Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[chistiana]

Tuga congratulations for your nuno!! So happy to hear he arrived safely!
I really sorry for all the pain n negative feelings you're going through ladies. In a way, i think this is why I was so negative to have another section. My first section (2nd child) went as badly as you describe it..I wanted to go to the nicu to see my girl but couldn't even get on the chair to be wheeled down. Anyway, just keep focusing on your beautiful babes girls and know it's definitely going to get much better really really soon!! Lots of love to all!

Laney my friend, how r u and Noah??

Koifish how are the boys doing hun? Any news about going home??

Afm: maya has been doing a lot better lately despite still having bad reflux. She's smiling cooing and knocking her toys around! Undortunately every time I decide to eat anything dairy in hope that it's not true lactose intolerance she ll spend all day next day screaming guess she s really not good with dairy (god I miss ice cream!!)

 

[Laney26]

Hi ladies I hope Tuga and Septi are feeling better it is still early days I've been thinking about u I always wanted a section as it seemed like the easy way to have a baby but sounds like u poor ladies are really suffering bless you.
We are doing well in general Christiana so glad Maya's reflux is getting there it's such an awful thing I think you have it spot on with the dairy I accidentally ate some halloumi cheese just like u said about Maya Noah pretty much screamed all the next day. Did either of ur other 2 children have it mine didn't. I'm having an emotional time at the minute I feel as though I love him too much I have become over protective and am just protective of him all the time I hope it's not the start of post natal depression I also feel like I'm not good enough for him just hoping it's a hormonal thing. Love to you all Christiana if you drink tea what milk substitute do u put in it I've tried oat and coconut milk and it's vile xxx

 

[chistiana]

Laney sorry to hear you re going through possible baby blues hun, I really hope it's just that but if you feel overwhelmed then never hesitate to contact your doc for help. I m 100% sure you're a perfect mom to little Noah and I kinda know that feeling of being in a way too much in love iykwim. I sometimes feel so connected to maya that I go on to feel completely disconnected from the other two n then feel bad about it. I think it's totally normal after the journeys we ve had girl. As for the tea..I ll have to disappoint you..I drink tea with milk and ever since the lactose intolerance business I haven't had any. I did try it with soya n I almost threw up n I don't want to try it with goats milk. I made ice cream with goats milk yogurt yesterday..I think it might be a while before I eat ice cream again ��

 

[Septie]

Hi ladies, good to hear from you! Here's to hoping the reflux continues to improve!

Llaney, I do think it's normal to feel protective of the littlest one. I felt that way with my second, and now with my third. And with that comes a certain feeling of disconnect with the older ones, true. But I know it evened out with my second after a while, so I expect the same will happen this time. Actually, my second seemed so small before I went into the hospital this time, and now he seems huge lol.
My eldest (almost 6) is acting up and misbehaving terribly, tantrums - omg, he is often unbearable!! I really hope it's temporary! Dreading the grandparents leaving later this week. Strangely enough, I had expected my middle child to do that - but he's been an angel so far. How have yours been?
Still in some pain off and on. Will see doc on Friday for check-up.
Tuga, how are you girl? I completely agree with your last post - so true! Hoping we'll hear an update from Koifish - am getting a bit worried...

 

[Koifish]

Hey ladies sorry it's been crazy. I ve been trying to login and it kept telling me it was incorrect the reset didn't work but finally got another reset to get me back in!

Anyways Septie and Tuga I am sorry your in so much pain. Sections are really not pleasent i can't imagine having to have it done more than once :/ I hope the pain eases up and you both get to feeling better soon! Tuga congratulations on the arrival of little Nuno.

I hope everyone and their babies are doing well!

Laney and Christiana I am sorry you both are still dealing with reflux issues. Hopefully it gets better as they they get bigger! I hope you both are doing well.

