Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Mommy's Angel]

Absolutely ADORABLE! She's so beautiful and healthy. Even if I do go that early, It gives me hope that Amelia will be just fine. I DO pray however we make it to October.

We meet with NICU the end of August to come up with a plan upon birth and "if" I go early. My hope is we'll have some sort of plan in place and they'll explain more of what goes on there so I can put my mind to rest.

I've been dealing with anxiety and depression this week. I haven't even slept well for a few days. Peri office today thinks it's my loss with Jackson. Seeing as though my mindset is He's alive in heaven and we're moving TOWARD him, it has given me closure and a sense of peace so it's not my loss of him. I think it's just hormones. I brought it up to them because I thought they'd need to know as I've heard it can be associated with PPD. Whatever the case, I'm exhausted and depressed for no reason. All I want to do is cry. SO FRUSTRATING! Lots to be thankful for.

Lizzie, when is your appointment again? You've been on my heart a lot.

 

[Jule71]

NK- congrats on your baby girl! She is gorgeous! I see you are from North Van, I'm not far from you (East Van). I was curious, where did you deliver your babies? BC Women's? I am seeing a Peri at RCH and am mentally preparing to a possible NICU stay so was wondering what a someone in my area recommends. Did you have a good Peri?

MA- I'm sorry you are feeling down this week- me too. I am very anxious and so worried all the time, I don't feel like myself. I look terrible, hard time eating and sleeping. Just laying here worrying. I just want to go to sleep for 2 months. I have been trying to do some positive thinking and picturing myself holding my healthy baby boy at the hospital. I know it must be extra hard for you since you are also still grieving your son. I have had multiple miscarriages (6 to be exact) so I also have a feeling of loss, although not comparable to a late loss. I think the hormones add to our depression, and bed rest is also very tough. I am here to chat if you ever want to PM me. Take care, and remember you are in a good place now and your Amelia will be fine.

I had a little scare today. I wiped after peeing and there was a little knot thing on the tp. I unravelled it and it was a thin tan string (looked like thin piece of pasta) so called my Dr. He is away for the long weekend, so the assistant told me I could come in and see another Dr on call at L&D. I went in and she told me it was just the dissolvable stitch (I had a shirodkar so they have to cut through vaginal walls to put cerclage in then sew it back with dissolvable stitches). She said it was nothing to worry about, but I was worried since it has been 7 weeks since my procedure. I mentioned I had extra discharge today as well so she offered to take a look at my cervix. I am now regretting having her look, I had a speculum exam and it hurt! My cervix is high and posterior so she had a hard time looking and the speculum was pinching me so bad! Is that normal?? I don't remember it hurting before. I now am in fear of an infection and feel like I just got off a horse ride. I will not let anyone examine me again, except my own Dr. Do you guys think this will cause me to go into PTL or get an infection? I'm just so worried! Anyways, the Dr said my cervix was closed and there was no fluid pooling or any unusual discharge, no signs of anything wrong, so sent me home.

I was wondering if anyone has done progesterone suppositories rectally? As you all know, I'm SUPER worried about infection, so am thinking of asking my Peri if I can do my prometrium rectally or orally instead of vaginally.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi there Jule,

I actually just had the same concern with my tape and posted it I think last week or two weeks ago. Why they don't tell us about this issue is beyond us so we are AWARE instead of freaking out.

AS far as extra mucus, I know that our bodies produce alot more mucus during second and third trimesters. Did they do a swab test while they did the speculum exam? That should test for any infection, The speculum isn't my favorite at all. It is normal for it to pinch, though I think it has more to do with the clinician that actually does it as my last one a week or so again was less painful and was the FIRST speculum exam where the midwife actually was careful not to pinch the wall or hurt me. She was very delicate.

Your much more sensitive now so it makes sense that it would hurt more than you remember. I don't think you'll go into PTL however, you don't want to have these speculums chronically. There have been plenty of us who've had them and it was mainly to check for infection. I think I remember lizzie mentioning a few posts ago that unless your cervix is open the infection can't really get in. Sounds like yours is closed from what you described.

