emzul
Mummy to Charlie Jack
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So my Mum and Dad split when I was about 2 years old (my Dad started an affair a few months after I was born!) and apart from weekends when my brother and I were little, I didnt really see that much of him at all when I was growing up.
7 years ago something happened that I wont go into, but needless to say, I fell out with my Dad and said I didnt want to speak to him blah blah
In the end, my Nan (Dad's Mum) and my brother wore me down and I started to speak to my Dad again (I only agreed to this as I knew how upsetting it was for my Nan) but again, only speak to him very rarely
So when I found out I was pregnant, my Dad offered to buy something for the baby, he suggested the pushchair, but I said my Mum was already buying that, so he suggested the cot. This was 3 months ago. He told me I could pick "any cot we wanted and he and his wife would pay for it". I could have gone out and picked one for £400+ but I decided to get a cheaper one, as I didnt want to take the p*ss!
So we picked one from Mothercare for £99 and I emailed him 4 weeks ago to say we had picked it, where it was from and for how much. I asked him if he would like to order it or just give us the money direct. He replied saying if we ordered it, he would give me the money
I emailed him back 3 weeks ago to say we had ordered the cot, and we need to pay for it before the end of June (giving him 6 weeks) so how would he be sending the money.... since then I have had NO reply from him, except an email to ask for another pic of the baby, because he deleted the last one by accident, so I KNOW he has been on his emails because he sent that one to me.
Now OH is getting pissed off, because my Dad is tight at the best of times, and my OH (and Mum!) think he is not going to pay for it, but I would rather he just tell me if he cant pay for it this month, or yes he can and he is sending the money by cheque etc.
Now my Mum and OH are saying "he wont pay, he is tight" etc etc and I am starting to get pissed off too.... what happened between me and my Dad is nothing to do with the baby and he OFFERED to buy this, I never ask him for anything! I have said to OH I will give him til the 26th June (when I told him we needed the money by) and if I dont hear from him, I will email/ring to say dont bother now, someone else has paid!
I dont want to cause a huge family row, but he does this all the time, and to be honest I am annoyed at myself for trusting him anyway!!
Sorry its so long and moany, but I really want to just get the cot so I can finish the nursery and he is putting a downer on what should be a happy time, and I dont want the "I told you so's" I will inevitably get from my family if he doesnt pay........
Is this selfish? xx
7 years ago something happened that I wont go into, but needless to say, I fell out with my Dad and said I didnt want to speak to him blah blah
In the end, my Nan (Dad's Mum) and my brother wore me down and I started to speak to my Dad again (I only agreed to this as I knew how upsetting it was for my Nan) but again, only speak to him very rarely
So when I found out I was pregnant, my Dad offered to buy something for the baby, he suggested the pushchair, but I said my Mum was already buying that, so he suggested the cot. This was 3 months ago. He told me I could pick "any cot we wanted and he and his wife would pay for it". I could have gone out and picked one for £400+ but I decided to get a cheaper one, as I didnt want to take the p*ss!
So we picked one from Mothercare for £99 and I emailed him 4 weeks ago to say we had picked it, where it was from and for how much. I asked him if he would like to order it or just give us the money direct. He replied saying if we ordered it, he would give me the money
I emailed him back 3 weeks ago to say we had ordered the cot, and we need to pay for it before the end of June (giving him 6 weeks) so how would he be sending the money.... since then I have had NO reply from him, except an email to ask for another pic of the baby, because he deleted the last one by accident, so I KNOW he has been on his emails because he sent that one to me.
Now OH is getting pissed off, because my Dad is tight at the best of times, and my OH (and Mum!) think he is not going to pay for it, but I would rather he just tell me if he cant pay for it this month, or yes he can and he is sending the money by cheque etc.
Now my Mum and OH are saying "he wont pay, he is tight" etc etc and I am starting to get pissed off too.... what happened between me and my Dad is nothing to do with the baby and he OFFERED to buy this, I never ask him for anything! I have said to OH I will give him til the 26th June (when I told him we needed the money by) and if I dont hear from him, I will email/ring to say dont bother now, someone else has paid!
I dont want to cause a huge family row, but he does this all the time, and to be honest I am annoyed at myself for trusting him anyway!!
Sorry its so long and moany, but I really want to just get the cot so I can finish the nursery and he is putting a downer on what should be a happy time, and I dont want the "I told you so's" I will inevitably get from my family if he doesnt pay........
Is this selfish? xx