It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

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I really need a rant.

Meant to have my first midwife appointment today- took time off work, got there and she said the doctor never referred me to the hospital so as far as they are concerned, although I was on their list to be seen today they can't do the official bits and bobs.- proper made me feel like it was my fault.

Also, she said based on my last period, I am actually 11 weeks (doesn't matter what the early scan said) but she said the timings are getting too tight to have the tests for downs etc cos they can't fit me in for a few weeks.

I mentioned my lack of symptoms the last 4/5 days now and she just said I can't reassure you and we can't scan you everyday- great thanks!

So left feeling really sh@t and wondering what's the point in all this when it feels like this bean has passed away anyway.

I'm sorry, I'm off my anti depressants and feeling really low.
 
Oh Jane hugs to you. Sounds like you've had an awful day. That woman sounds so rude! It makes you wonder why they work there! Oh hun I know it feels like the beans gone, I still feel like that now but I'm sure its there and healthy. Remember your chance of mc if hb is seen at 7 weeks is 1 in 50. You have such a good chance that everything is fine. A couple of weeks after my private scan I felt the same as you. You should have got reassurance and time today. And an apology! It's not on that you miss out on the downs screening because of their mistake. If I were you I would kick up a fuss and complain- I bet then you would get the nt scan as you rightly should. Its so bad how they've been today, please please complain!

Are there any antidepressants you cab take which are safe in pregnancy?
 
Sorry Jane, I know I had days like I was sure I wasn't pregnant in the earlier weeks too. I would call back and demand an NT scan since the scheduling mishap was not on your end. Or maybe your doctor can call back. Hopefully they will get you in and you will feel better. I'm sure your sticky bean is just fine, you haven't had any AF type cramps that repeat, and no spotting. I am sure being off antidepressants is hard on you as well. I feel down a lot and I am not normally like this.

Hugs to you, I am sure everything is fine and I hope that soon you get something going that makes you feel the same way.
 
Thanks bobster and I'm sorry for bringing the mood down, especially when you have your own pregnancy to worry about.

Today (a bit calmer) I sent a complaint email to the practice manager.

We also booked a private scan for Saturday afternoon for some reassurance. Tomorrow will be a whole week with no symptoms what so ever. Part of me doesn't want to jump through hoops to get the correct midwife care if infact the bean has already gone so I just need a bit of peace of mind.

How are you doing? Is your sickness feeling better? Still on the cola lollies?
 
Thanks mackjess too- didn't see you had also replied. Hard to do this on my phone.x
 
That nurse sounds like a jerk, sorry Jane. Hope your private scan goes well and that you feel better about everything soon.
 
Jane when have you booked your private scan for? Its such a shame you have to do that because of the cowbag you dealt with. I think its worth it though for some peace of mind. I wonder if you're just going to be one of the lucky ones who don't have symptoms for very long. Just think some women don't ever have symptoms. Have you had anymore bleeding or any cramping?

I have been worrying too the last few days. Had a bad feeling and have been having mild af type cramps the last few days, then tried the doppler last night and couldn't hear anything but my heartbeat. BUT, heard it tonight thank god. I think in a week or 2 if you get a doppler it will really help Jane. You don't hear it all the time but when you do it really helps ease the anxiety.

How are you doing mlm?

Mack i'm so glad your scan went well. Crazy how you will have Finn so soon!
 
Mlm i'm thinking this might be your lucky month. I got my bfp on my 7th month after mc and the first bfp after 7 months ttc too so I think that's a lucky time. When do you go see your doctor or have you already been?
 
Bobster is totally right Jane. I really didn't have problems with pregnancy symptoms at all my first trimester. I seemed to catch every cold/flu that ever existed to man, and problems with sinuses because my immune system crapped out on me, but as far as prego symptoms, they were few and far between. I'm glad your scan is coming up fast and I'm sure you will feel MUCH better after.
 
I'm doing ok. My appointment is next week- not sure if they will do/say anything but I have to go anyway for my annual exam so I will definitely ask. I didn't realize it took you 7 months Bobster, that actually makes me feel a bit better. I hope you're right that it will be my month, I'm very jealous of all you preggos!
 
GL MLM. They should be able to do the 21 day bloods and confirm you are ovulating and maybe give some more advice to help out. Keep us posted.
 