I haven't done progesterone suppositories so can't help you there I DO take something called 17P injections. They are weekly from 16wks to 36wks and keep from PTL. Maybe you can take those instead of the suppositories.

As for the sadness. I'm making it through. My husband is SUCH a good man. He reminds me of Gods promises and His Truth when my mind exaggerates the whole truth. It's been helping along with prayer. I'd like to say the worry has gotten better. For the most part it HAS concerning passing the milestones and having more confidence I'll make it to a safe gestation with her.

On the other hand, I've started to have anxiety about silly stuff. The back deck not being done, the girl next door leaving her kids toys around without picking them up ((VERY SILLY)) even my really good friend coming over. I LITERALLY wanted to hide in my dark room under the covers and NOT get up for the day. Obviously I got up and we had a LOVELY time together, but it's CRAZY things like that which have me anxious. I haven't slept well so that's not helping at all either. THEN today I just broke down with Doug and told him I felt like a terrible mommy even before I start because my body isn't working properly. If it's not the IC it's the fact that I'm getting a whole lot more insulin daily totals because of the 17P injections. Nicu will have to intervene even if she's to term because there's a possibility she'll bottom out. So she'll need an IV and glucose drip. Just makes me feel like I'm causing my sweet girl pain already when mommies are supposed to do their best to keep them from pain.

Then my mind wanders into wanting a brother or sister for her and how I would do it with her and whether I'd be a bad mommy to the next one. WAY too far in the future and just reminds me to count my blessings and be CONTENT with what I have at THIS moment not the next one.

Just the blues causing really unrealistic anxiety and I too try to focus on other things and I can't seem to focus. What HAS been working to calm me down is to "be still". God says in the Bible to "be still and know that I am God". We don't need all the answers, we don't have to fix everything, we don't have to know what to say all the time. Just be still, be quiet...and know He's our loving Heavenly Father who loves us and will fight the battle for us. So I'll just lie in bed and let the cold air from the air conditioner flow over my face and just not think....It's worked so far. I just have to do it a million times a day when every thought comes into my head. It's a LOT!

Hoping you feel better tomorrow dear friend!

Love to you all.

 

[Ashley9603]

Just an update....My boys are progressing well.James(baby a)is over 4 pounds and in an open crib(they are both still at the nicu)Elijah is a little over 3 pounds due to meds he is on,however only a few more days until he is off the oxygen and in an open crib.Next week is when they will officially start nursing(they will be 34 weeks gestation next week)

 

[HelenGee]

Hi jule and MA - the depression side of a difficult pregnancy is a hard to deal with. You were right to mention it MA, you sound just like I was, whichever goal I hit, I just wanted to be at the next one. It is so hard to cope mentally with bedrest so there are a few thoughts that I hope might help you to cope.

1. You are not letting your unborn babies down, in any way, shape or form! Try thinking of yourself from the perspective of a different person (reframe it), imagine that you can be one of two mothers, both of whom know that this is an ic pregnancy. You can be the one who does nothing extra to protect the baby, who doesn't fight, ask questions and bed rest. Or, you can be the one who sacrifices normal everyday life, protects and fights for their baby. Which one are you? Which one would you prefer to be? How different might the outcomes be for the two mothers? Even if the worst were to happen for both mothers, who do you feel happier being?

You are giving your babies a fighting chance, that is NOT letting them down. You are giving them every fibre of your being, that is a sacrifice that very few expectant mothers make. That makes you extremely capable, decisive and caring, not a failure.

It has taken me a looong time to get to the point where I don't feel a failure and want to constantly apologise to my two little ones for such a difficult time.

2. Try thought stopping when you find a black mood taking over. The cool air as a distraction is a great one, but even picturing the word "stop" or putting a picture in your mind of a time when you felt secure and confident to stop the dark thoughts rolling in. This really helps me as I'm a real worrier and over-thinker, I ponder over every word!

