I'M NEW!! Young TTC'er, conceive plus, 2WW and etc.

[WantingABubba]

Hi WantingABubba! I'm Jess.
I'm currently TTC, but we're taking more of a NTNP approach at the moment. Just having lots of BDing and taking care of myself as best as I can. I'm 21, and I still get the "Oh you're so young" speech from just about everyone. A lot of people tell me that with great intentions - they are passing on advice that they think fits my life, but this advice is from strangers who don't know anything about me, besides my yearning for a child. I thought you were extremely mature in handling the criticism so far on here, but know there are lots of younger people here, too! I've been a member here for quite some time and have seen loads of people younger than you & I get pregnant intentionally and take care of their babies in a loving and responsible home.
I am also not telling my mother that I am trying to conceive because I am terrified of not being able to get pregnant. If she knows I am trying, she will be calling me up EVERY WEEK to ask if I'm pregnant or not, and I can't handle that stress. Making/having a baby is really important to me, and I don't want anything standing in the way.

Anywho - I wish you the best of luck making your lil' one, WantingABubba! Will this be your journal, for all intensive purposes? If so, I will be stalking!

Thank you for this wonderful reply! One of the most supportive, and non judgemental

I also wish you lots of luck! I will try and update on here as much as possible, and will be adding trackers etc at some point.

Stalk away

Babydust xx

 

[WantingABubba]

AF is pretty much full flow today, and cramps so bad they woke me up.

I'm, to say the least, devastated

 

[kitcatbaby]

Hi hun I'm also a young ttcer and have been exactly where you are now... every symptom in the book and convinced I was preggo but nope... on cycle 8 now and still no bean
It is so hard not to symptom spot when every little thing going on with your body makes you think you MUST be preggo!
Try everything you can but don't be surprised if it doesn't happen right away hun. I know I was shocked when I didn't get my bfp 1st month but I really hope you get yours quickly!
Good luck and babydust hun xx

Hello, lovely to meet you and thank you for replying to me!

Sorry to hear about your struggle. I too underestimated how hard it is :/ seems all the wrong people are way too fertile, though ..

I am currently on 11dpo, and think I am pregnant. Got a this morning on a cheapie, though, but am going to test with FMU on a FRER tomorrow. Wish me luck! What CD are you on now?

Take care and thanks again! xx

I just got my af so I'm on cd2 onto cycle 9 ttc #1. I'm 23 with a university education and steady job, mortgage, car etc. All that's missing is my baba.
I really hope this is your month darling keep us posted on the frer results
Babydust xx

I'm so sorry I am only on my second month ttc, and I am already disheartened so can't imagine your pain

I have also just got what I think it my period

Sorry af got you hunni it is vile when you are convinced that your symptoms mean you must be preggo and then the nasty witch flies in anyway. Just keep doing exactly as you are and you will get your bean I hope you don't have a long wait like I'm having! Xx

 

[dontworry]

AF is pretty much full flow today, and cramps so bad they woke me up.

I'm, to say the least, devastated

I think mine is about to show up, as well. Been cramping for the last week or so and yesterday had a smidge of blood (which I really don't believe could be implantation bleeding but who knows). I just have that feeling that it's coming. I am pretty sad about it, and don't know how my OH will react since this was our first month of trying, but I guess we'll find out soon!

Better luck to us all next month!

Oh and forgot to ask - where are you from? Sorry ahead of time if you didn't want to say or if you've said before, lol!

 

[Rachel789]

I agree if you have a steady job, a lot of money in the bank, and a stable relationship then age does not matter. I also agree that society has really changed things and we are actually meant to have children younger and not at the age of 30+. Unfortunately the world these days does not allow that for most people and that is just reality. But if you are young and want children at that point and can afford to give them what they need then why not do it!

I agree, but I don't think a lot of money saved is a necessity. It certainly helps, but it's not impossible to raise a child without a lot of money. My Mother had me when she was 18/19 and she went on to get a degree in teaching. A 2:1, I believe.

I am not trying to sound condescending but it is a reality of what is needed to live. I just met with a financial planner and was told the rule of thumb is to always have at least 6 months of living expenses in the bank otherwise something could happen (like losing a job, injury,ect) and you could be out of a home or in debt. And it is even more important when you have to take care of a child, you do not want to put them in that situation. My best friend growing up always had a family who struggled and I saw what she went through having to live in and out of motels and apartments and she was miserable even though her family treated her well. She ended up living with me for years because it was such an unstable environment. It happened because her mom had an injury and couldnt go back to work so they could not afford what they used to. Sometimes the unexpected happens and thats why they say to have 6 months of living expenses.