Yes it felt like longer than 7 months though. I think 7's a lucky number and you will have your bfp real soon mlm. I would christan every single room in your new house starting when you get ewcm onwards. Jump hubby at every opportunity and enjoy it ;) sexy new lingerie helps to make you more into it sometimes too I find. my other half said I 'honey trapped' him as I never want sex anymore and he's right mwahahaha lol!
 
Come to think of it, it was 6/7 months since my mc that I got this BFP too! I really think yours is around the corner Mlm.

How are you feeling today bobster- still some af type cramps? Do you have a midwife appointment soon? I'm not sure what is normal in the 2nd tri. At least you have the Doppler for that peace of mind. Please could you post the amazon link to the one you have? If Saturday's scan is successful then I will get one.

So the midwife rung and she will do my formal booking-in appointment on bank holiday Monday- will see me before she goes on call at the hospital so that's great since both DH and I will be off work. Can't get the bloods done that day since phlebotomy will be shut for the bank hol but at least it's a step forward so def feeling happier about things.

No bleeding or cramping but a bit of nausea is back so that's a relief. I know I shouldn't moan about the lack of symptoms but it's the only way to know isn't it! My mum thinks I'm having a boy as apparently for most women they give you an easier time.

Bobster, do you think your having a boy or girl?

Has all your sinus infections cleared up now mackjess- you def seemed to always have a cold- Finn will have a great start on his antibodies to those colds!

Thanks for all your support as always ladies. :hugs:
 
Glad your sickness is back (in a good way), although I can't stress enough how much it went on and off for me in the early days too.. It is so worrying but as long as you don't have any bleeding the odds are sooo in your favour.

What time is your scan on Saturday? Will look out for your update (and pic please lol). I got a cheapie doppler which is basic but it does say to use it a bit later. Found the heartbeat at just over 10 weeks. The link is https://www.amazon.co.uk/Angelsound...367515655&sr=8-1&keywords=angelsounds+doppler however depending on your price range I would have gone for the sonoline B one from https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sonoline-P...TF8&qid=1367515938&sr=1-1&keywords=sonoline+b

I only got mine because I inititally borrowed it from a friend but then broke hers so had to order a replacement!

I'm ok, still feeling sickly but think i'm coming down with something. Mild cramps on/off, sore throat and runny nose. Feeling crap to be honest. I think i'm having a boy too. I think it looks like a boy on the scan picture. It would be funny if we all had boys.
 
Will you find out at your 20 week scan bobster? How exciting.

Jane, glad you are feeling better about feeling worse today. Funny how that works. I think I'm finally over the colds and flus and sinus stuff. My allergies have kicked in so I'm more congested, but it doesn't seem to be running me down and turning into anything like it was before. I'm just TIRRREEDD now that I'm in the 3rd trimester, and I feel huge. My countdown to meet Finn is ON!

Here's a bump pic, something for you ladies to look forward to getting to. Lots of bigger shirts and bras :)
 

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And I want some bump photos from you ladies as well!! I think they are so cute.
 
hi there sorry for your loss...i had miscarraige on february 14, then found out i was pregnant again march 18, i had another miscarraig and had to have d&c at nearly 10 weeks, i was left with infection and tissue and had another d&c 4 days after the first one, has this ever happened anyone else and haev you gotten pregnant again. sorry to everyone who has had miscarraige it's so hard, but reading posts it will happen for sure:) xxxxx
 
Thanks MLM. I feel massive myself, but I always think it's adorable when I see other preggers bumps. Not long ago I was in the OBs office waiting room after my miscarriage for a follow up to see if everything was OK, and just wanting to crawl behind a chair and bawl because of all the beautiful bumps in the waiting room with me. Something about it made me feel like I'd never get there, but I am happy to be wrong about it. Everyone on this thread is going to get there. I know it probably feels like forever that you've been TTC, but I think like Bobster and Jane, your turn is coming up. :hug:

Pijy - Sorry for all you've been thru hun. I haven't had a D&C myself so I don't think I'll be much help. Did they do a scan after to see how things looked?
 
Fantastic bump! I have bump envy. It's lovely to see. Gives hope as you're right I almost don't believe I will get that far. I will share a tiny bump pic soon.
 
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