It is very difficult to not worry, especially given the losses you have suffered, but in hindsight I think my concerns for the future stemmed from the feeling that I have felt I have had to "fight" the medical profession for many different reasons, but especially to have the ic recognised. I felt battle weary after Bella was born, and had no trust in doctors, my gp is bloody hopeless and this has not helped my negative feelings. However, I have begun to picture the outcome I actually want and decide that I am going to have a plan of how to get to that positive outcome so I don't worry half as much. I won't lose sight of that positive outcome so I feel a bit more confident and reassured.

Btw, I think Sherri did the progesterone supposotories rectally, sorry Sherri! Think it's all been ok, but I'm sure she could tell you.


lizzie- hope you had a miracle today, I have been trying to find a magic wand, if only......

 

[Mommy's Angel]

It is very difficult to not worry, especially given the losses you have suffered, but in hindsight I think my concerns for the future stemmed from the feeling that I have felt I have had to "fight" the medical profession for many different reasons, but especially to have the ic recognised. I felt battle weary after Bella was born, and had no trust in doctors, my gp is bloody hopeless and this has not helped my negative feelings. However, I have begun to picture the outcome I actually want and decide that I am going to have a plan of how to get to that positive outcome so I don't worry half as much. I won't lose sight of that positive outcome so I feel a bit more confident and reassured.



lizzie- hope you had a miracle today, I have been trying to find a magic wand, if only......

I think you must have hit it right on the nose. Last night I finally got to sleep. I woke up this morning in tears from a dream that I was birthing Amelia and arguing with the medical staff who said they would sue me for not following THEIR protocal and I kept hollering back that I'd counter-suit for not listening and putting both of us at risk. I guess my dream shares the thought that YOU did about not trusting. In fact, I have to start looking for a pediatrician and I'm having the hardest time trusting Dr.'s in my area for my husband and I. Like you said, it really is a trust issue. I think that may be the stemming issue to the sadness I feel. I'm tired of fighting, tired of being on guard all the time. In all actuality my faith tells me to trust in God who has much more power than I and who loves me so much that I can trust HIM to fight my battles, on the other hand, I fight with flesh though...the kind that's had to have control. So letting go of that control has been hard...but I'm learning that it's a BIG part of life...learning to be flexible while also having a balance of advocating for yourself and your family.

I'll try what you've suggested.

Lizzie, hoping for the best little miraculous outcome. You are on my heart dear.

 

[ErinMayasmum]

Hi everybody,
I joined this forum today after finding it last night. I hope you don't mind but I just wanted to tell you my story.
My husband and I started trying for a baby at the beginning of 2009 just after we got married. We are both now 39 years old. We didn't make a concioys decision to wait, we only got together in 2006 and I was just waiting for the right man to settle down with..
Anyway due to my age we were accepted for ivf. The only things they found when examining me were a bit of endemetriosis and a bicornuate uterus-neither of which they seemed concerned about.
We were about to start treatment when we found out I was pregnant and it seemed that our dreams were coming true!
My pregnancy had some spotting at 5 and 6 weeks which we had scans for and everything looked fine. I had a bad time with pregnancy sickness all day, every day from week 6 to week 17, then things settled down and I was starting to show and feel our baby moving which was so exciting.
Then on 13th June we went to hospital as I was having some bleeding and back and pelvic pain. I had also realised that I was having contractions. This was my first pregnancy so I didn't know what they felt like.
I was examined and they told me that my membranes were coming out of my cervix. They said I should stay in hospital for a few days while they gave me nifedipine to try and stop the contractions. They told me that i was likely to lose our baby. I was 20 weeks pregnant. I was put in a
side room on a maternity ward. After 4 days the contractions still hadn't stopped. The consultant told me that they were taking me off the medication and sending me home to let nature take it's course as the baby was too early to have the steroids for her lungs and there was nothing more they could do.
I went home but on Friday 17th June I went into full labour and gave birth to our precious baby girl Erin Maya. She had already died by the time she was born although her heart had been strong up to the day before and I had felt her moving.
She was perfect and beautiful-we were and are completely heartbroken. She was cremated last Tuesday. I just keep thinking how perfect our lives could have been if she had been born later.
The docs said I have an incompetent cervix probably due to diathermy that I had for abnormal cells in 2007. I had no idea that I had a problem!
We are waiting to see the consultant in August to discuss what would happen if I got pregnant again and I think it would involve a cervical cerclage.
At the moment the thought of another pregnancy terrifies me-would a stitch work? Would I be so stressed the whole time I could bring on another miscarriage?
I know I am already a mummy to Erin but it is so cruel that I will never get to hear her voice, feed her, play with her-all the things that millions of other mums get to do all the time. It feels like our future is gone. I'm trying to be strong but my head is in bits really-I know we will never get over this but will it get easier?
Sorry to whinge on and on
Xx

