I'm really struggling with everyone being pregnant

[reddysgirl]

Ah hun, just wanted to let you know I know exactly how you feel. I have been trying for 3 1/2 years and my cousin announced she was pregnant (by accident!) last month and all the girls at work seem to be falling pregnant. I was happy for my cousin when she told me but at the same time was sad for me. Sometimes i just want to shut myself away so I don't have to try to be happy for other people. My best friend has had 2 babies in the time I have been trying for 1.

And if 1 more person asks the question 'Don't you think its about time you had a baby?' I don't think I can be held responsible for my actions!! lol.

But chin up - thats what these forums are all about - at least there are others out there who can sympathise with you and understand the feelings you have because we're going through it too.

I'm sending loads of baby dust your way!! xxx

 

[Robyn321]

Totally know what you mean about people saying 'isn't it time you had a baby' - I'm convinced I'm going to end up throwing something one day! Ever since we got married people seem to assume that's an appropriate question - it really gets to me!!

 

[reddysgirl]

Totally know what you mean about people saying 'isn't it time you had a baby' - I'm convinced I'm going to end up throwing something one day! Ever since we got married people seem to assume that's an appropriate question - it really gets to me!!

I know, you want to shout at them and say 'WELL I AM BLOODY TRYING!!!!' Lol.

I do have hope that it will eventually happen one day, and at least then I will really really appreciate being a mum! And like they say 'Good things come to those who wait!'
(So i'm expecting my baby to be gold plated by the time it arrives, I've waited so long!!! lol)

 

[Robyn321]

And once we are mummies we will never ever ask the dreaded pregnancy question!

I figure since EVERYWHERE I go I see pregnant ladies it's gotta be my turn soon!

 

[reddysgirl]

I know - we know how painful that question can be!
XXX

 

[Serene123]

I'm fed up of hearing, isn't it about time you had another? Caitlyn is going to get lonely. Blah blah blah. Yeah okay, but I can't actually have one.

 

[pinkydinky]

Reddy, i know what you mean! if ONE more person tells me, "just quit trying so hard" or "it'll happen when you least expect it", i will scream! of course, the people who give this advice usually have 3 children and get pregnant just by wearing their husband's boxer shorts!

 

[reddysgirl]

Ha Ha Pinky your comment just made me laugh out loud in my office - now everyone is looking at me kinda weird!! lol. That is very very true!!! xxx

 

[pinkydinky]

lol at least we can laugh about it! gotta keep a sense of humor while we're on this crazy TTC ride!

 

[LunaBean]

I know how you feel, everyone I know is pregnant at the mo, or due when i should have been, and my sister is TTC her 3rd since we started, its not fair, I only want the one

 

[bellahoney]

I am feeling the same way! My bff tried her first time naturally and now she is expecting.,my close cousin deliver in a month now 2 of my other friends just told me today. hurt but im dealing with it. I'm also the only one married and stable. I'm trying natural with the exception of asprin and prenatals.

I feel so hurt and less of a woman. im taking a test next week then um giving up if bfn. we have bern trying 20 months now. docs are no help

 

[andella95]

Not only is it hard when you've been trying for so long and people are asking you when you are going to have another....we've been trying for #2 for 2 years now, and our families say that they hope we DON'T have more. Huh? I'm 33 and DH is almost 38, and it breaks my heart to know that if we're blessed with another little one, nobody will be happy. I had a MMC at nearly 13 weeks, and they all thought it was a "good thing" because we can't afford another baby.

 

[molly27]

Normally I'm alright. A bit of the, I wouldn't wish this on anyone and I'm glad they're happy goes a long way.

But, and I don't know another section that'll understand how I'm feeling, for the last few weeks I feel so envious. I feel so uspet. I just want to cry all the time.

My older sister is expecting her 4th child in April, the second since we started trying. My younger sister is expecting her first child in June and I have found out that Rich's brother and SIL are having a baby in July.

I can't handle it? How do I accpet that it's right for them and not me?

I feel like the worst person in the world for making Rich's first niece or nephew about me but... I'm just so sad

hi, i know exactly how ur feeling, i work in a supermarket and every second person is pregnant and i get so envious,ive had 2 miscarriages last year and havent been able to conceive since.my sister in law had her baby when i was due my first and i found it so hard to deal with. lots of my friends have just given birth and it feels like it will never happen for me.i get so upset about it.i just have to keep believing that my time will come.

 

[reddysgirl]

I am feeling the same way! My bff tried her first time naturally and now she is expecting.,my close cousin deliver in a month now 2 of my other friends just told me today. hurt but im dealing with it. I'm also the only one married and stable. I'm trying natural with the exception of asprin and prenatals.

I feel so hurt and less of a woman. im taking a test next week then um giving up if bfn. we have bern trying 20 months now. docs are no help

BellaHoney - please don't give up! I've been trying for nearly 4 years now, and I know that at times you feel like giving up because it hurts so much to be let down month after month. Its hard to keep the PMA at times but I've learnt you have to, to keep your sanity.

Does your doctor know how long you have been trying? I would suggest making an appointment to see your doctor and say to him that you have been trying for 2 years and that you want to be referred. Chances are the reason your doctor hasn't referred you before is because (like me) doctors like you to have ttc for 2 years before referring you. Once you hit the 2 year mark, you should be sent for Day 21 tests to check I was ovulating, day 1-3, FSH, rubella etc etc.

All my and OH tests came back fine, until I had a HyCosy appointment showed that my tubes are blocked (hence why I haven't been able to get pregnant) and now i'm on the waiting list for Laparoscopy to see if there is anything they can do about my blocked tubes.

Believe me though, once you start having the tests done, you start to feel more positive because you know you are getting closer to finding out the reason why you aren't getting pregnant, and it gets you a step closer to actually getting pregnant.

If you want any advice on the things to say to your doctor for a referral, please private message me, and i'll be happy to chat!

I'm sending loads of baby dust your way!! xxx