vicky125
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hey just wondering on your thoughts of this situation..
sil arent the best of friends anymore, after a few fights and arguments over silly things we sorta got back onto talking terms but its strained
i don't really have to go over all thats happened but needless to say she is a bit of a copy cat and likes to do what i do.. she had her little boys name picked since before she fell pregnant.. and then a couple of weeks ago i had my 20 week scan and found out I'm having a boy aswell but when i mentioned names i liked mil complained about not being able to pronounce it among other things so i stated that i was picking a few and not telling anyone until after he was born when i decided his name..
coincidentally after i announce I'm not telling anyone sil (who was 37 weeks at the time) decided she didn't like the name she had picked anymore and was going to change her sons name too and keep her choices a secret until birth aswell, although she had spent most of the pregnancy referring to him by his name, and had things made with that name embroidered onto them.. it made me upset that she changed this late with no proper reason except i felt like it... grr
but now that I'm having a water birth i have to go to the same hospital she will be going to as my one doesn't offer the service which makes me wonder if i tell her and the family that I'm going to be going to the same hospital be having the water birth before she has him (she is due in 13 days), that she will want to do the same..
i know its selfish of me to want to keep this a secret until after she has had him but its something i would like to do by myself and not be copied IYKWIM..
i mean if i do tell now i doubt they could organise it for her as its so close to her due date and she really thinks she will go early (personally my guess is that she will go 6 days over but I'm not really good at that stuff ) but i don't think id want to risk it..
what would you do in this situation. share or keep the secret a bit longer?
sil arent the best of friends anymore, after a few fights and arguments over silly things we sorta got back onto talking terms but its strained
i don't really have to go over all thats happened but needless to say she is a bit of a copy cat and likes to do what i do.. she had her little boys name picked since before she fell pregnant.. and then a couple of weeks ago i had my 20 week scan and found out I'm having a boy aswell but when i mentioned names i liked mil complained about not being able to pronounce it among other things so i stated that i was picking a few and not telling anyone until after he was born when i decided his name..
coincidentally after i announce I'm not telling anyone sil (who was 37 weeks at the time) decided she didn't like the name she had picked anymore and was going to change her sons name too and keep her choices a secret until birth aswell, although she had spent most of the pregnancy referring to him by his name, and had things made with that name embroidered onto them.. it made me upset that she changed this late with no proper reason except i felt like it... grr
but now that I'm having a water birth i have to go to the same hospital she will be going to as my one doesn't offer the service which makes me wonder if i tell her and the family that I'm going to be going to the same hospital be having the water birth before she has him (she is due in 13 days), that she will want to do the same..
i know its selfish of me to want to keep this a secret until after she has had him but its something i would like to do by myself and not be copied IYKWIM..
i mean if i do tell now i doubt they could organise it for her as its so close to her due date and she really thinks she will go early (personally my guess is that she will go 6 days over but I'm not really good at that stuff ) but i don't think id want to risk it..
what would you do in this situation. share or keep the secret a bit longer?