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi everybody,
I joined this forum today after finding it last night. I hope you don't mind but I just wanted to tell you my story.
My husband and I started trying for a baby at the beginning of 2009 just after we got married. We are both now 39 years old. We didn't make a concioys decision to wait, we only got together in 2006 and I was just waiting for the right man to settle down with..
Anyway due to my age we were accepted for ivf. The only things they found when examining me were a bit of endemetriosis and a bicornuate uterus-neither of which they seemed concerned about.
We were about to start treatment when we found out I was pregnant and it seemed that our dreams were coming true!
My pregnancy had some spotting at 5 and 6 weeks which we had scans for and everything looked fine. I had a bad time with pregnancy sickness all day, every day from week 6 to week 17, then things settled down and I was starting to show and feel our baby moving which was so exciting.
Then on 13th June we went to hospital as I was having some bleeding and back and pelvic pain. I had also realised that I was having contractions. This was my first pregnancy so I didn't know what they felt like.
I was examined and they told me that my membranes were coming out of my cervix. They said I should stay in hospital for a few days while they gave me nifedipine to try and stop the contractions. They told me that i was likely to lose our baby. I was 20 weeks pregnant. I was put in a
side room on a maternity ward. After 4 days the contractions still hadn't stopped. The consultant told me that they were taking me off the medication and sending me home to let nature take it's course as the baby was too early to have the steroids for her lungs and there was nothing more they could do.
I went home but on Friday 17th June I went into full labour and gave birth to our precious baby girl Erin Maya. She had already died by the time she was born although her heart had been strong up to the day before and I had felt her moving.
She was perfect and beautiful-we were and are completely heartbroken. She was cremated last Tuesday. I just keep thinking how perfect our lives could have been if she had been born later.
The docs said I have an incompetent cervix probably due to diathermy that I had for abnormal cells in 2007. I had no idea that I had a problem!
We are waiting to see the consultant in August to discuss what would happen if I got pregnant again and I think it would involve a cervical cerclage.
At the moment the thought of another pregnancy terrifies me-would a stitch work? Would I be so stressed the whole time I could bring on another miscarriage?
I know I am already a mummy to Erin but it is so cruel that I will never get to hear her voice, feed her, play with her-all the things that millions of other mums get to do all the time. It feels like our future is gone. I'm trying to be strong but my head is in bits really-I know we will never get over this but will it get easier?
Sorry to whinge on and on
Xx

Oh dear. I lost my son at 22wks with a bulging amniotic sac. You are and will be going through some emotional grieving right now. It took me a year before I was ready again to ttc. I too have a son in heaven and went through similar questions in my head. I DIDN'T ever want to replace Jackson and I was just SO MAD. I actually felt lifeless in the first 6 months. We went to counseling to get through the emotions. I understand your sadness. You had hopes and dreams for your daughter just as we did for our son Jackson. You wonder what it would have been like to see her play and grow up and get married. Those feelings honestly will NEVER go away as I look at children my sons age and just wonder. What helped me through was my faith in God. I saw an interview with another mom who's son passed away much older and she spoke of the scripture "to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord". She looked that scripture up in a concordance and the definition of to be absent from the body meant to emmigrate and to be with the Lord is to be in ones "homeland".