Anyway I am sorry AF showed up for you. I am on my 3rd month so I understand how upsetting it is, you can do everything right and still have no luck it is frustrating isnt it!? My good friend has been trying for over a year and her and her DH got checked out and they are both normal. I think even if you are doing everything right you only have a 1 in 5 chance any given month. You would think it would be easier If you havent yet you should check out the great sperm race on Youtube, there are 6 parts to it. It is very interesting and shows you how difficult it can be to get pregnant. It at least puts me a little more at ease when it doesnt happen. Good luck next month!

 

[dontworry]

My AF joined the Bitch Club today too, love.
I hope next month is our month.

 

[Smile181c]

Hi this is the first thread I've read on TTC and it's a little contraversial but very relevant to me

I'm Chloe, 20 and we just decided to TTC this month I haven't really started properly on my journey yet, so I can't really say I understand, but I'm here if you want to chat about anything and I wouldn't worry too much about the criticism, there'll always be someone/people who don't agree with what you're doing. I don't plan on telling my family either, as a) it's not their business and b) I want to be able to relax into TTC and not worry about outside pressures x

 

[WantingABubba]

Hi hun I'm also a young ttcer and have been exactly where you are now... every symptom in the book and convinced I was preggo but nope... on cycle 8 now and still no bean
It is so hard not to symptom spot when every little thing going on with your body makes you think you MUST be preggo!
Try everything you can but don't be surprised if it doesn't happen right away hun. I know I was shocked when I didn't get my bfp 1st month but I really hope you get yours quickly!
Good luck and babydust hun xx

Hello, lovely to meet you and thank you for replying to me!

Sorry to hear about your struggle. I too underestimated how hard it is :/ seems all the wrong people are way too fertile, though ..

I am currently on 11dpo, and think I am pregnant. Got a this morning on a cheapie, though, but am going to test with FMU on a FRER tomorrow. Wish me luck! What CD are you on now?

Take care and thanks again! xx

I just got my af so I'm on cd2 onto cycle 9 ttc #1. I'm 23 with a university education and steady job, mortgage, car etc. All that's missing is my baba.
I really hope this is your month darling keep us posted on the frer results
Babydust xx

I'm so sorry I am only on my second month ttc, and I am already disheartened so can't imagine your pain

I have also just got what I think it my period

Sorry af got you hunni it is vile when you are convinced that your symptoms mean you must be preggo and then the nasty witch flies in anyway. Just keep doing exactly as you are and you will get your bean I hope you don't have a long wait like I'm having! Xx

I know - it's so cruel :'( I was so convinced! I don't understand why it didn't work

I hope it works out for all of us

 

[WantingABubba]

AF is pretty much full flow today, and cramps so bad they woke me up.

I'm, to say the least, devastated

I think mine is about to show up, as well. Been cramping for the last week or so and yesterday had a smidge of blood (which I really don't believe could be implantation bleeding but who knows). I just have that feeling that it's coming. I am pretty sad about it, and don't know how my OH will react since this was our first month of trying, but I guess we'll find out soon!

Better luck to us all next month!

Oh and forgot to ask - where are you from? Sorry ahead of time if you didn't want to say or if you've said before, lol!

Sorry to hear that (and sorry I'm late)!

Hopefully this month is ours! No more BD'ing for me as me and OH had an argument last night, and now he's gone home, so no idea when we're going to make up but we did BD on CD11 and CD13, and I think I ovulated yesterday. So hoping it's our month but doubting it, to be honest.

I'm really scared I can't get pregnant, tbh. A lot of girls my age and younger are getting pregnant, and, although I've been on a lot of bc, I haven't always been careful yet have never fallen pregnant! I'm scared there's something wrong with me ..

Oh, and I'm from London. x

 

[WantingABubba]

I agree if you have a steady job, a lot of money in the bank, and a stable relationship then age does not matter. I also agree that society has really changed things and we are actually meant to have children younger and not at the age of 30+. Unfortunately the world these days does not allow that for most people and that is just reality. But if you are young and want children at that point and can afford to give them what they need then why not do it!

