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My mom values family and as shitty as my grandmother was to her, she has always been a loving grandmother to my brother and myself. She even drives across state (afraid of flying) for my twin brothers' graduations even though they are in no way biologically related to her. She never once spoke ill of my grandmother. I only found out as an adult when my grandmother told me. Just like how I would never bad mouth the father of my child to my child. She treated her with respect and dignity as the mother of her love and the grandmother of her children. She didn't engage her more than she had to. To hold her husband and only grandchildren, especially after losing my father who was her favorite son, away her from her would be petty and I would resent her for it. Having four grandparents who loved me and spoiled me throughout my childhood and teen years was one of the best things about my childhood. My mother wasn't unyielding. She was strong and beautiful and the best mother I could ever ask for now and then, and I can only hope I am half as good as her.