Through that, I learned that my fear of having lost those moments with my son that I will never get back started to change. You see, WE are the ones in a temporary home. I'm unsure if you are a believer or not...and that's okay too. But what helped me through is KNOWING that I'm not walking away from Jackson. I'm walking TOWARD him. Just as you are with your Erin. They are very much ALIVE in heaven. More alive than we are. We walk forward in our future here on earth and death is inevitable. BUT, there is life beyond this one. We'll have a WHOLE eternity with our children and according to scripture...they WILL know who we are! What helps me to move on is knowing I'll have a whole eternity to love him, get to know him and just learn with him. It's brought great peace to my healing as the first questions and statements were like yours. The loss of our hopes and dreams, the anger, the sadness, the fear of where he is, will my son even know me?!

Over time, I learned through scripture that he WILL and HE is the one waiting for my husband and I to come HOME.

Hopefully that will give you somewhere to start in your grieving process. A bit of hope in the midst of your sorrow.

The other hope...Hunny you WILL be able to conceive again. The fact you've conceived already is a plus. If there be ANY light at the end of the tunnel it's that they know you have Incompetent Cervix and the stitch that MANY of us have had to fight for, will be something that sounds like they will put in.

I can honestly say that as of midnight tonight (Sunday) I'll be 26wks. I surpassed the 22wk milestone when Jackson passed away, I passed the 24wk viabililty milestone and I'm headed not only into the 26th week but hopefully several more. I NEVER thought I'd get here.

You will most likely be given a stitch next time and I'd also assume you'd have progesterone of some sort to stop preterm labor. BOTH I can assure you have been studied and have been known to work wonders.

Will you worry? Sadly, yes! Honestly I was on guard until the 22nd wk came and the 24wk came. I started feeling more confident when I passed 24wks and am SO excited to get to 26wks...though I'll be excited at 28wks and EXTATIC when I hit 36wks.

You will get there darlin when your ready. I can attest that the ladies in here will be of great help as they were to me and you'll find a whole lot of support to get through the scary moments. Your not alone!

Sadly it feels like we're the only one when we lose our child. I tour the cemetary that Jackson's buried at and I notice losing babies has happened for centuries. We're not only NOT alone, but we won't be the last either. Later your journey through grief and loss will minister to another who will be going through the same. In the meantime, you'll need to go through the emotions of this loss and even though you'll have a new take on life from the impact Erin had here on earth in the short time she's been here, you will find that the next child you have will also impact your life. You won't be replacing Erin, Just as I won't be replacing Jackson. You'll be ADDING to your family a child here on earth to hold for a lifetime and awaiting the day you'll hold Erin who you are walking towards.

I hope I didn't say too much, or hurt you even more. My hope is that even though your sadness is great right now...there WILL be more to look forward to and Yes darlin. You have a future here on earth that needs to be fulfilled before you get to see her. One that may consist of you giving her sisters and brothers to one day get to know as you all meet together in heaven.


I look forward to the day when you share JOY of a new pregnancy and full term birth when your ready. In the meantime, your in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[ErinMayasmum]

Thanks Mommys Angel,
Your words are comforting and you are so kind to take the time to reply. We will just have to take it one day at a time.
I don't think my faith is quite as strong as yours but I do believe in God and heaven and that my Erin is being cared for by her great grandparents until we can get there.

Congratulations on reaching 26 weeks! Here's hoping you make it to your goal and keep your little one safe inside for as long as possible!

Xxx

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Thanks Mommys Angel,
Your words are comforting and you are so kind to take the time to reply. We will just have to take it one day at a time.
I don't think my faith is quite as strong as yours but I do believe in God and heaven and that my Erin is being cared for by her great grandparents until we can get there.

Congratulations on reaching 26 weeks! Here's hoping you make it to your goal and keep your little one safe inside for as long as possible!

Xxx

Thank you.


Also, I wouldn't expect your faith to be strong at a time when things have been shaken from under you. Honestly it was a time of questions for me. I just kept asking God why...knowing it was probably something I wouldn't find out until I too was in Heaven. I DO know though that when I couldn't stand, He picked me up. But like those who went through muck and mire in the Bible, I too asked God the question "Why"?