I agree, but I don't think a lot of money saved is a necessity. It certainly helps, but it's not impossible to raise a child without a lot of money. My Mother had me when she was 18/19 and she went on to get a degree in teaching. A 2:1, I believe.

I am not trying to sound condescending but it is a reality of what is needed to live. I just met with a financial planner and was told the rule of thumb is to always have at least 6 months of living expenses in the bank otherwise something could happen (like losing a job, injury,ect) and you could be out of a home or in debt. And it is even more important when you have to take care of a child, you do not want to put them in that situation. My best friend growing up always had a family who struggled and I saw what she went through having to live in and out of motels and apartments and she was miserable even though her family treated her well. She ended up living with me for years because it was such an unstable environment. It happened because her mom had an injury and couldnt go back to work so they could not afford what they used to. Sometimes the unexpected happens and thats why they say to have 6 months of living expenses.

Anyway I am sorry AF showed up for you. I am on my 3rd month so I understand how upsetting it is, you can do everything right and still have no luck it is frustrating isnt it!? My good friend has been trying for over a year and her and her DH got checked out and they are both normal. I think even if you are doing everything right you only have a 1 in 5 chance any given month. You would think it would be easier If you havent yet you should check out the great sperm race on Youtube, there are 6 parts to it. It is very interesting and shows you how difficult it can be to get pregnant. It at least puts me a little more at ease when it doesnt happen. Good luck next month!

VERY frustrating especially when all these horrible people around me are getting pregnant, and I have a friend who's 17 with two kids, and possibly pregnant again (her youngest ds is only 5 months old!). She's a better Mum than some young Mums, but still could be a lot better. She shouts at her two year old a lot, and there's no real routine in the kid's lives. It's so unfair ..

I've checked it out. It's pretty cool

 

[WantingABubba]

My AF joined the Bitch Club today too, love.
I hope next month is our month.

Me too

 

[WantingABubba]

Hi this is the first thread I've read on TTC and it's a little contraversial but very relevant to me

I'm Chloe, 20 and we just decided to TTC this month I haven't really started properly on my journey yet, so I can't really say I understand, but I'm here if you want to chat about anything and I wouldn't worry too much about the criticism, there'll always be someone/people who don't agree with what you're doing. I don't plan on telling my family either, as a) it's not their business and b) I want to be able to relax into TTC and not worry about outside pressures x

Thanks honey, and good luck xxx

 

[dontworry]

Hope you and your man make up soon. We need to make babies!
Hope everything else is well on your end!

 

[WantingABubba]

Hope you and your man make up soon. We need to make babies!
Hope everything else is well on your end!

Yeah, we made up now. Quite emotionally, I must add . However, he's now said he wants us to wait I guess it's sensible but it's frustrating as I feel I've already been waiting all my life to be a Mother. But he hasn't mentioned condoms (which we both hate anyway) or birth control so I guess we'll be NTNP. Even before we made the decision to TTC, we didn't use anything so I guess I'll see what happens. Dunno if I'm gonna be able to resist having sex with him on CD14 days cos I know that's when, or around when, I ovulate. Still, I think I'm in the 2ww wait now, but I just don't think I've fallen cos I'm so unlucky and unfertile

 

[dontworry]

Aw you have to think positively, love! Positive = :BFP:

That does suck about waiting, though. I definitely know how that feels as I feel like I've been waiting my whole life just to be a mother, too. My OH has yo-yo'd his opinions about TTC and waiting for the entire relationship (at least, since we had a scare a few years ago). It's a good sign that yours hasn't mentioned any birth control methods yet, though... Did he say his reasoning on wanting to wait, and for how long he thinks it might be?

Also, I'm officially in my TWW now too. Fingers crossed we both got lucky.

 

[WantingABubba]

Aw you have to think positively, love! Positive = :BFP:

That does suck about waiting, though. I definitely know how that feels as I feel like I've been waiting my whole life just to be a mother, too. My OH has yo-yo'd his opinions about TTC and waiting for the entire relationship (at least, since we had a scare a few years ago). It's a good sign that yours hasn't mentioned any birth control methods yet, though... Did he say his reasoning on wanting to wait, and for how long he thinks it might be?

Also, I'm officially in my TWW now too. Fingers crossed we both got lucky.

