Hey ladies!
My name is Holly (37), and my DH is Brad (42), and we have Hannah (2 1/2), and Oscar (who we call Ozzy), and he's 15 months old. I am severely on the fence about having a third baby. My body, doctor, husband, age, and common sense tell me that it's probably a really terrible idea...but I would just love to have one more little one to snuggle up with.
Financially, it would be beyond stupid for us. We also have a small home, which we plan to stay in for the rest of our lives...it was given to us by my parents, and I want it to be our forever home. We have NO space for a third child. I am 37, we've suffered from infertility and recurrent miscarriages, and I don't really care to go through either of those nightmares again. My children are beautiful, healthy, intelligent, and everything I prayed for for YEARS. I feel that having a third now would be really pushing my luck...and that somehow, something will go terribly wrong during the pregnancy, or with the baby, or both. My uterus nearly ruptured at the end of my second pregnancy, and I was told that my uterus was paper-thin, which would making another pregnancy very risky. So, all in all, a third baby is not a good idea for my family...DH is really not up for a third child anyway. He has been very verbal about this, and I respect that he's done, and I'm just so very grateful to have the kiddos that I've been blessed with! I look around some of the TTC forums on BnB, and I see so many women/couples struggling to have even one child, or struggling with infertility, loss, and other heartaches, and really, I've been so very lucky. There was a time when I thought I'd never be a mother, and here I am, a mother twice over!
ladies
. I hope that in time knowing that there definitely won't be any more pregnancies will make it easier to move on from the broodiness.