It's okay, your not expected to have it all together during a loss. As you've said it will take time. You do what you need to do through the grief. Though sometimes you may not feel Him there, God is in the midst when you cry, he cries also.

In the meantime, when your ready. There's no reason why you can't try again and have a healthy baby once you get that stitch in and progesterone. We'll be here to help you. Just take care of yourself now.

I'm sure others will respond with more knowledge than I, and I pray you find encouragement through them all though I know it's hard when your grieving at the same time.

 

[sham1]

Hi Erinmayasmum, just wanted to say welcome to the forum. I too lost a baby last year at 20 weeks so I feel your pain. No-one will be able to replace your little girl but I'm sure you will be able to have a successful pregnancy sometime in the future. Cervical issues for me were a shock in this pregnancy too as I lost my son last year for completely different reasons but they discovered cervical shortening this time so I had a stitch done at 21 weeks and I'm also on progesterone. My cervix was down to almost 1cm before stitch and now back up to 3.1cm which is average. I would definitely urge you to accept the stitch if it's offered. I'm now coming up to 26 weeks and feel good. I know that even if my baby were born now, he would have a chance to survive and that was one of the hardest parts of losing a baby at 20 weeks, the hospital won't act. I'm sorry for your loss and wish you all the best in the future. Remember we are all here if you ever need to talk. All the women on here have been great if I need support or answers. Shamara x

 

[lizziedripping]

Hi everyone - sorry I've been away for a few days. It was Evie's birthday yesterday, and her party on Friday................I have never been so busy! She had a great time tho, so it was all worth it

I can't believe she is 7, her birthday is always bitter sweet. We are so proud and thankful that she is here with us today, bringing joy and light to our lives, but sad when we remember that day 7yrs ago when she began her long fight for life

As for Friday's scan, I am even more confused than ever. Amazingly we saw an embryo with heartbeat, but it measured 6 rather than 8wks. I am certain of my dates because I had my last period on May 2nd, then a positive HPT 4wks later.

The Consultant was optimistic because a heartbeat is a very good sign, BUT I cannot undertand the growth discrepancy unless the embryo is unhealthy and "slow growing" as a result. She says that unhealthy embryos tend not to "hang on" in this way, but usually die sooner rather than later. I've often heard however of women who have "small for dates" embryos who later go on to miscarry.

I have yet another scan in a fortnight when hopefully the outlook will be definitive, and this limbo will end. I must be honest, I am now ready for any eventuality but just need an answer - the not knowing is getting me down. Also, I will need the stitch, and at the moment I am stressing that waiting like this is delaying the whole process.

Anyhoo, enough of my "soap opera" of a life, and back to the purpose of this thread! Anyone need any help at all? Please ask away ladies, I've been out of it so I may need a gentle reminder of what's been going on Love to all.

BTW, Sherri and Rensben, are you both ok? How's it going?

MA - bed rest and worry are a lethal combination. It is really tough hun, but before you know it you will be on the "home straight" and heading for the joyous birth of that little girl xxxxx

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Lizzie- well, so far so good. I'm going to keep a positive outlook on things unless it's proven. I have heard where fetal poles have taken up to 8wks or so. Having gone through this more than once though, you tend to know your own body. I'm still hoping for the best in this situation though.

Well, ((sigh)) I'm allergic to what I THINK is the stupid macrobid for the UTI they dx'd me with a week ago. I have white spots all over, hot flashes been itchy since yesterday, haven't slept well.....It has occured to me that the acid reflux is from the drug as well. I thought it was odd.

Called the on call and she told me to take benedryl and some over the counter hydrocortisone to rub on the itchy spots. Basically I poured it all over my body. lol

Makes sense now why I've felt AWFUL today. Haven't eaten much, been in bed with the air on and lights out with a headache.

It's odd but I'm also allergic to penicillin and doxycycline as well. My body is sensitive that's for sure. I DO hope the baby will be okay from the reaction.