Laney I hope you feel better soon your a great mom and definitely good enough for little Noah! It's not a bad thing to love him to much and I am sure it's hard to not want to be over protective, I know I am going to really struggle with that when mine are home. I hope it's not from post natal depression and just hormones but if you think it is talk to your doctor definitely don't let it just go if you realize it's not hormones. I am afraid I'll end up with it too but right now I run like an energizer bunny.

As for the boys they are both still in NICU. Khoi is doing good and on countdown but ever since the word home was mentioned he has a brady about once a day so he resets the countdown :/ he's just not ready yet. Kolten on the other hand wants to see how long I go before he gives me a heart attack! He's done well from the surgery and healing up good. He was treated for an infection and also had a blood transfusion then had a bad episode from dropping to cold in temp from being put on a cold table while they put in a feeding tube which had to done with a camera or something so they don't damage his repairs. 😥😧 currently he's doing much better taking full feeds and gaining weight and has no more ivs. I just never know if it's safe to say he's good or solid.

Ahhhhh ok that was a lot!

 

[Septie]

So good to hear from you Koifish!! Glad to hear Khoi is on a countdown and that Kolten's surgery was successful. You'll have quite a few stories to tell him down the line about all the worries he put you through, and what a little fighter he was even as a premie (and in your belly!) ! Hoping your heart can calm down and he stays on a path of growth and feeding from now on Hard to believe they are just now full term, isn't it?
Our little one put on 1 lb in his second week of life - a booby monster like his eldest brother...of course that means he is chained to me a good part of the day and night lol (but better than reflux or colic by any means!!
Hope everybody is enjoying the end of August.

 

[chistiana]

Koi so glad to hear the boys are doing good despite the heart attack kolten is trying to give you! The both sound like fantastic little fighters, that's for sure!! Is hubby helping out momma? Cause I know all the help goes to the Los and hardly to mommy.

Septie my eldest one (5) was also like yours...I too expectedy middle (3) to act up but while she was an angel he was a monster. Then it changed n she became an attention freak while the big one became a model kid! Now they re both back to their old selves whatever that means!!!

Tuga, laney how are you girls?

Septie n tuga are you feeling better from the sections??

 

[likeaustralia]

36 weeks today and I lost some mucus plug last night.

I haven't had a cervix measurement since 31 weeks, but I assume the mucus means things are starting to thin and/or open.

Anyone here have any insight on when labor might start this time?

(My first was born at 34+6 after having been 50% effaced since around 30 weeks.)

 

[cookielucylou]

Hi ladies, I have a question I hope you can help with.
In 2012 i had laser removal on my cervix to remove some cells, I had my 2nd son that year with no issues. Since though we have been ttc and twice now have miscarried early. Could it be linked to the laser removal? I'm currently 5 weeks pregnant again and getting brown discharge, got a doctors appointment Tuesday so wondering if its something worth checking.

 

[chistiana]

Likeaustralia you re almost full term which is great! Losing part of my mucus plug meant nothing for me though...I lost some at about 37+6 and gave birth at 39+1. I had also lost a big part veeeery early on (around 15 weeks) but I m guessing it just rebuild itself! Anyhow you re so close now, congrats on making it, especially after a premie I know what a relief it must be!!

Cookie I m no expert but I doubt the laser surgery could cause 1st tri losses. It might cause ic but the weight is minimal in the first tri. Have you checked for mullerian abnormalities?? I m only asking cause I had a septate uterus and had 3 losses after having my son with a textbook perfect pg. anyway I really wish you a h&h 9 months and that your losses were really just bad luck

 

[Tuga]

Hello my lovelies😘❤

Sorry for the long silence. These past few weeks were really hard. I've never experienced so much pain before. Thankfully I had a lot of support from our family otherwise I don't know how I would have coped.
Nuno is doing really well. He has gained 700g in 2 weeks! I am exclusively breastfeeding and because he wants to eat all the time I am basically a zombie.
I have to sleep when he does otherwise I get no sleep. He just went to sleep so I've decided to come and say hi to you all. I hope everyone is doing well.
Septie, how are you my lovely? Hope you recovery is going well and your little one as well.
Laney and Christiana, how are Noah and Maya? Hopefully no more reflux😘
Koifish, how are the twins? Hope they are healthy and close to going home.

