SarahBear
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So, my father-in-law has a sense of humor that isn't always friendly and he has made jokes that make me uncomfortable. When Violet is around other kids who happen to be boys, he makes girlfriend/boyfriend type jokes and then this past weekend, Violet was wearing a dress with horizontal stripes. He commented to her "Don't you know you're not supposed to wear horizontal stripes? They make you look fat." And then the next day (we spent the night there), she was playing with the scale they have in their kitchen. It read something over 24 (pounds), but under 25 when she got on it. He commented that she better go on a diet or else it will get to 25 pounds. He thinks these jokes are harmless, but I find them completely inappropriate. With the first one, it just encourages kids to be uncomfortable and distant from each other (if they're the opposite sex) and discourages healthy relationships. The second type is body shaming and encouraging her to think there's something wrong with herself when there's already plenty of negative messages out there for girls. I haven't done much yet because Violet doesn't really understand but it won't be long before she does understand what he's saying. I'd hope he'd stop at that point, but he made one of the jokes about boys when there was a 5 year old around. The 5 year old's linguistic understanding didn't hinder him from making the joke. These jokes are harmful and not the slightest bit funny. How would you approach it?