At any rate, just wanted to share my joy in the good news and praying it continues Lizzie. Seems like that two weeks is a year while you wait.

 

[sham1]

Hi Lizzie, I realise you will still be cautious and confused about your scan and I hope you receive some clarity soon. I'm praying for the best for you hun xx

Just an update with me, all is going well so far. After cervix shortening to nearly 1 cm before stitch at 21 weeks. Went up to 2.8cm after stitch and daily progesterone and now up to 3.1cm and no bedrest thus far. Still working at the mo and leave work in about 4 weeks. I'm 26 weeks tomorrow so feeling good but tired!

MA, sorry to hear you had a bad reaction from the drugs they prescribed but sure baby is fine, seems to be a fighter! All the best and keep us posted. This thread seems to be a saving grace whenever I get nervous or scared xx

 

[MikaylasMummy]

hey ladies..i have been silently stalking and trying my hardest to keep up but i dont think iv been doing too well
lizzy i am so glad there is hope for your little one..i have my fingers and toes crossed its good news.
well we have had a bit of a hectic time at our place..koby is on his second bout of bronciollitis..his first lot 3months ago he was rsv neg. this time he is rsv pos. both times he was in hospital on oxygen therapy this time he was a bit worse with a severe wheeze ect. he hasnt been well in between with a nasty cough and loud crackle in his chest(which every health proffesional he is ever near comments on) poor little thing
lucky he is such a gorgeous happy little delightful man. unfortunatly the drs now think cos he is on his second round of bronc and he is now rsv pos. there is a high chance he is on his way to becoming asthmatic i knew he had a good chance of it cos oh has asthma and is still medicated even as an adult but i have a really bad fear of asthma and i dont want my kids to have to go through that horrible feeling of not being able to breathe that oh describes oh well we will deal with that bridge when we come to it but for now unfortunatly there is nothing that can be done to alleviate the symptoms of the bronc (wheezing fluid in chest cough) except oxygen when he is really bad so we just have to keep a close eye on him and thank our lucky stars we live so close to the hospital!
hope your all well ladies..thinking of you

 

[HelenGee]

Hey all, glad those bubs are staying put.

Sham - glad you're well and things are looking good. Keep on baking!

MA- wow, your little one is bobbing around blissfully unaware of all the discomfort her poor mummy is going through. I hope you feel better very soon, especially as it's summer and it gets so uncomfortable when you're pregnant.

Lizzie- hope your little bean is a tough cookie. Come on little one, stay strong and give your mummy some peace of mind. Happy birthday to Evie too. I wonder if she realises what an inspiration she has been. I know it was traumatic beyond words to have to fight so hard, but I will never forget the words that you wrote to mpg to try to give hope. "distressing tho it is to be born at 24 weeks, it doesn't have to be a tragedy. " I was lying in hospital in shock, having had my stitch put in, and that was the only glimmer of hope. Thank you, you have a little miracle there xxx

Erinsmummy- I cannot begin to imagine how you must be feeling. My thoughts are with you and your husband. It is wrong and cruel and I wish more could be done to identify ic before it becomes a loss. There was nothing you could have done. Be gentle on yourself xxxx

Mikaylasmummy- what a time you've had, bless your poor little man. Wishing him health and a speedy recovery xxx

 

[lizziedripping]

THanks ladies - and Helen, your words were so sweet - you're right, Evie is an inspiration to other parents facing the nicu battle - especially when everyone else is so negative about micro-preemies and their prospects. Thankyou

MM - sory your LO has been poorly again My Godson battled bronchiolitis several time throughout his childhood, and was particularly severly affected because he was born with small lungs. He is now a strapping 11yr old, who shows very little long term effects from it. Sending hugs of encouragement and support your way sweet xxx

 

[Jule71]

Hi everyone! I haven't posted in a few days because I've been trying to read this entire thread (taking awhile, but I'm on bed rest so have the time). I'm at around page 100 so far. I don't know everyone's details yet, still have 50 pages to go. Anyways, I'm learning a lot! Lizzy, you have so much knowledge, and you are so helpful, you have probably really helped many women in our situation. Do you have a medical background? You seem to know more than most OB's!