Hope everyone else is doing well. Take care of yourselves 😘❤

 

[cookielucylou]

I asked the doctor anyway and she didnt really give an answer either way just said it was something that needed doing at the time :-/
I'm really disapointed with the hospital who done it at the time as the appointment was to examine it more but they decided to do treatment at same time so I had no infornation on it at the time and they never mentioned anything about it effecting having more children. Wasnt until I got pregnant straight after I was told I shouldnt have and it could mean I needed consultant care through pregnancy :-/

 

[Septie]

Tuga, great to hear from you! How is the pain? It looks like we've been having a pretty similar stretch with this, our last(!), section! I am only now feeling much better - but last night still ended up sore with an ibuprofen taken at night...And it's sometimes still quite painful to touch on one side. So weird!
The baby is fabulous, I think we are seeing the first real smiles (oh the older boys loooove that!!). But he is mostly a loooong cluster feeder or wants to be held. Though last night he slept a 3 hour and a 2.5 hour stretch - I almost got worried (some days he is up all night with very short naps inbetween, often on me).
School is starting for the big boy next week. He is looking forward to it, I am dreading it
Hope all are well!

 

[Koifish]

Hey ladies I hope you are all doing well. It sounds like everyone is doing good and babies too!. Hope the section pains get better for you Tuga and Septie.

One of my boys finally got discharged and is home. Other than being glued to my pump hubby's been taking him at night so I can get sleep. Love having him home finally His brother is doing good still fighting on, I don't think he will be home anytime soon :/ but I am happy with his progress.

Hope you all are enjoying your time with your new additions 😄

 

[chistiana]

Tuga sorry to hear the pain was so bad hun but so happy to hear nuno is doing so good and has gained so much weight! Well done momma!! Don't feel bad about asking for your family to help wherever they can, a section is by itself (let alone a third one) a very difficult surgery so mommy needs to have time to recover!

Septie haha I m also dreading next Friday when nik n nat go back to school but then at least we ll have some free time alone with the Los!! Glad to hear you have such a good baby despite the long feedings! Just enjoy them (I think you said this is your last one too??) cause you re going to miss them at some point!

Koifish aaahhh so so happy to hear Khoi is home!! Well done little fighter! What's his weight now? Also glad to read kolten (am I getting the names mixed up or is it my idea??) is doing better, hope he is home soon too!! How are you feeling hun?

Cookie how is everything? I don't remember if you said it before but will you be getting a cerclage?

Laney how are you and Noah girl? How's he with the reflux?

Afm: well maya will be 3 months in 2 days!!! I can't believe so much time has passed already!! Her reflux is still pretty bad most days but at least she doesn't seem to be in much pain. She still spits up soooo much but maybe it's not so acidic??? Anyway, she's smiling a lot and laughing out loud as well and it seems she can see better now because she can sit in her bouncy chair for longer periods! She also flipped from belly to back today!! She still exclusively breastfeed sand we both enjoy it soooo much! She's sleeping 6-8 hour stretches so that's an extra bonus although I put her down for her night sleep at 8 and I don't go to bed before 12 anyway, I could write a novel! Lots of love to everyone!

