it takes 3 days to recover from giving birth!!

[ukgirl23]

my OH was complaining at me tonight because I had a nap today... I had my baby 11 days ago.. he said that Im tired all the time and he cant nap because Im napping so I said that I just had a baby and Im still recovering to which he replied.. you had a baby 11 days ago!!! it takes 3 days to recover!!! omg Im so shocked and angry right now... to top it all off I was induced early with my lo due to pre eclampsia and my bp still hasnt settled diwn.. in under gp care for it and since birth Ive developed an eptopic heartbeat!! Im so abgry my hands are going all tingly... I feel like he doesn't care about me.. when I was in hard labour I asked him to get the midwife for me.. he told me to pull myself together and walk to the nurses station for some paracetamol! The other day I was in pain and bleeding from carrying the buggy upstairs and he told me to stop acting like such a victim.. I dont know what to do ... Ive tried talking to him but he doesn't really get it.. Im starting to loose a lot of love for him because I feel like he doesn't care about me he just wants everything to be okay for his self so he doesnt have to do the work

sorry for the vent xx

 

[AC1987]

I would punch him right in the face jk... but thats just me LOL!! especially after giving birth I was so hormonal I probably really would have. I remember being so ANGRY at my dh over EVERYTHING for the first two months.
I remember when my DH told me that I really didn't need my mom helping me out that I was just lazy.
Or now he'll randomly tell me "Oh labour wasn't that bad, you were just being dramatic" I think guys need to have kidney stones to appreciate their wives

Prehaps talk to your doctor alone, and tell them to explain to your OH what your body goes through giving birth?

 

[bananaz]

Ummm what? Has he ever given birth? Is he an obstetrician or any kind of medical professional? Is he even remotely familiar with what happens to a woman's body as it houses ANOTHER HUMAN BEING for 9 months before expelling said human being through a previously very narrow orifice?

I don't know what the recovery period is for being a dumbass but I hope for your sake that he gets better soon

And now that I'm done ranting... I'm sure he's also overwhelmed, people say stupid things when they're tired, blah blah blah. Big hugs to you, those newborn days are tough even with a supportive partner!

 

[wamommy]

 

[Daisy_Delayne]

You don't have to punch him - just tell me where you live, so I can come and punch him

 

[greenbeans12]

WOW.

Your body has been through 9 intense months of growing, nurturing, and now expelling another human and he has the audacity to tell you to pull yourself together in the birthing room? And then go on to say stop acting like a victim? Annndddd then go on and say stop napping because he wants a nap????!

I am not sure how you haven't thrown him a karate chop to the throat yet.

I can't blame you for losing feelings when he is being such a jerk during what should be a beautiful experience! I'd be making sure I set his a** straight the next time he opens his mouth and spews out some more sh*t! Better yet I'd be packing his bag for the night and tossing it out the front door.

Sorry this is happening. You deserve nothing less then to be treated like royalty right now!

 

[ukgirl23]

lol thanks I feel a bit better now.. Im glad someone understands!! hes happily sleeping next to me now I wish I had kicked him to the sofa!!! I don't know why he's being this way.. he's usually really loving and supportive x

 

[lhancock90]

Tell him to force a melon out of his ass after carrying it around for 9 months. Amongst all the other joys pregnancy brings!

Or y'know, kick him whilst hes asleep.

Rest all you want. You need it.

xx

 

[roseyblossom]

Maybe you should kick him in the balls and when he can't breathe out of pain tell him to get a grip and do some work On a serious note, What is wrong with him?! honestly men will never understand what a woman has to go through!

 

[Livsmom]

He is jealous of the attention you are giving the baby!

 

[NoodleSnack]

I would punch him right in the face jk... but thats just me LOL!! especially after giving birth I was so hormonal I probably really would have. I remember being so ANGRY at my dh over EVERYTHING for the first two months.
I remember when my DH told me that I really didn't need my mom helping me out that I was just lazy.
Or now he'll randomly tell me "Oh labour wasn't that bad, you were just being dramatic" I think guys need to have kidney stones to appreciate their wives

Prehaps talk to your doctor alone, and tell them to explain to your OH what your body goes through giving birth?

Too soft. Try kicking him in the nuts, until it's black and blue and then dare him to not complain.

 

[DittyByrd]

I don't know what the recovery period is for being a dumbass but I hope for your sake that he gets better soon

Bahahahahahaha!!!! ^^^WSS!!!!!

Who are these asshat husbands who say these things? I cannot even imagine my DH saying something like that. I walked on water after giving birth to LO.

Perhaps it's a combination of his lack of knowledge, feeling left out, jealousy, your hormones???

 

[jd83]

Wow. What a jerk! I'm pretty sure I would have punched him in the face if it were me 11 days post delivery, lol. I think you need to have a serious hormonal outburst on him. I know I would.

 

[lemongrass]

That is not okay!!! Do you have anyone you can call for help because clearly your husband is incapable of supporting you in the way that you should be. What an asshat.

 

[beautifulpack]

OMG your post really pissed me off!!!!!

 

[izzlesnizzle]

I was reading that and saying what???? to myself. That's very bizarre for someone to behave like that. I don't really get why he would have this attitude towards you when you have given him the most amazing gift that anyone could give to someone and went through all of that to give him that gift.

He should be thanking you and telling you how amazing you were and doing everything to help you and support you and make sure you recover well by letting you sleep and get rest. That's his job as your OH!

 

[Scottish mum]

What!!! Did he not witness the birth!! Took me months!! bugger him kick him in the balls then twist them around for a bit and see how long it takes to recover!!!!

 

[Bex1408]

Totally agree with all the reply posts! He wants a nap??? I swear my husband would have a very long nap after all those comments due to me knocking him out! He needs to get over himself! U have just given birth, that's bad enough and with u having hbp and everything else on top of that he should be waiting on you hand and foot!! Xxx

 

[cat lover]

holy fuck. i would be filing for divorce

 

[sewing_mama]

It took me at least 5 weeks to feel ok! Even longer maybe. I am sure he's exhausted too but he needs to help you more & appreciate what you've been through to have his child.