Lizzy-I had no idea you were pg didn't get that far into the thread. I am rally hoping for you that your embryo is just a result of late ovulation or late implantion. I have had 6 early losses, so I know it's hard to be in limbo and not sure how things will work out. I really hope that it does for you. Have you had any beta hcg test done to see how your levels are increasing? I know that in my experience it is a good predictor. I have had many different scenarios (good hb but measuring behind, good hb measuring on track etc..)so if you have any questions, I will try and give you some insight. PS, What does fortnight mean? I have no idea, but have read this term in earlier posts, I guess it's a term that we don't use here?

MA-Thank you so much for your insight on my trip to L&D. I didn't get a swab done then, but had one today at my appt with my Peri. He didn't use a speculum but just did a swab and also did a manual check to feel my cervix. I sort of hesitated to let him to the digital exam, but I do trust him, and he wanted to feel if there were any changes. He was very gentle, so hopefully it doesn't do any harm. He did see some 'cottage cheese' discharge and he is sure I have a yeast infection. He told me to buy some Monistat 3 day suppositories, but he also mentioned that since I can't seem to get rid of this YI, he may give me some diflucan. I guess it's an oral pill you take once? I've never heard of it? Anyways, he doesn't think I have BV but did the swab just for my piece of mind. I remember you saying you had the curd like discharge, so I just want to make sure. I'm not on P17 because I'm up in canada and it's not approved yet. There is a study they are conducting right now to see if it helps. I am on prometrium suppositories 200mg/day. I'd rather the shot any day then suppositories!
How are you feeling about things? You must feel better to have made it to 26 weeks? That is a great week to be at, I hope you are feeling good about that. I sense that you have put all your faith in God and believe He will guide you through this. I have also put my trust in God and have been praying more than I ever have. I am missing going to Mass on Sun, it always makes me feel good to go and feel close to God. I also miss the music and the sermons.
I'm sorry you had a bad reaction to the microbid. I hope that it clears up for you and you are feeling better. Thanks again for all your help!

Erin'smom- I am so very sorry for your loss of your little baby girl. I don't know you, we are complete strangers but I am heartbroken for you. It's just not fair. I hope that in time your heart heals and you can pick yourself up and try again. Once you get pg, you will have knowledge and support on how to not let this happen again. Please be strong and know you have all our support and also you have an angel looking out for you.

Questions- Has anyone had to deal with yeast infection with cerclage? I have been trying to fight off one for awhile now and it seems to keep coming back. I never had issues with them before now. My peri seems to think that having a stitch can throw off your ph balance. He suggested I could try boric acid suppositories or even diflucan if the Monistat doesn't clear it up. I am going to do the 3 day Monistat and then if it doesn't work will try the diflucan oral pill. Is a YI dangerous? Mine has been lingering off and on since being on antibiotics after stitch was placed 7 weeks ago. I am worried about this.

Also, what do you all think about getting monthly manual exams? I had one today but hate the idea of anything going inside there. My Dr said that it won't do ANY harm, but I think I'll refuse them from now on. I don't want to stir anything up. He wanted to check my cervix length and feel the stitch. He said my cervix felt closed and stitch is holding, but only felt about1-1.5cm on the outside but thinks it's about the same as before when he checked it manually (about a month ago). Do you think it can cause problems?

Thanks for any insight, Julia.

 

[Sherri81]

Hello ladies!! I haven't had time to check back on the pages I missed. I don't even know where I left off, lol.

Anyways, I did have Colby, which would explain my absence; especially when I tell you I was put into the hospital again on June 17, had him on the 21st, and we just got released from hospital yesterday.

So yes, another bit of a NICU stay, but he is good. I have written out the whole birth story and posted it, with pics, on the Third Trimester section. Go check it out, and I promise to catch up as soon as I can.

 

[Jule71]

I PM'd you to ask you some ? regarding yeast infections, so check your inbox. THANKS!