 

[stormcloud96]

After my 20 week scan at the follow up at 22 weeks they said I would need weekly monitoring as my cervix was at 2.8 cm, so went for 23 week as that was the next, and it was the same. Now went today at 24 weeks and it had gone down to 1.4 cm, so halved. No dilation or gaps or anything, but u/s tech seemed concerned and said she'd send report over urgently and to call the maternity ward. Well since it's right across the street I walked over, and made a tearful call to my husband. Once I got in, I was given a prescription for the progesterone pressies. I already had my next scan scheduled for next Tuesday, so they'll be able to see progress, but here's where it gets kind of weird. The midwife did say they were new charts, but required weekly monitoring for less than 3 cm. The specialist ob gave referral for another scan in 2 weeks, and I had already mentioned that I was going weekly, and she seemed surprised and said. I hate to be one of those people that questions the dr's integrity, but it seemed odd. I wish they'd give me the cerclage as I've had the cone thing and a LEEP and a second surgery with a scalpel. I know it's one of those wait and see deals, and at least it's only a week (not 2 thanks goodness), but again still just seems like there was a miscommunication between midwives and ob or something. Anyone have thoughts? Experiences? I've read some of this thread but not all. There seems to be conflicting results with cerclage what about progesterone only? I saw more people taking the progesterone earlier in pregnancy.

 

[chistiana]

Storm I m sorry you re in this situation. At this point I seriously think a cerclage might be more risky so progesterone maybe along with bed rest is all you can do. I agree with the weekly scans up until 28th week after which ic is no longer such a big issue (you d need to be in full blow labor for your cervix to open so much for the baby to come out). A lot of docs don't go with bed rest but I know this is what kept dd1 in for 35 weeks. Best of luck

 

[stormcloud96]

It's all good went and saw a doctor who had the report and went over the risks and whatnot. He also said to keep up the weekly monitoring, and I made an appointment for after the scan just in case. He basically said he'd only put a stitch in if it falls below 10mm before 27 weeks, otherwise as you said it's too risky. Just nice that he explained and wants the monitoring. What concerned me is the previous doctor said every two weeks, and just kind of gave me the progesterone and that was it, in fact I didn't even see her, was just passing info back and forth between midwife. I feel much more comfortable with this other doctor, who took the time, and I actually saw. He also does not recommend bed rest, just the usual, no lifting, no heavy duty, but the usual light stuff is fine, including walking the dog which is good weather here has become so nice!
As with everything pregnancy just so annoying to play the waiting game, I have til Tuesday to find out how it's going...

 

[Septie]

Hi stormcloud: A lot of docs don't recommend bedrest...My situation was less bad than yours and I went on self-imposed (modified) bedrest for about 8 weeks (it dropped to 2.5 after being around 3) until 28 weeks, when it went back up to 3 and they stopped checking...Just went to the bathroom, down to the garden, no walks etc. Still took it easy for a while after. You are a good gestation, but obviously still too early.
Hope all is well with you girls!

 

[Twinkle 3]

Hi ladies iv had a quick read through your posts! Sorry i havnt been on in a while, iv been in the middle of moving home and its been exhausting as we gave completely refurbished one house! Finally done though now and just a few boxes to sort here and there.

Ita lovely to hear all your little ones thats already born are doing great! I feel you ladies that are worrying about IC in your pregnancy, it gets better the further along you get.

Im currently at 27weeks! Can you beleive it? Im so happy, not too long to go. Im having constant contractions all day long. My consultant isnt too fussed as most of them arnt painful at all. Just the odd one or two that become quite painful and i feel them in my cervix. Iv got a small bump for 27weeks i think and my movements are wuite strange, sort of like i can feel a full arm sticking out! Where as with ym little boyi felt movements but not the same as this if it makes sense iv got a growth scan in the next 2 weeks so im going to query the contractions again. To say im only 27weeks im getting really tired and achey! The spd has become worse again too after a breif spell of being pain free from it.


Im so sorry for this post being so breif, im currently sat at the side of my 2 year old who has decided to throw a tantrum so iv had to be quicker than i intended!

Ill also add i have complete faith in the cervical stitches again as iv really put mine to the test this time. Iv carried on normal life and im never off my feet!

For some reason though i still feel like this little girl will be born early? Dont know if thats a normal feeling with IC. I just feel she dosnt have long left inside even though i dont want her any time yet!

Hope your all ok

Xx