I know - I need to try to think positive

And, yeah, it does sorry your OH is making you wait too - it sucks. And, yeah, he has. He's saying he wants us to wait until we move out of England, until we live together, until we have more money. He's got a point, but I'm confident in my, and our, ability to cope. I just want this so bad, and I want my children young.

He mentioned this last month too, but still had sex with me on O days I think he wants this baby too, but he's just scared we won't cope cos of our situation.

Still, we'll see what happens.

Best of luck sweetie x

 

[taylorxx]

Welcome to BNB I'm 21, and have been TTC for 11 months. I just wanted to say that I love that you're going to practice NP. I will too I wanted to ask you though, are you planning on cloth diapering? Anyways, I hope TTC is a short journey for you! Hope you like it here on BNB, you'll learn so so so much! The girls here are sooo helpful and kind. Lots of sticky baby dust! xx

 

[WantingABubba]

Welcome to BNB I'm 21, and have been TTC for 11 months. I just wanted to say that I love that you're going to practice NP. I will too I wanted to ask you though, are you planning on cloth diapering? Anyways, I hope TTC is a short journey for you! Hope you like it here on BNB, you'll learn so so so much! The girls here are sooo helpful and kind. Lots of sticky baby dust! xx

Your post made me feel all fuzzy and warm inside

Yes, yes, I have always been big on natural parenting styles, and before I even knew how to justify them, I just knew it felt right. I am both fascinated and inspired by natural parenting, and I want to do best by my child. I'm really happy to hear you're into it too

As for cloth diapering - probably. I like the look of disposable nappies, tbh, and I've seen pictures of cloth nappies and they look massive HOWEVER, I think I'm going to do some more research on cloth nappies and will most probably choose that as an option.

Yes, I like BnB

And I also hope TTC is a short journey for me. I am in my TWW, and my period's due on Xmas eve/Xmas day! So, if I am very lucky, I MAY get a xmas bfp, which would be AMAZING. If not, it's gonna not be very nice

Thanks for your kindness

 

[XxKellixX]

Im 20 a TTC. Any advice?

 

[taylorxx]

Welcome to BNB I'm 21, and have been TTC for 11 months. I just wanted to say that I love that you're going to practice NP. I will too I wanted to ask you though, are you planning on cloth diapering? Anyways, I hope TTC is a short journey for you! Hope you like it here on BNB, you'll learn so so so much! The girls here are sooo helpful and kind. Lots of sticky baby dust! xx

Your post made me feel all fuzzy and warm inside

Yes, yes, I have always been big on natural parenting styles, and before I even knew how to justify them, I just knew it felt right. I am both fascinated and inspired by natural parenting, and I want to do best by my child. I'm really happy to hear you're into it too

As for cloth diapering - probably. I like the look of disposable nappies, tbh, and I've seen pictures of cloth nappies and they look massive HOWEVER, I think I'm going to do some more research on cloth nappies and will most probably choose that as an option.

Yes, I like BnB

And I also hope TTC is a short journey for me. I am in my TWW, and my period's due on Xmas eve/Xmas day! So, if I am very lucky, I MAY get a xmas bfp, which would be AMAZING. If not, it's gonna not be very nice

Thanks for your kindness

Aw I hope you get your BFP!! That would be so so so amazing!

I've already started buying my cloth diapers, and the OS diapers are bulky until they are about 10-12 pounds or so.. but you could always try the sized (like xs fuzzibunz or lil joeys) or prefolds with covers. I chose to CD because of the environmental issues and the nasty chemicals in disposables. I think more awareness needs to be spread about what they put in sposies and what they do to our environment. It's getting so bad Hawaii is having the fly their trash over to Oregon to put in a landfill! Isn't that insane?! Cloth diapers aren't for everyone though, but it's def something worth looking into. I thought I'd ask since I saw you were into natural parenting. There are some good youtube videos about CD's if you're interested.

Let us know how you get on. I really really hope you get your bfp!! I'm in my TWW too, 11dpo. I've been getting faint lines but I'm holding off on testing until I actually miss my period. I NEVER go past my luteal phase unless I'm pregnant so we'll see! I'm having horrible sciatica pain (which I've only gotten during one of my pregnancies), my breasts are so sore they have a pulse, and I'm so incredibly exhausted. What kind of symptoms do you have? Do you know what DPO you are?