will go into labour before 24 weeks.

    I am finding it all very hard and I'm constantly worrying and crying,no one seems to understand.I am finding it hard to eat or concentrate.I find myself just getting through the day not really functioning or enjoying anything just worrying.

    Is there anone else that is or has been like this I'm just finding it all very hard.

    Thanks x x x
     
  2. TashaAndBump

    TashaAndBump Guest

    :hugs: I'm sorry hun I don't have any experience or useful advice really. Except to try to relax, I know this is difficult but the more you can relax the better really - you don't need to be worried and stressed right now. That's not to say that I don't understand why you are scared - you are very justified in being sad and worried about your baby coming early, but it won't help you and I am sorry that the doctors have not been able to put your mind at rest - or to be more understanding or sympathetic to your concerns!

    I hope you see a better doctor in London who can offer you clear guidance and advice, and treatment if necessary.

    There are a couple of mums on here who have had premature babies and gone on to have further children so hopefully they will be able to offer some insight and some advice more guided and useful than mine.

    Take care of yourself hunni and keep up updated here, x
     
  3. ChloesMummy

    ChloesMummy Well-Known Member

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    I dont have any knowledge of this but i have read posts in the last week or so about two other women on here that have just had a cervical stitch, maybe search back through the second tri and see what u can find, hope it all works out for you x
     
  4. Hevz

    Hevz 4 beautiful children

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    I have gone into prem-labour with every pregnancy and lost my first two children shortly after birth, I now have 3 gorgeous kids and am pregnant again...22wks tomorrow. I have been having cervical scans with my last 4 pregnancies which has often showed shortening and sometimes funnelling but they don't think a cervical stitch would help in my situation as I start with lots of contractions and not cervical incompetancy (sp?). The scans are sort of reassuring but not always accurate, in fact with one of my pregnancies I had a scan in the morning which showed a long, closed cervix....and I gave birth to her later that day. Luckily I was 35wks by then and she was fine:happydance:

    Cervical stitches do come with a certain amount of risk and shouldn't be performed willy nilly. I think you need to discuss this further with your Dr and ask for a second opinion asap as you also don't want time to tick by if this is the treatment you need:hugs:


    In this pregnancy, I'm being treated with progesterone pessaries...it may be worth asking if these may help you. Good luck chick:hugs::hugs::hugs:
     
  5. Sarah+Ellen

    Sarah+Ellen Well-Known Member

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    i m glad that you are going to get a second opinoin hun, dont do snything that you are not sure about and all the stress wont be helping.

    I had a stitch at 22 weeks though Ellen stayed put for the next 2 weeks the stitch had caught the sac and i had lost all my waters slowly over those two weeks.

    Where in London will you be going? Ellen was born there at UCH and they are amazing.

    Good luck hun and if you need a chat anytime feel free to PM me.
    x x x
     
  6. GemDC

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    Thanks everyone,

    I will be going to a specailist in Harley Street who seems to have lots of experience with the stitch,I live in Hastings so it's a bit of a trek but I hope it will be worth it!The hospital asked me to call them asap to let them know if I need the op so I an have it as soon as possible.I will update you all as soon as I can.

    Thanks again,

    Gemma x x x
     
  7. Hevz

    Hevz 4 beautiful children

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    Good luck babe:hugs:
     
  8. cheryl

    cheryl mum of 3 +1 mc

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    Sorry I don't know much about the cervix, but just wanted to say every pregnancy is different, I had my son at 32 weeks and 4 days and I am now 34 weeks pregnant with my next baby. Everything is fine at the moment, I haven't been ill this time so hopeing all is well. But I am just trying to say, Every baby is different and everything could be fine this time.
    Good Luck
    Luv Cheryl xxx
     
  9. Fossey

    Fossey Mummy to Larissa

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    I don't have any advice but just wanted to say I hope all goes OK for you!:hug:
     

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